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PLease Help Crazy depressed over size

Hello everyone, I am brand new to this stuff and this site. I am at an all time low with my self-esteem at 38 years old. I’ve always been a bit self-conscious about it since my ex wife told me about a “huge” ex bf but of course I knew these guys were out there. That was 20 years ago. Since then, I’ve been divorced 8 years now and have been dating. Women have always told me I satisfied them and I’ve never had anyone say I was small and I’ve found a way to be ok with my size for the most part until now. Up till now I assumed that these “big” guys were very far and few in between and so I didn’t think girls came across them often if ever. When I look at studies, I’m supposed to be in like a higher percentage so I’ve operated under the assumption that I didn’t look like a women naked in front of people I date. Now my new girl let it slip that here ex was “too big” for her and that I am the perfect size. She meant this as a compliment but of course I want to fucking die now and can’t seem to recover from it. I can’t even have sex now as I’m so paranoid she’s looking at me like I’m a boy compared to here previous bfs. My questions are: what can I do to get bigger? Does this stuff on here actually work? If at 6.75x5.5 I’m supposed to be bigger than most people than why does every woman have bigger guys in their past? Also this site makes me feel like shit too haha as I started looking around on here two days ago and like most people’s starting measurements are like 7.5 inches. Since when does every guy have a huge dick and why do studies claim this 5.2 stuff? Please help thanks.

Everyone does not have starting stats of that size, 7.5” in length is in fact very long. It is more common for people with average or smaller starting stats to not post a public log. If you look through the PE measurements database that we maintain here you will find many people with smaller starting sizes but they will not have started a public log for you to read. These studies you are reading are in fact true. If they were not believe me when I say we would have debunked them by now. There is a sticky on the main page listing the studies also.

As for women who have had much larger men? It is the consensus here that when that fish story is told it is very heavily tinted with her subjective perception at that time. Many women will have a monster cock story from when they first started having sex but their ability to judge size and have a perspective of what a penis is supposed to look like is going to be questionable given the lack of experience at that time. It is a fact that women have poor spatial relations when it comes to measuring or guessing distance or, you know, length. There is a thread here that has a post where user did a calculation of what women will call a certain size and what that certain size typically is in reality. In essence is sort of translates that any size quoted by a woman is generally around 25 to 30% off of what it actually is? Do not quote me, digging through the progress thread in question to find it is a pain and I wish I had the post somewhere easier to access.

The long and the short of it is the fact that women exaggerate size to increase their importance, sounding more experienced and cutting your ego simultaneously to gain and maintain control, then also because they generally do not have the ability to be more subjective and more accurate. A study of what a large medium and small penis is done with women picking from objects of these sizes that they would prefer prove that large penises are only slightly above-average in the eyes of most women. I would look into studies that show case how accurate the spatial relations of women are as a general, not even always a penis study either. Women have trouble backing up cars, this has been scientifically proven with at least one study and there are other spatial relations exercise that women generally do not do well at. The preponderance of this evidence would make me question the opinion of any woman on the penis size of a man she slept with.

I hope this helps.


Now: 9" BPEL x 6.25" MSEG as of 11/10/2019 This is my story, a few progress pics of me here, and all my methods.

Then: 6.25" x 4.37" in 8/2009 Are you new to PE? Here's some advice I wish someone had given me when I first started.

My Extender and forward to 10" and balls enhancement project. There is no "Holy Grail" of Penis Enlargement. Only time and effort works. I'm *10* years in and counting. All you have to do is put the work in and keep the faith.

Firstly I hear you. Size insecurity sucks. But I will say this too, it’s poisonous.

Poisonous to you. Poisonous to your partner. It robs you of joy and peace. It’s absolutely something to address and I’m glad you reached out.

Your penis if fine. Let’s get that out of the way. When your gf says you’re the perfect size I don’t think she’s leading you on. She’s just saying you are pleasurable. Comparing to her ex, basically you don’t hurt her is what I think she means. Or she got too sore. Anyways, you are not small by any stretch!

Beyond that though, you’re projecting your insecurities on to your gf. I know it’s hard. I do the same, and I’m a good bit smaller than you! There arent many guys on here that ive found here woth a smaller girth.

