Feeling pretty down

It has been over 1 year and I have yet to make my gf orgasm from sex like I do from going down on her. She does get mini orgasms but she doesn’t flip around on the bed like she does when I go down on her. It rips me apart. I am about average (5.5 BPEL and about 5.5 around… I did the toilet roll test and I wouldn’t fit). It’s so hard for me to simply believe that she just doesn’t get off from sex like she does from me going down on her. I want a big dick. I want a 8x6 penis so I stop having these thoughts. I want a girl to look at my member and be like “I love it”. I am simply not getting this from my gf and bringing it up would only put her in a weird position. No girl likes a guy who questions his sexual prowess. I am just feeling really down especially after I heard my friend who apparently is big shattered reality for this one girl he was with. I am so fucking angry/sad.

Dude, you can rock her world with your tongue! Wow! You have one of the major sex skills in your armoury.

As for making a girl come like a volcano with your cock, well, there’s plenty of things to do other than have a big cock. But hey, you know you aren’t small and in fact have a very, very good girth… enough to make any girl really be filled. And as for your friend, great for him, he’s probably not much bigger than you, and besides, now you have PE, you can be swinging something huge too. But even if you don’t, try and get it into your head that your girl is having a lot of fun, and that means you are a good lover.

As for feeling angry/ sad… snap out of it Spartan! You have a lot more positives than a lot of people, and in this case, PE is a positive step to getting to the end result if that is what you truly want. Use these feelings positively as motivation. Good luck. :)

That test sucks as some are 5.0 in to 5.5in

Thanks guys! I am trying to keep positive. I just feel like one day doesn’t go by where I don’t think about how I would like a bigger dick. I have to focus my efforts off of worrying and more to doing something about it. I felt the same way as a short fat kid… now I am a muscly powerlifter :) . I just need to get it all out of me before I burn rubber.

Fat_cock I remembered measuring this roll and it was about 5.5.

Most women don’t orgasm from vaginal sex without direct clitoral stimulation with any regularity, and many never do, regardless of penis size.

You have pretty good girth to start with. 5.5” is great thickness. You are not that small at all.. perhaps spice up a little.. change it up in your sex routine. It is very normal that people get tired of the same things.. love, cars, food, career… and sex!

Perhaps take her out.. and have sex with her in public (semi-public).. in a park or something.. let the spur of moment excites your sex.

Some girls just do not cum at all from sex or cum rarely even with a thick penis. Like the others have said, you have very good girth. It may be possible that she is just one of those girls. Also, many women enjoy sex immensely even if they don’t orgasm. Keep positive and try some new things. Experiment!

I agree with Redbear and quickbeam. I think the exception is a woman who cums from penetration alone. Most women I’ve been with require clit stimulation of some kind, whether that be with your finger during sex or by using positions where you bodies stimulate her clit. It’s an amazing feeling when a girl has a huge orgasm on your dick, but the fact that your gf doesn’t do this is probably because of her, not because of you…

She has never been with a huge guy so I dont really know :s

Is 5.5 your starting girth? If so, you can easily reach 6 and above try increasing your girth and see what happens!

My man, I have some advice for you. My ex girlfriend wouldn’t come while having sex unless I would do it so slow, I had to literally do it super slow and not go deep, she comes within minutes, so maybe that’s what she needs, talk to her ear while you do it, be sweet, I’m telling you man, she will cum!

Good luck man.

Her not having an orgasm during sex does not necessarily reflect on you. Many - if not most - women have to learn to have an orgasm during sex. I know one couple where it took ten years for her to come during sex. One of my ex’s could only come during sex if she was on top and was able to grind her clit on my pubic bone with me inside. I was glad she could come, but sometimes she practically rubbed me raw!

The fact that you can give her an orgasm during oral should make you feel very happy. Some women can’t come this way at all, and some guys lack the talent to bring her to orgasm that way. You should be proud that you’re even willing go down on her - I’ve known guys who were very vocal about “hair pie” (their term) being disgusting.

I just remeasured… I am 6 inches BPEL and 5 inches in girth. Id say I am pretty average. My short term goal is 7 inches length and 5.3 inches girth.

This has to do more with the woman’s anatomy that your anatomy.

Not all women are built to have vaginal orgasms.

Just like Redbear, Quickbeam and scienceguy106 said.

The lucky anatomy of vaginal orgasms.

Fire in the Hole
The lucky anatomy of vaginal orgasms.
By William Saletan
Updated Thursday, Feb. 21, 2008, at 7:51 AM ET

A small study indicates that ultrasound can show whether you have a "G spot" and are capable of vaginal orgasms. <study is linked at the article>

Key finding: "Women with a thicker urethrovaginal space were more likely to experience vaginal orgasm." (Definition: "an orgasm triggered by stimulation of the front vaginal wall without any simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris.")

Enthusiastic conclusions:

1) A scan can show whether you have a G spot.
2) If you don’t, you can’t have vaginal orgasms.
3) This is an anatomical fact, so don't fret that there's something you should be doing to change it.
4) In fact, it's probably genetic.
5) So don’t let the evil drug industry accuse you of sexual dysfunction.
6) However, if you do have a G spot, you might be able to make it bigger with testosterone.

Critiques:

1) The "thicker urethrovaginal space" may in fact be part of the clitoris.
2) The thickness may be a result of cultivated sensitivity, in which case every woman has the ability to produce vaginal orgasms …

Cynical view: … and the obligation.

It’s funny that you mention testosterone! hah when she went for a blood test she was told she has a little bit more testosterone than the average woman. Maybe that’s whys hes so freakin horny all the time ;) Loving it hah.