How about being yourself…and putting yourself into the interaction without worrying if you’re the kind of man she wants. That’s what badboys and jerks do. A jerk will go to her and be like “I’m broke, ugly and fat… and not appologising for it”. How about being that 1 in 1000 guy who doesn’t need to impress her but he’s just curious about her…to see if he’s the kind of girl he wants? How about not putting women on a pedestal and not qualifying to her. How about not trying to give her a good life as a provider? How about living your life for yourself and your purpose…and she being just a part of your life, that you adore but you don’t live to please a woman. Did the great men in history lived to please women?
Men who had great success with women …all of them… had some adventure in life, something that wasn’t her. Picasso was a painter. Painting was more important to him than women. Sinatra was a musician. Casanova was many things. Voltaire was a philosopher.
“Women want to be part of something bigger than them.”
A friend of mine told me once… “Women want men who don’t care what women want.”… His girlfriend told him “Trying to be attractive is unattractive, not caring is.” This actually frees you…frees you of trying to please women like a nice puppy, frees you of what people think, cause you have integrity and know what you would and wouldn’t do… frees you of following sexual rules… and actually unleashes the wild masculine and purposeful man from your inside. No more “how can I make women like me.” Now it’s “what kind of woman do I want to have in my life?”
Confidence is actually the lack of insecurity.When you like yourself, and fully accept yourself, and know who you are, you are confident. You know what you would and wouldn’t do.
How many times have you heard of the proverbial high status guy that his wife cheats on? He’s the nice guy with money. Everything in his life revolves around being good enough for women. He has a job he hates but hey…he has to be good enough for the woman. He’s like “how can I keep her?”
Meanwhile my neighbor is unemployed, his wife is mega hot and actually supporting HIM financially. He’s following his passion, music, and although he doesn’t get paid well yet, he’s doing what he wants. He never seeks her approval and always does what he wants and considers ok.
being nice to women is not the same thing as being a wo
I believe you’re right MM, women ARE different. Some will seek a deep connection, others don’t wanna work and will find some dude to support them in exchange for sex… others will just want a good looking guy to show off. Some women are smart, some women are dumb as fuck.(no offense, but especially in America. I’ve seen some interviews and I felt ashamed for some club girls. “What’s world trade center?”)
About showing off, hey… some women are validated and independent enough to not care what her friends think. I know good looking girls with average looking guys…and they are really into him.
badboys are out of the social matrix. they just go after what they want. that’s my goal. Chasing women and trying to be good enough for them and trying to make them like me like I’m a piece of shit and they’re queens of the world is neither productive nor fun. Nor is getting a hot girl to get validation from the other guys. You gotta self validate yourself, and actually have the kind of people around that support your lifestyle and are fun to hang out with. Why waste time with some boring arrogant girl just because she’s socially hot? This is how I want my like to look like.