Originally Posted by JinnGB
Well it makes sense to watch for these things, but I don’t think I can actually apply them. I can go for a minute or two if I take it slow, be mindful about my breathing and pelvic floor contraction and have a lighter grip, but when you get it on with a girl she wouldn’t want you to go slowly until you reach PONR 5 minutes later. She would want to get fucked passionately and have as many orgasms as she can take and then and only then you can do whatever you want. That’s at least how I see it and I want to be the one who will give her, whoever she is a great time. Updating on my progress though - it’s very tough. I still reach PONR after 10 seconds but I simulate how it will probably go - tight grip and moderate to fast strokes, all the way from the tip of the glans until the deepest of the fat-pad. It’s getting easier to slide in-and-out of the wool sock, so I consider buying some kind of sandpaper to rise the stakes.
No that’s not the case all the time with what women want or need to have orgasms. I can put myself in my wife not all the way but close, and just stay in there and barely move, we are holding each other laying on our sides facing each other, and I move just a half an inch in and out, sometimes maybe even less. And its soft, gentle, delicate, and from almost nothing at all, she erupts into a massive orgasm. And, I can thrust in and out over and over my whole length pounding her for minutes on end and she has orgasms while I’m doing that. All kinds of things make women have orgasms during PIV sex. If she wants you really bad, she wants you, your cock is just the vehicle that brings you into her so can experience you fully. For sure there is a general rhythm to sex and a “steady pace” kind of thing that you get into based on the length of your cock, the length of your stroke, and what she likes and how she wants your stroke to be. But, she can get off from many different kinds of thrusting and soft and hard sensations inside her.
Tight grip is not exactly what vagina feels like. It is soft and feels more like a Fleshlight, although fleshlight isn’t always exactly the best, but the way the sleeve applies pressure to your erection while its inside the sleeve, that’s pretty close to the pressure your penis feels in a vagina. Its tight, but this whole “tightness” thing is kind of a misnomer because erection size has a lot to do with. If a guy has massive girth, and he doesn’t get her ready, she’ll say “he was so big we could barely do it!” and he’ll say “she was too tight for me to get into.” All because she wasn’t really turned on enough to accept his size. A man with a thin girth gets his girl very ready for sex and then he says “she’s too loose I could barely feel it” and she says “I was so ready for him and then he felt pretty small when inside me.” All because she was turned on yet he has a smaller penis than the first guy.
Both scenarios point out that vagina is only as tight as it is depending on if she’s turned on and actually ready for penetration, and/or how much girth the erection has.
Try to be more gentle on your cock when you work on it. Touch it softly, be gentle. Try to see if soft gentle touching makes you cum in 10 seconds. And don’t stroke so fast, just go slower and see. Try to imagine you are making love with a woman on a bed of rose petals and silk sheets and she’s going to ride you very very slowly and everything is soft and nice, smooth and silky. Sex could be just like that; I’ve had sex like that before. Also, fucking each other as hard as possible and sweating and lube and pussy juice all over the place, too! Sometimes sex starts slow and soft and gets hard and fast. Or it gets hard and fast right away and then slows down to a crawl for along time. Variety! My wife will give me a very soft gentle handjob then start pumping me as hard as she can, her hand moves so fast I can’t really see it anymore, then she slows down and takes like 5 seconds from base to tip of my cock. So much variety and options between men and women coupled for sex…
Lastly please don’t use sandpaper on your penis!! It won’t help, it will just hurt you and take away your ability to actually feel pleasure. She will want you to feel pleasure, its not always about her, women get very excited and lusty trying to make their man cum, or watch him cum, or help him, etc.. If you hurt your dick and make yourself feel less pleasure she might not really like that. There are women who really get off hard on guys that cum super fast. Related to that, I once read a woman say “I think its extremely hot and I get very horny knowing that my guy busts his nut in seconds from me; that I’m so hot and my pussy is so good that he can’t last at all” she took to feeling special and womanly over the fact he had premature ejaculation issues and she loved it, a lot. Once you cum can you get hard and do it again soon or do you have to wait?
Hope anything I’ve added to this thread helps!!