I’m fighting it though. It’s ok to have these thoughts but you can’t let them ruin your life. Yes guys out there have bigger dicks but that’s life. Some women have big perky boobs or big firm butts just by nature. Girls are inundated with images of this perfect, photoshopped body and face all day. Us guys hear about dick size.

Please hear me when I say you should actively fight these thoughts. They’re eating you up but you can fight! Don’t allow the negativity to rule you! Easier said than done yes. It takes practice. Be gentle with yourself. Be kind. Relax. Focus on loving yourself. Learn to love others. These things are good.

You’re ok man. In my opinion anyone larger than 5.5 NBPEL is fairly big. And if you’re around that size you’re average. If you show women you don’t care they will not care too. And it’s better having sex with a smaller size and you have sex after doing PE and you see the change in your penis size. My point is why bother if you’re going to do PE anyway, I don’t and I started with a 3.5 in Nbp, and under 5 in bpel. Have fun and enjoy the moment. This is a funny video on what the average looks like.

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Start Jul 2016 - 4.5 BPEL x 4.25 MSEG.

Peak - 6.6 BPEL x 5.13 MSEG

The problem is not with your dick. It could possibly be the women, your perception, or a combination of unknowable things that came together. You have a above average penis size. If you want it bigger, I say follow your gut. This is a good place to get great advice on the matter.

Good advice above…

And just to add, PE does work. With your starting stats, you can build that monster dick…. but be careful what you wish for. Did you ever think your girlfriend might be telling you the truth, that your dick size is perfect. You wouldn’t be the first person here that didn’t listen to their partner and built their monster penis… then found out their partner was telling the truth, and now found sex painful.

You are no where near small… people here dream of having 5.5” girth. It has been talked about at Thunders as being the perfect girth. Girth is where it is, but once you start getting into the 6” territory you will start having more problems than success. Blow jobs become difficult, and anal sex is just a big no no.

Also, she is probably being honest with your length. Most girls really hate having there cervixes pounded… it can be really painful. Once you start getting over 7” in length, this problem becomes more common, reducing the number of positions you can do.

She may well be telling you the truth… your penis may be perfect. :)


Starting Stats: BPEL 7.0¨ x MEG 5.3¨ (4th Nov 2015)

Current Stats: BPEL 7.83¨ x MEG 5.6¨ (14th June 2018)

The Dream: BPEL 8.1¨ x EG 6.1¨ (Not sure if the wife supports ¨the dream¨)

Originally Posted by Skygod2016
Good advice above…

And just to add, PE does work. With your starting stats, you can build that monster dick…. but be careful what you wish for. Did you ever think your girlfriend might be telling you the truth, that your dick size is perfect. You wouldn’t be the first person here that didn’t listen to their partner and built their monster penis… then found out their partner was telling the truth, and now found sex painful.

You are no where near small… people here dream of having 5.5” girth. It has been talked about at Thunders as being the perfect girth. Girth is where it is, but once you start getting into the 6” territory you will start having more problems than success. Blow jobs become difficult, and anal sex is just a big no no.

Also, she is probably being honest with your length. Most girls really hate having there cervixes pounded… it can be really painful. Once you start getting over 7” in length, this problem becomes more common, reducing the number of positions you can do.

She may well be telling you the truth… your penis may be perfect. :)

Totally agree with this.

Thank you guys! Sorry for the panic-y sounding email. I have just been so destroyed over this. And I know part of it has to be ego because when this came out, she was simply trying to tell me me how much she loves sex with me and all I hear is “it feels better because it doesn’t hurt me” and translated it as “you have a baby dick and need to bow down to my ex, the real man”. Haha I’m ready to change things and I don’t want to take it out on her or ruin a great relationship or let her see me as this pathetic POS I am being right now over this stuff. Where should I start? I want to try hanging and stretching but I don’t understand how the girth gains would happen. I also have a slight upward curve to mine and would like to straighten some. I also loose girth the closer I get to the tip. At the base I am 5-3/4”, at the middle of shaft I am 5-1/2” and then loose another 1/4” just behind the head. Also are there any reputable surgeons out there that could make me a man again? Haha thanks again .

5 3/4”… that some serious girth mate… not many people start with that number… shit that’s big!


