I'm slightly concerned, what should I do.

OK! Well tonight I picked my girlfriend up for her 30 minute break at work and she wanted to have sex, although I had just woken up from a nap and wasn’t necessarily in the mood or whatever. I immediately got a hard erection, but it went away soon because we had to drive about 10 minutes to the nearest park. When we got there I had to let myself have time to “get up” and then I put on a benzocaine condom, which numbs, and was probably not a good idea being that my erection was not full in the first place.

I have also been taking L-arginine, tribulus every once in a while, and enzyte just for the heck of it every once in a while. Do you think these are harming me because I didn’t take them today and I don’t want my penis to be temporarily dependent on them. I am 19 years old and should not have problems with keeping an erection, also, if I am not recieving direct stimulation of some sort while just teasing around, my erection tends to lessen. Do I need to take a break from everything?

Q: I’m slightly concerned, what should I do?

A: I would monitor the situation. If she’s booty calling you in the middle of the day, one can only hope that whatever, or whoever made her so horny doesn’t push her over the edge into full-out cheating, or an affair.

GM

I can’t imagine that you need any of that. If I were you, I would stop taking it all.

As for your weak performance today, you explained it here:

Why look further? Guys are not machines—even 19 year old guys. Your biggest mistake was to agree to have sex in the first place. Your second biggest mistake was to use a numbing condom. You need to be rock hard and horny to get any benefit from those. Otherwise, they just make you lose altitude.

I hope you’ll stop worrying, and stop taking all of those supps. Just enjoy what nature has given you.

If a man gets fucking horny during the day it’s ok. If a woman does you should worry? Insecurity,WOW. At 19 you cant keep an erection with a girlfriend, that’s something to worry about.Maybe stop playing with it till you’re ready to use it.

How do you know she wasn’t just trying to impress him? I see no evidence of any threat to the relationship from the outside.

Or stop using it until YOU feel like using it. HE DIDN’T WANT TO HAVE SEX !!! Isn’t that the beginning and the end of it?

I also think that you do not need any, your body is accustomed to it’s products and reacted perhaps less better. You can decrease the amounts or the number of product or even stop.

In more that you expensive cost owes. (Sorry my English is not very good)

Hey tallguy, I’d have to agree with ModestoMan.. It was just your mindset from the beginning, you just woke up and weren’t really in the mood. It has happened to me a a few times to me with my girlfriend (I am 19 too, with the exception of the Enzyte).. We will have sex and then go to bed, I’ll wake up at 6 in the morning to go take a leak and be somewhat horny still from the StaminaRX that I took earlier that night, I wake her up and get going but after a while I just loss an erection cause I’m still tired from just waking up. So I just pass back out and finish when I wake back up later on in the morning around 10ish (afternoon for some of you working men).. About his gf having an affair, I don’t think that is the case at all. Once again I agree with ModestoMan, she was probably just trying to impress him or something of the sort.

Hey tallguy, give me a pm.. I think I read somewhere about you gaining an inch in your first month, I was wondering what routine you used and if any what supplements you used during this (and if they seemed to help out at all)

Hey Bro if your having erection problems and you need to take all that stuff you just may have an overworked dick and need a break. Why don’t you take a little break maybe for a week and see if it goes back to normal because at 19 you should be a walking raging hard on.

Numbing condoms are really really dumb. I object to the whole idea of them start to finish. I would ban them if I could.

They cheat your body of sensation, while not truly helping anything.

If the motive for using them is for staying power or stopping premature ejaculation then I would urge you to consider other methods.

A good reference for gaining superior ejaculatory control is The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia (Google). It can be found in Barnes & Noble or Borders or any halfway decent bookstore or Amazon.

There are breathing methods and Kegel and reverse Kegel exercises outlined in this book which will give you what might seem to be superhuman control. I wish I’d had this book when I was 19.

It also talks about energy work - specifically cycling the energy - which may seem a little out there at first, but it is actually quite valid and … it works.

As far as being woken up and made to perform, I wouldn’t get down on myself for not being able to snap to it; being tired, being put on the spot, driving (a real spontaneity killer), a stupid condom, any or all of these things can lead to ho-hum performance. Don’t worry about it. It happens. Like the man said, you aren’t a machine.

As far as supplements go, you probably don’t need them, but you can’t really get dependent on them. With any of those things what happens is your body builds up tolerance. It’s good to take a supplement holiday every 2 months for a week or so as a general practice. Use them sparingly if at all.

Oh, and after you finish up the Enzyte box, throw it away.

If you must take a pill Twin Labs Male Fuel with Yohimbe is far better and cheaper. They don’t pull that “proprietary blend” crap: they tell you on the bottle precisely what you’re taking.

Vig-RX, Stamina-RX, Enzyte, etc. all have secret formulas. It’s crap. Do some homework on the various ingredients and read up. Buy stuff that tells you what you’re taking and how much.

I doubt you need it. Seriously. You’re 19.

Your girlfriend sounds rockin’. I like her.

Mr. Happy - would you be able to inform us a little more about this Multi-Orgasmic book, some of the concepts in it?? I’d love to go out and buy it but I’m on a college budget (Beer, food, and stuff for the girlfriend).. Also is that Twin Labs Male Fuel a daily supplement or is it a pill you take before sex? I take Stamina RX before sex and it boost everything within 20 minutes and I feel like I can go for hours, sometimes I can if my dick lets me (still finish to early sometimes).

