Can't keep my glans fully engorged

Hi y’all!

I’ve always had that “problem”: if I don’t push the very base of my shaft with my thumb, my glans won’t be fully engorged. That’s a bit frustrating because when it is fully engorged, I have a mushroom head (I like it visually) and it’s way more sensitive. The difference in length is something like 0.2”. I don’t know about girth but there’s a big difference. Same problem when I have sex: the glans is not full. I’ve never had ED or whatever, and I’m still in my twenties.

That’s not a big deal but I’d like to know if there’s some way to fix it.

Thanks!

I’ve heard of people having surgery for this and found this link using Google. This guy apparently had a leaky vein caused by doing PE and had it fixed.

https://www.peg ym.com/forums/e … ed-surgery.html

Dude just get into pumping, or at least get a cock ring, I def noticed permanent engorgement in my head, every morning wood without even trying , just a little kegel now and the heads nice n plump lol

That soft glans issue seems to be “common”. From what I’ve read, it could be many things including venous leak. Lucky for me, I’ve never had real issues because of it (like penetration issue). I think it’s because my glans engorges a little bit, just not to the point of being full. I’ve no issue maintaining an erection neither. It’s just frustrating not seeing it as engorged as it could be.

Of course, the problem is solved when I wear a cockring, but that’s not permanent. Pumping seems to help some guys. Surgery, I don’t even want to hear about it for the moment, but thanks for the info MDC.

I don’t really know what to do about it, I hope PE doesn’t make it worse. But after 3 months, it doesn’t seem to be the case.

Yungstud, you just started pumping, kegelling, and the issue disappeared permanently?

When guys get into PE they notice far more about their penis than they ever did before. The ‘glans firmness’ issue is a classic example. It’s a bit like people forget what their body was like before they started using the gym, or they forget how slow their own car is when they have been driving a sports car for a few days. The ‘thinking sensitivity has reduced’ is another quite common one.

It is perfectly normal not to have a ‘full glans’ during intercourse of masturbation until very close to ejaculation - a firm glans only occurs when an erection is absolutely at its hardest - the CS is not a ‘high pressure’ chamber in the way of the CCs (that’s why the chamber on the underside of your penis is not as firm as the ones to the sides) and the glans is part of the CS.
As the glans becomes full, it becomes more sensitive; that’s one of the physical reasons teenage etc. guys have more problems with premature ejaculation or cum very quickly from masturbation - because they have very hard erections with a hyper sensitive firm glans.
It’s also one of the reasons why orgasms rapidly build in intensity once you get close.

If your glans doesn’t ever firm up when you are about to ejaculate, then there is a possibility that you have a problem. Otherwise it is totally normal.

Hi firegoat, thanks for your remarks.

That was exactly my thought: I noticed that “issue” only because I started paying a lot more attention to my penis the last three months. I’ve seen that thread about soft glans in the poll section, and it seems that the majority don’t see their glans fully engorged neither.

Excellent points firegoat! I definitely do not have a “full glans” unless I’m wearing a cock ring or during jelqing. When wearing a cock ring, my glans is much more sensitive to touch and it does remind me of the sensations I experienced as a teen.

A few things that have helped to some limited extent for me:

1. Do Firegoat Rolls! Emphasize the healing side of your training.
2. DMSO! If, like me, you had a localized damage on your spongiosum, dmso can help to break up scar tissue and aid in healing. But LOOK UP how to use it safely. You MUST have clean skin wherever it contacts your body because it can carry substances through the skin.
3. But MOST IMPORTANTLY, are you doing lots of kegels? If so, STOP! Look up the REVERSE Kegel and get with the program. I think 90% of guys in PE who are experiencing ED are having that trouble because they overdo the PC muscle exercises. Try relaxing your PC muscle next time you have an erection and I bet you will notice at least some improvement in glans strength. In fact, try avoiding Kegeling at all for your next erection and just doing the reverse. Just as an experiment. When I figured that out it was a huge change.

Hi Golddinger!
I do the firegoat rolls when I remind to, but I definitely should do it after every routine. I can feel it helps a lot to recover faster. I’m not doing that much kegels, but I noticed that relaxing PC muscle and doing reverse kegels makes me last way longer. I could easily edge for hours without approaching the PONR like that. I find it way more difficult to do while having sex though.
Anyway, I wanted to measure the difference between completely flaccid glans and erected glans without pushing the base of my shaft. Completely flaccid glans: 3cm length, 3cm width. “Erected” glans (not pushing the base): 4cm length, 4cm width. Rock hard glans (pushing the base): 5cm length, 4,5cm width.
Reading about soft glans issues, putting things in perspective, and looking at those numbers make me think that I don’t have any problem at all.

A question though: Why would Kegeling cause ED? Isn’t it precisely meant to increase EQ, among other things?

I don’t have time to point to dig up specific articles or anecdotes this very second, but if you read around a bit you can find reference to pelvic floor muscle imbalance, to the pelvic floor muscle complex as being two equally important but opposite muscles that each require strengthening. Most people only do the kegel squeeze, almost nobody does the pelvic forced relaxation or the pelvic push, and overtraining the squeeze can actually restrict bloodflow to the whole region, and may actually create a condition of ongoing tension.

Actually, here you go, you can google “Why Kegels are Bad for your Tight Pelvic Floor,” or “Overactive PC Muscles. Fixing pelvic floor imbalance”

On Thunders there’s a there’s a lot about the “reverse kegel”. That’s the exercise you should do at least as much as kegeling if not moreso.

If you look up the anatomy of the PC muscle, you can sorta see how an overtrained PC muscle can naturally cause a restriction of the urethra et all.

Hi Golddinger, thank you very much for the info. That makes a lot of sense to me. I’ve always felt my PC was permanently contracted (which is normal; if it was permanently relaxed we would be incontinent). But I think I’ve always had a naturally strong —or tense— PC: kegeling hard for at least 1 minute has never been a problem for me. That doesn’t prove pelvic floor imbalance is the root of my “issue”, but at least I’ll try to do 60 reverse kegels for 40 kegels for a few weeks and see if I notice any change.

Changing the ejaculation schedule and doing plenty of edging could be an alternative. Short abstinence periods along with edging should push your hardness to its limit.

Please, let me know what your experience is! I have an intuitive faith in the reverse-kegel and this whole paradigm, but I’d like to hear more about if this theory works for other people as it has for me.

I’ll let you know, but I’ll start at the beginning of November. What do you think of a daily 60 reverse kegels-40 kegels program?

Sounds good to me, but you might even consider some pelvic floor stretches, as in full body yoga stretches.