Is bigger always better

I know this has been discussed before and I am beating a dead horse.

I understand the logic, bigger is better, a person wants to be the best that they can be. In theory, it is admirable. But does being the biggest make you a winner and average or less than average (gasp) make you a failure?

Posted from another thread:

******”Doesn’t everyone wanna be the biggest their sexual partner have been with?”*******

Then I should kick this very sweet, honest, sexy lady with numerous other coveted qualities that I have been dating for over a year to the curb. I will never be the biggest she has ever had. She has had one previous partner, her deceased husband of 25 years was 8.5x6 estimated. With this mentality, I am an automatic failure in the sack. Even though I am polite, not hideous, have a credit rating in the 800’s, and have a better body than 90% of the men my age, I will never be good enough? And this is because I will NEVER be able to, with or without PE, have the biggest penis that she has ever had. Or should she have kicked me to the curb? She did not, because in her opinion, there is more to a man than the size of his dick.

Before all of you go off on her for letting me find out that I had to follow a man nearly twice my size, this came out very innocently, we were talking about average sizes. Average height for women and men (we are both shorter than average), average/normal weight and then the conversation turned to average breast size. And then I said, “the average penis size is 6 inches, and her reaction was really? She truly (and I believe this to be honest) thought that all dicks were that big.

It takes an incredible amount of self confidence to follow a man that is twice your size. And she is fine with my size, she has more consistent orgasms (so she says) and stronger/longer ones. Nope, I am not tearing her up inside with my size, I am not stretching her, I am not banging into her cervix (I am guessing that a ways up there now), I will never give her a cult de sac orgasm, there are certain positions I will never excel at, but does all this make me a failure because I am not the biggest she has ever had? I think not.

My point with this whole novel is simple. But knowing me, I will make it long winded. There have been a few threads of men stating depression and anxiety over the size of their penis. Everyone comes to their side and says that average is only 5 1/2, you’re normal, try different positions, yada, yada. But these are the members with 7’s or 8’s giving all this advice, how the heck would they know, they have big dicks. There is an incredible amount of pressure to be the best in this would, which according to society (at least in America) is to have the biggest dick). But no man is a failure because he is not bigger than his partners previous lover. All the 5 inchers out there should be proud that they are trying to improve their selves, even if it is just in EQ. All the 5 inchers out there should post more. If the average (which should mean the majority), would post more, the 5 inchers should dominate these forums. Not the 7.5’s and above, these big boys should be the minority. Guys, it Okay to be normal, don’t be shy. All the 5 inchers out there should know that bigger is not ALWAYS better.

Sorry for the rant. I was not picking on anyone here specifically, just a general impression of the board as a whole. I know I am a new member here, I hope I don’t get chastised for speaking what is on my mind.

Dead man worship!!

The fact that her husband died and didn’t leave her .She now worships him.

My experience with widows mostly has been very negative.

By her saying that means that he was perfect and you will never compare.

My advise if she still worships him move on she is not ready.

She is hanging onto memories .

Went out with one women who’s husband had died 19 years ago and she talked about him as if he Had died yesterday.

I think you missed my point, gliden-deep

Wow, no.

My wife had a few previews partners, there was this one guy that according to how she said it, he was obviously way bigger than me, she says my size is perfect because he was big enough to hurt5 her, even though, she prefers my size, I still feel so bad about the fact that she had a huge dong inside of her and i worry that she is saying that x”im perfectx” just so i wont feel bad, its a neverending story, i want a bigger pennis so my insecurities can go away, so even if i dont reach that guys lenght, i can at least reach his girth, i have a girth of t5.t5 in and apparently this guy was thicker than me.

Thanks for posting, RedJr.

A couple of quick points:

First, being bigger does not make you a winner, nor being smaller a loser. Innumerable threads here have illustrated that being larger (or getting larger) comes with both advantages and disadvantages. And being smaller sometimes has advantages too, especially if your erection quality is good.

Second, a question - is the post from another thread something you wrote, or something that someone else wrote?

You won’t get chastised here for speaking what is on your mind. You might want to look at the Forum Guidelines (Forum Guidelines ) if you have ay questions about that.

