33. have not had gf in 8 years or sex SUPER psychological gravity, but its cool

I guess its cool. Its kind of depressing when I get into a dark space. But yeah, haven’t had sex in eight years and I am 33. I limit myself. I am in college studying African and Caribbean anthropology but am not in grad school. I limit myself because I only really pursue black and Indian women from places like Guyana, Trinidad, Jamaica, Mali, Nigeria, Haiti, Senegal, Ghana sierra leone, Bangladesh or India or sri lanka. Sometimes it is romantic, sometimes it is carnal, sometimes it is intellectual, sometimes it is a matter of being a great white conqueror of dark skin, who has conquered nothing in eight years. LOL

Just wanted to be cheered up because according to mainstream culture, women in their twenties are the hottest and most desirable, and everyone in that age bracket is supposed to be banging everyone’s brains out or getting married or making major life moves.

Well I did none of these things. Fact is I developed a mental illness or became aware of a mental illness that I already had by smoking pot with a bunch of black kids from around the world, about 12 years ago. Mental illness can be dealt with (medication lowers hallucinations and paranoid thinking) I either sold my soul to the devil to play African drums and calypso music or I did not.

So the thing is I was looking at the newbie advice and getting back into doing helicopter stretching and jelqing today, just wanted a heads up on how I should look at my life, my sex life, my slow advancement in college (I have been in and out of school since I was 18, never got the bachelors degree and now want to be an anthropologist of Haiti. Do I still have time for this? Is there still time for beautiful Afro Caribbean girls? Lol)

Girls like me well enough, although I am obese I’m about to start practicing judo, tai chi, and wing chun. To lose weight and develop coordination and some useful muscular skills. Used to practice shotokan karate, but now I’m weak as hell and have no stamina. I met a Haitian girl on a website who kept on babbling about eating fish and eating a lil beef, and I was like. Fuck this shit dude, its time to hit up thunders place. I have to metaphysically attack the root of all my problems.

What should I be doing and thinking about? How should I frame my existence. What threads should I look at to start working on the zozo again. What will work. I am enormously busy with reading. I don’t have an hour a day to devote to my penis. If I was more bitchy I would say “oh god I’m so devastated I havnt made love in nine years haha.” but whatever life is unfair. Studying Haiti and African and Caribbean literature and history has taught me that much. It has also taught me other things. Well

Ah gone

Well to be fair, if I didn’t have to pay for sex (i;e I’m unattractive, bald and women ignore me) then it would be 4 years since I last had sex, maybe more.

We cannot tell you how to frame your life. But I personally think that looking at sex like a check mark and limiting your options so very severely is going to be your largest downfall.

If naturally pursuing sex doesn’t make you happy then pursuing it more to fulfill a need won’t either. Bettering your body and mind is a good place to start. But if you literally have to have women from the places you have named…I’d recommend learning the language and moving to one of those places.

As far as schooling? You finish it on your terms. I didn’t. Many haven’t. If you want to and truly desire it, you will regardless of what any of us tell you. Create a reality where you have a degree in what you seek and then live in that reality.

OK well what would be a good thing to start doing? I do helicopter stretches, JAI stretches, and regular stretches. I do the you grip (live long and prosper) jelq with my right hand only, from different angles and different levels of erection. Same goes for the ok grip jelq but this one I can do with both hands. I’m fairly disgruntled thinking about wangs bigger than mine bringing out the black woman’s true BAUBO nature.

Fixing the obesity should be priority 1.

Thanks for the reply.. It is. For now I’m doing 15 push ups a day, 200 jumping jacks, will start doing kettle bell swings.. And then whatever karate I can remember, will start judo and ving tsun soon

Do the exercises you are most comfortable doing. Fact is, I can’t tell you what you’ll react best to. I’m not psychic. However, the Newbie Routine features stretching and jelqs. So, giving those a try and finding out what you prefer will be key here.

Like MadVillain said, obesity is a bigger issue than the size of your penis. Your life span and your perceived size are tied to your weight. Deal with those in a more prioritized way and your penis will look bigger and you’ll be more motivated to do PE.

My mind is scrambled reading your post…

#1) Try to solve the obesity problem. The typical American’s obesity problem, and our countries epidemic, stems from Portion size, heavy focus on simple carb foods, SODA & other sugars, and lack of exercise. Decrease your portion size, focus more on meat and vegetables instead of pasta potatoes corn, and rice; eliminate or severely limit the amount of soda and candy you take in, and get yourself 30minutes of cardio a day at a pace enough to make you break a steady sweat and breathe deeper.

#2) Why are you focusing on only these countries? Asians are fun too, as are white women and every other ethnicity. If you haven’t had sex in 8 years a trip to Angeles City, where I live :) or to Pattaya would be the next thing on my list to help clear up depression.