Starting Stats: BPEL 7.0¨ x MEG 5.3¨ (4th Nov 2015)

Current Stats: BPEL 7.83¨ x MEG 5.6¨ (14th June 2018)

The Dream: BPEL 8.1¨ x EG 6.1¨ (Not sure if the wife supports ¨the dream¨)

Originally Posted by Skygod2016
5 3/4”.. That some serious girth mate.. Not many people start with that number.. Shit that’s big!

Thanks but it’s not really usable girth because it’s only at the base. The head is kinda smaller and pointy and I don’t have much girth at all until I get a couple of inches down toward the center. Is there a way to make the head bigger or at least gain girth up top near the head?

Just own your dick. That should be PE lesson #1. Then tell that girl “it’s not that a train ain’t big, it’s the tunnels bigger”. I bet she shuts right up and slobs on your above average penis. *laughing honestly* Don’t get down about your dick man, it’s bigger than mine and I know every guy and every woman won’t complain about a bigger dick (to a point). However it shouldn’t be the cornerstone of a healthy relationship. I have spent very little time single in my life and with attractive women. (with a smaller dick than yours) Tell yourself 100 times “it is not my penis causing my problems, but I want a bigger one”. There seems to be a affliction with a lot of people I do not have, but can clearly see. Choke her with it for awhile and ask her how small it is…..whatever ya gotta do. Own that shit man, stand up and use it till she begs you to quit.


Last edited by Crazy Dave : 06-29-2017 at .

I will only say this one more time. Then give one more example.

Women do not know what they are talking about when it comes to size.

A common misperception about how big a man’s penis is will be related to how it feels inside of her that day. If on that day she was nervous, not turned on, or just plain dry it will feel bigger than it would normally feel because she is not lubricated or expanding properly. This is real.

If you feel that 5.5” or 5.25” girth needs surgery to be increased “so you can be a man again” you are literally creating a monster cock to compete with inside your head using her ex boyfriend as the target of your ambitions. I post on this in my Reflections log but…I’ll say this and conclude:

If you are getting bigger because she has had bigger and this intimidates you then your journey will never end, no matter how big you get.


Now: 9" BPEL x 6.25" MSEG as of 11/10/2019 This is my story, a few progress pics of me here, and all my methods.

Then: 6.25" x 4.37" in 8/2009 Are you new to PE? Here's some advice I wish someone had given me when I first started.

My Extender and forward to 10" and balls enhancement project. There is no "Holy Grail" of Penis Enlargement. Only time and effort works. I'm *10* years in and counting. All you have to do is put the work in and keep the faith.

Originally Posted by Crazy Dave
Just own your dick. That should be PE lesson #1. Then tell that girl “it’s not that a train ain’t big, it’s the tunnels bigger”. I bet she shuts right up and slobs on your above average penis. *Laughing honestly* Don’t get down about your dick man, it’s bigger than mine and I know every guy and every woman won’t complain about a bigger dick (to a point). Tell yourself 100 times “it is not my penis causing my problems, but I want a bigger one”. I am sorry if I seem brash, but it seems to be a affliction with people I do not have but can clearly see. Choke her with it for awhile with it and ask her how small it is..

Haha! That’s awesome that you threw in a mantra. Seriously, I’ve been trying to come up with one to manage my windy, bitch ass with all day. It’s funny how I will dismiss years and years of positive feedback from women so I can destroy myself with one comment that wasn’t even bad. I just made it mean something bad. Maybe I’m a total narcissist but it does make me completely crazy.

Originally Posted by thoughtfulgold
I will only say this one more time. Then give one more example.

Women do not know what they are talking about when it comes to size.

A common misperception about how big a man’s penis is will be related to how it feels inside of her that day. If on that day she was nervous, not turned on, or just plain dry it will feel bigger than it would normally feel because she is not lubricated or expanding properly. This is real.

If you feel that 5.5” or 5.25” girth needs surgery to be increased “so you can be a man again” you are literally creating a monster cock to compete with inside your head using her ex boyfriend as the target of your ambitions. I post on this in my Reflections log but.I’ll say this and conclude:

If you are getting bigger because she has had bigger and this intimidates you then your journey will never end, no matter how big you get.

And you are right 100%. I know this. Getting it through my thick head is another thing completely. I really appreciate the feedback from you guys. It’s literally settled me down right now.

Let’s just put it this way, I wish I had 5.5” girth. I’d feel pretty adequate if I did.

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