Ha I think their was a misunderstanding of why my girl was horny saying she is having an affair and such. All she was doing was talking with her girlfriends at work about sex and what they liked, etc. That is why she was horny. Also, I don’t need the pills I know, and am going to stop taking them actually ;) . And I don’t appreciate comments like what younhard said to try and make you feel superior to me since I am younger? I don’t know your problems don’t concern me and I know I don’t have ED I was just trying to see if PE was possibly haltering my ability to achieve healthy erections at all time or whether it was under the given circumstances, I don’t need your negativity. Thanks for all the other comments guys!

I agree. I don’t think there’s any improprieties going on with the GF’s desires.
I remember those days. No wait, I long for those days.
Did anyone stop to think maybe she was just fucking horny. Bummer on the performance anxiety though.

When I was 19.. no, 17? Hell I think it might have been 15, my freaky girlfriend would get all horny at the strangest times for no rhyme or reason other than she was horny. Usually stoned too. Of course that led to use fucking anywhere and everywhere.
The middle of the sidewalk once, every park and field in town, in front of the police station, parked cars, the side of the road, public bathrooms. Basically where ever there was a dry patch of grass or something to brace yourself with. Of course her horniness may also have been the reason she ended up fucking everyone else also.

Oh wait, did I just talk in a big circle here? Maybe I should just quit while I’m ahead.
Never mind, she loves you … really.

The book is $16 new in paperback. You can probably get it cheaper at Amazon.com in their used section. As to summarizing it’s contents … It has do with re-training your body’s responses to stimulus; this is accomplished through breathing techniques, the use of Kegels and reverse Kegels, and cycling energy. It is too much to summarize in a post, and there are copyrights to consider. Thunder frowns on plagiarism as he doesn’t want to get sued and have the site shut down. Can you blame him?

Sounds like that stuff is working for you. If it ain’t broke …

Male Fuel can be taken on an as needed basis, or it can be incorporated into a daily supplement schedule. For younger people I would think three capsules 40 minutes to a half an hour before activity (depending on how much is in your stomach) would be fine and work much the same way Stamina RX would. Herbal supplements lose their effectiveness over time so, as I said, it’s good to give yourself a vacation from them from time to time if you are taking them on an ongoing basis.

tallguy your questions are good, and it’s good to ask rather than guess yourself. Over time you will learn who is going to give you the straight info. Just read a variety of opinions and do searches on subjects of interest; that way you’ll have some idea what the basis for discussion is.

PE can tire your dick out (as can too much sex), so maybe rest a bit like Dino said.

But keep up the participation. :thumbs:

Mr tall,
Here is a trial i want you to pursue and practice. But before that, i wish for you to recall if at anytime you have had a mixture of slight and distant soreness coupled with a feeling of desire smoldering in your penis. I am not a super horny person so i think this is a general thing with those who are into PE.

Also, you must understand that stay power is dependant on time. If you have not trained consistently for a time appropriate enough for your body, you will not have it. If you leave training you will loose it (i guess this is not old news). I recently took about two months off due to pains near my gland regions and sex is less firm, consistent in tempo, and controlled. (this is only natural.)

so in other words, do not worry if you think every body is just trying to tell the nicest most encouraging things they have in store or if you are young and below your expectations. No matter how high your self expectations are you can get it with PE. I understand it is inappropriate to talk sex that goes into hours here on the forum because such an act is injurious to the penis but i have in one session manage a combination of penetrative and non-penetrative sex(erect with penis passing vulva,clit and inner thighs)for over 4 hours with very little altering of erection quality. coming for being unable to manage stability long enough even for relatively short jelqing session, this is equal to reaching the sky.

The bottom line is identify your goal. wait for the time to practice it and don’t be frustrated while waiting. or just keep practicing until you will discover that your day has come. This is closer than you thing.watch out when you feel your ureter is wider (i have no scientific data to back up this probability).It is close by.

1)feel the pleasure smoldering (sometimes it should make you feel like you want to prematurely ejaculate if you dare to enter) You can feel it in on the road , in your house and at anytime. At a time it will become consistent with regular PE which is proper for your body and purpose.

2) soreness is nice so look out for it. i say this because i have not felt sore for a very long time so i see a considerable drop in performance as compered to my past peaks. i also recall while still training regularly and being sore that i tended to perform at an enhanced rate.
I will attempt to explain this to you by use an example for body building . I recall at age 20 after hours of heavy bench pressing that it took an average of 74 hours for recovery so training before 74 hours results in pain while training after 74, results in low performance. However, training on time, when the pains are gone, gives you chance of seeing how powerful you truly are.
so with weights we look for a loss of pain or the sign of full recovery while for PE and sex we look for the presence of soreness. soreness may also imply that you are in form and toned. However, soreness that was gotten from a workout an hour ago results in poor performance due fatigue. FIND OUT YOUR PEAK TIME(with an understanding girlfriend). ITS YOUR JOB.

I wish to also point out a hidden fact you need to really know. I guess you must have read from many post of members how some are of the view that jelqing or some other form of PE makes them come faster.
Let me tell what they are really feeling. They are feeling that part of them with is READY, that part of them which is SENSITIVE, that part of them which is capable of JOLTING THEIR PENIS BACK UP when it want to give in during a long sex session (the prolonging of sex)

Look for this feeling and when your penis is conditioned for prolong sex, try it. Abandon the conventional idea time ten min, 30min workouts. just once in a while instead of watching movies all night just slot in a super charged xxxxxxdvd and take your time to work it. take very short brakes in between jelq session and it will come to you.
finally, about the feeling i was talking that could make you feeling like coming easy, control with kegels and edging ( the more times you edge in a sex session the closer you are at suspending on the edge even while really rumping hard) . Hope you will be able to put all my disjointed ideas together so as to enable you benefit really from it. DON’T READ IT ONCE.

Wish you all the best
Regards