What you might get chastised for by some is for starting a new thread on a topic which has already been touched on frequently here. I’m not going to chastise you for that, but I will suggest that in the future, it might be worth doing a quick search to see if there are any existing threads you could add a post to, before starting a new thread. Trust me, adding a new post to an existing “Is bigger better?” thread will get both attention and responses.

I used to be 6.5 x 5 (BP), now I’m 7.5 x 6, so I can speak with some authority about the difference. I would say without question that sex is better now—-for ME!

As for my wife, I think she has no particular opinion about it. If anything, she found sex more comfortable before. Oral sex was sure a lot easier before.

Of course, the best sex of my life was in my 20’s, when I was much smaller than I am now. I think it’s more about hormones, beauty, and the thrill of discovery than it is about size.

You are definitely beating on a dead horse.
The thought of your loved one having dated a larger man in the past has been intensively discussed.

I wish I could find the thread where one of the female members on TP says something crucial that all guys with this insecurity should read (she doesn’t seem to be around anymore, and for those who were on this forum for a few years now and could maybe help me with her name, all i remember was that she had an avatar of a naked guy lying down on a beach or something).

She talked about how women settle. Very similar to how us guys wish we could date and fuck (of course) a big breasted, magnificent bodied chick and keep her for life. Yet our real girlfriends do not seem to match exactly that description. So…we settle.

The word “settle” seems to have a pretty negative connotation nowadays, as if “settling” meant we gave up on our expectations, in a supposed sign of fatigue and frustration.

Therefore, we think that our girlfriends (who may have experienced more endowed exes) are horribly disappointed with our size.

Women and men are not all that different when it comes to this settling. Do we ditch our girlfriends (who we love) because they do not resemble jessica alba or vida guerra (women we all fantasized about at a time or another) ? Life is too short too dwell on such nonsense. (Don’t hesitate to help me find that thread, its really worth a read and could be eye opening for guys who face this insecurity).

anna nimity

This is a brilliant Freudian slip: her husband is deceased and he was hung like a horse!

No, dick size is not the all determining factor. It takes skill and passion to make a great lover. However, I would point out that being “polite, not hideous, have a credit rating in the 800’s, and have a better body than 90% of the men my age” have nothing at all to do with being a good lover, especially the credit rating. The only way the credit rating will get a chick off is if she is using you for your money. To be honest, you can be a bit rude, unattractive and fat, and poor as dirt with debt up the wazoo and be the best lover any woman has ever had. It’s all about skill, endurance, and passion. If you really push her buttons and send her to heights that no one else has, any woman will deal with less than great appearance, temperament issues, and poverty, even infidelity, to have you be her lover. That is the truth. But, you don’t have to have the biggest dick to be a great lover, although having a good sized dick is an advantage. Most women prefer about 7” in length, according to studies ( which gives me a good advantage! lol ) and they like it thick. So, bigger is better has it’s limits, even when size is considered. Most women, despite what they may like to watch on pornhub, wouldn’t want a 9” dick in their pussies.

Brilliant and outrageously funny obsewrvation.

Big dicks don’t make stallions

Look up the “Sex God Method.”

Be the best lover she ever had. A big dick helps, but a great lover is so much more. With all things equal (technique) I’m guessing women prefer a bigger size. But this is reality, all things are not equal, you can be a better more satisfying lover for her than her last husband.

You can all rest assured, I am not witty enough to have intentionally used the analogy of a horse and a deceased husband. It most certainly was a Freudian Slip. If was a brilliant catch Demerit1.

The quote was from another post on here. There was no disrespect intended to the poster, it was just something that I had made a mental note of and stuck in my mind. I got to thinking of all the average size guys that may feel doomed if they were in my shoes. My point, again, is they should not feel that way.

Most everyone that posted had great thoughts regarding what I was driving at. Everyone just says things a bit differently, with different examples. That is what makes forums great.

I re-read the forum guidelines. I don’t think that I violated anything major. I could have posted this to an year old thread (bumping) but that is also against the rules. For whatever it’s worth, I will be more careful in the future.