#3) If you can’t devote and hour a day to your penis you probably won’t get much results, and the lack of time comes down to priorities and where you place it on that list. Losing weight alone will increase your penis size drastically if you are obese.

I hope the best for you.

Cheers

Ok I sort of thought less was more, and I could do maybe 45 to an hour every other day. I looked at the thread “newbie routine” and couldn’t actually find the actual routine. Where is it?

I’m really depressed about the lack of romance in my life and agree that white and asian (and central south American natives or mestizos or mulatas or africanos would be fun too). I just have an ego trip when it comes to west indians and Haitians, I have to get one or else I will have failed as a virile vigorous sexually desirable man (just kidding but not really).

Plus Mali and Nigeria has one of the most fascinating cultures on the planet, I study their history and literature, the poets, the biafra war, hope to learn french soon and read some African or francophone lit in french. I’m average intelligence. First major in school from 18-24 or so was, art.. So I drew and sculpted a lot, this has lead to no fruits in my life. I have turned my back on art forever(except for cooking, I know all about the cuisines from my country of Austria as well as Africa the mid east and the caribbean), deciding to pursue intellectualism, marx, jung, and nietzchse, (and critics like edinger, sidney hook, george lucaks, alexandre kojeve, herbert marcuse etc) african and caribbean lit, and post colonial critical theory (walter rodney, frantz fanon, maurice bishop, patrice lumumba, thomas sankara, sylvia wynter, eqbal ahemd, amilcar cabral to name a few)

But this penis and lack of sex really, REALLY caused me to be depressed (thinking to myself gee, so thats why all these Trinidad and Jamaican girls completely ignored me, although there may have been other factors, I started imagining how all my sweeties must have acted when confronted with their lovers manhood, and it made me so sad and angry) and lose a lot of valuable time in my twenties. I don’t know if its feasible or possible to “Still do it” and be the type of intellectual warrior of light that I dream of. Necessity is a cruel master, so I may actually end up with a POS job somewhere and never travel to Trinidad or Guyana, but I will stop being so negative. Anthropology, religious studies, literature studies, you gotta be good and the options are limited, I’m not that good, and I’m woefully behind, and sexual frustration definitely DEFINITELY contributed. As far as language goes, will soon be learning french. Hoping for Haitian creole, bambara (Mali) or Yoruba (big group in Nigeria) in the relatively near future. Depends upon what colleges or programs accept me after graduation from undergrad studies.

START HERE ——-> NEWBIE ROUTINE <——- Important Newbie Info

The second paragraph in the first post on this page has a “Newbie Routine” hyperlink in blue.

Wonderful!

Yeah all the reading leads to nothing if not put into matters. Intellectualism can lead to a lack of grounding..(where intercourse​ is tending to hover around)

How do you quote??

"You gotta be good and the options are limited, I’m not that good, and I’m woefully behind”

This thinking is your problem. I use to think this way when I was in college. Everyone else was so much smarter / better than me. One day, my Math professor off-handedly told me that I’d probably be bored wherever I worked, as it was highly likely I’d always be working with people MUCH less intelligent than I was. Blew me away. I’d never thought about myself that way, but here was someone that I admired a bit and thought was a smart, intelligent person telling me this, but not in a way that felt like an empty compliment, but rather in an advisory ‘think about your career or you’re gonna not like it’ kinda way.

Not everyone has this happen to them. I got lucky. You need to reassess your strengths and weaknesses more realistically. It can be difficult. Another quote I like:

".And then I realized.. There are no ‘smart guys’.there’s just us.”

A famous software architect, realizing that when it comes down to it, we’re all actually at about the same level. Are there geniuses out there? Sure, but they’re rare. 99% of the time, everyone is relying on YOU and you’re the only resource they have, so just do your best! If you’re doing something you’re really interested / passionate about, probably you have a leg up on most other people. Sorry, I’m not a good motivational speaker, but maybe this will help a little.

I am staying in school, doing push ups and kettle bell swings, looking into getting a medicine ball. As soon as I get moped I will go to judo and kung fu classes, that I know are legit. I am eating lots of banana, papaya, blackberries, kiwis, apples and I make smoothies with the fruit plus hemp or chia seeds. Also eating eggplant, don’t know much about its properties, spinach, cabbage, no more milk or cheese except every now and then. Been doing super athletic west African (guinea, Mali) dances soon with a certain black community of dancers and drummers and balafon players.. I twisted my ankle trying to do a twirling aerial double kick. LOTs of fine black women there, not gonna pursue, just stay friendly. They look wonderful in their colorful African skirts and print wraps. I still haven’t started a PE regime. Let us just say that I am a tad over 6 inches, and about 5 inches in girth, goal is 7 or whatever I can get by 6 or 5.5. Thank you for the advice, I am reading lots of heavy heavy books about psychoanalysis, german philosohpy, african spanish and caribbean poetry (read it aloud to gain vocal skills) and crazy african and caribbean literature. ITs pretty fun.