Originally Posted by pob 1991
I began to panic and these obsessional thoughts I had about my penis were replace by testicle size
He tells me not to let the thought manifest or overanalyse it. Even when I do this though I still have the feeling of anxiety or despair.
I should be excited for this, but I feel no emotion or excitement for anything in life, because of this crippling thought pattern.
I have experienced this for decades (all gone now) and so maybe can offer you some perspective.
Firstly, you are not the body, nor the thoughts… it is the identification with such that creates these type of problems. Our psychological “conditioning” simply acts out in an effort to change things into what we consider more acceptable only to find some other “problem” to obsess about and again the mind “self manifests” through the endless cycle of identification with some form of resistance and the ensuing struggle that follows.
So it is not really having to do with anything in particular but rather whatever is most convenient to get entangled with… in the case of fear the mind perpetuates itself as boogyman by hideously feeding on its own bait. It is less dangerous imo albeit more uncomfortable than self grandiosely seeing oneself in a distorted “positive” light… so this so called darkness of yours is not really all that “bad” as it effectively creates more urgency for the inevitable discovery of your true self.
Once this is understood you can begin to examine the mechanism without getting trapped by it so easily. To observe this you need some perspective and distance from the perceived “struggle”. Just remember our relationship with “mind” as we know it is OCD by its very nature…. don’t fuel the fire. It is no more than a shadow phenomena that you are dealing with no matter how “real” and scary it appears.
Surely you have noticed that these problems come and go but that there is an untarnished awareness that remains constant? Once you develop the skill or knack of redirecting the attention from objects back to this ever present pristine awareness and suddenly there is no problem at all.. at least not until the built up momentum of these so the called “crippling thought patterns” kick in once again.
For example I am sure you have woken up in the morning on occasion feeling great and needed a moment to recollect that this is not possible because you have big problems to feel bad about… the mind works by robbing you of your power and makes you a prisoner in this way.
The key is to simply disengage from the struggle by redirecting the attention back to the awareness that precedes and also remains after your momentary “distractions” (however long lasting). I know chronic problems become an ongoing issue that remain as a difficult body sensation that is sometimes experienced as almost continuous pain… but again, what is conscious of these sensations and the thoughts that habitually follow???
Find out!
The problem is we are so conditioned to direct our attention outwardly at “things” and struggle… that to observe awareness itself feels almost upside down, inside out and thus practically impossible….
As an exercise you can try looking in the mirror and experiment with looking “at” yourself “out there” and then see if you can redirect the attention to observe who is actually observing this projection so concretely in the mirror. This can be a bit trippy so take your time and don’t push it this kind of practice to begin with.
From my point of view I see your “problem” as a high intensity catalyst ultimately designed to maximize your process of self discovery.
Nothing “wrong”… just a simple misunderstanding.
See if you can relax with it a bit and automatically trust will begin to reveal itself.