How I cured my SEVERE premature ejaculation

+1 on the PreE dreams. :(

I have one question. The biggest “thing” I found out when exploring my orgasm/ejaculation mechanics was that if I squat (if f.e. I edge while in the shower) or just spread my legs or more like the buttocks, you know, legs widely spread, bent in the knees, (this applies to sex also) it becomes way, WAY easier for me to get to the PonR, like 5 times easier. Could it be something involving the prostate?
What could cause that and how to overcome it. I mean, I don’t want my sex life to be all Cowgirl and me doing nothing (oh yeah, being the active one when having sex gets me there FAST!).
I guess it’s more of a psychological thing for me, but I still can’t fathom that wide-ass-crack-cum-faster thing. :D

Hey viks,

I know what you mean brotha. I used to notice it was easier to control myself in those positions and standing as well. There could be several explanations for this. The pressure on the prostate would be consistent with my other opinions so that is certainly possible. It could also be due to the fact that these other positions put your body weight on your legs instead of your mid section and butt. When your body weight is being supported by your abs, hips, lower back, and butt like in missionary position you are tensing up your entire core which would make it harder to control yourself. Remember what I said about relaxing your mind and body? When you put most of the weight on your legs you are able to relax your core and likely gain some more control.

Also I don’t think control is really due to a “wide-ass-crack”, but more just acclimating your body to prostate simulation.

Hope this might help, and good luck dude!

Thanks guru,

I’ll start edging on my days off pe (every third day) as I find ballooning a bit harder, but I could also try that.

I don’t know how I’ll overcome the psychological aspect (tried missionary last night and I messed up even with very light stimulation… cowgirl it is and even that didn’t go very well either), but I guess some confidence goes a long way, so I’ll just work on that. :)

Yea dude its mostly confidence and cutting off your trigger points. I also recommend edging to finish up your PE session. It is good to keep the blood circulating and you get the added benefit of practicing your control. :)

OK, I started this last night. Edged for 1/2 hour and 45 minutes this morning. I would not really call myself a preemie but I do cum faster than I want to. Especially when Mama is on top. So, I’m gonna give this a try and see what it can do for an old man!

Guru - hope you can help with this..

I tried the prostate stimulation which was really really weird as its like going into the unknown for me. However, i have a few questions. I am not sure i actually felt the prostate as my finger may not of been long enough, can only get in up to the second joint on finger. Is it necessary to actually reach the prostate and what does it feel like? I may have reached it but i have no idea really! I feel that this is my main trigger point and that solving this will hopefully(!) be the cure.

thanks for your help

Hey Cruxx,

I am not a doctor so I can’t give you super specific information. I can, however, tell you what I did. I would feel around until I felt a super sensitive spot and just kind of massage it. To be quite honest, I am not 100 percent sure that this was my prostate, but it feels like it from all the research I have done. Anyway… just sort of massage around it until you feel like you are going to blow, back off, and repeat. Basically just edge except with your finger in your butt (LOL).

So I guess the main point is to find your trigger point and then massage it. I feel really lame not being able to give you a better response. If this wasn’t what you are looking for then definitely post back in this thread and I will take some time to figure out how to answer your question exactly. Good luck!

Oh man sounds like you have it easy! :)

I am sure you will gain tons of control with edging alone. I had other stuff I had to deal with too. Edging is really awesome though. It won’t be long until you start to gain some confidence and really get to know your body. From then on its all about being able to stay relaxed and not worry about blowing it. Have fun!

This is an awesome thread. I’ll definitely make it a point to incorporate all this when edging. I can’t help but let a load off at the end of an edging session though. I’m glad now, however, because this article gives me a reason to stop doing that, which I think is ruining my EQ.

I thought the older we get, the more control we have over this problem.. Well, I met a great girl 8 months ago, and when we first started having sex, everything seemed fine. After about 3 months into the relationship, I just could not control my ejaculations. I’ve tried several different things to overcome my problem, and like someone said earlier, the sinus meds worked great for a while (Phenylephrine HCI is what actually helps I think). Eventually my body got used to it, and I was back to two/three minute sex. For the past two months, I’ve been edging to try and overcome this. I noticed that my glans is very sensitive and could have been one of the causes (triggers) of my problem. My girlfriend is on the tight side, and she’s not into using anything to help with lubrication. I’ve been trying to focus a lot of attention to my glans during edging/masturbation. It has helped me quite a bit, although I still have slip-ups occasionally; So, I’m in total aggreance with these guys on figuring out and paying more attention to any sensitive areas of your body. I got to the point where I could get through the 2-3 minute stage, and it helped my confidence big time, which makes me much better in the sack, which makes her more aroused and naturally lubed. I’m getting to the point where I can ejaculate on my terms, and after she is fully satisfied. I’m not 100% yet, but I hope to be soon!!

I’m glad I found this site!! I wish I would have known about it several months ago!

Good to hear BigDanny! It will only get easier and more enjoyable as you practice.

I don’t get it though. I could masturbate for an hour without ejaculation. But when I see a naked girl or am really turned on that’s when I get the urge to ejaculate.

Thank you, Guru-

This is fascinating.. At first glance it comes off as you advising us to blue ball (edge) ourselves daily! Initially, the thought of jacking off without finishing seems cruel, pointless, etc. I guess that’s what we get for jerking off to overly sensationalized porn from an early age!

This strategy requires a rapid departure from the usual motive of stimulation- instead of trying to orgasm (asap), one must decouple the association of ones dick being touched from reaching orgasm.

And as unpleasant as habitually blue-balling oneself sounds, we all know blowing one’s load super fast with a girl is x times more unpleasant!

I also really liked your mention of buddhist-like equanimity to stimulation.. Instead of reacting to the sensation with “this feels good, this is a pleasant sensation, I crave more of it,” it’s important to just observe the sensations, and not react to them..

It was also cool that you mentioned breathing, and yoga, which I think it’s paramount to the control we all seek. Finally, I totally know what you were talking about with butt-clenching, and body tension in general. Very wise words.

I guess it all comes down training ourselves away from the our deep-rooted physiological habit. It’s all actually pretty straight forward to understand intellectually. But in practice, it is anything but easy to implement. Practice, practice, practice.

Thank you again, Guru- you have given me newfound inspiration, a method to cure this madness!

Hey sed and rmania, glad you guys stopped in.

Sed26, I see what you’re saying but trust me when I say that with the control and confidence you gain from edging it will allow you to control yourself with women. I remember that whenever I was with a women before and I felt the urge to come there was basically no stopping it and I would inevitably blow. Now I can just stop for a second or two and let the urge subside and continue. Try it and I am certain you will agree.

Rmania, you seemed to have grasped what I said pretty darn well. Awesome. I disagree with what you say about blue balls. At first it may seem like not ejaculating from masturbation would cause that but after a while you learn to truly enjoy it. I only ejaculate once or twice a week now and I equally enjoy finishing with and without ejaculation. The times I do ejaculate now are a little bit sweeter because it doesn’t wipe me out and feels a bit more earned I guess. Anyway dude give some of this stuff a shot. If it worked for me it will definitely work for anybody.

Hehe.. The moment when I needed to stop for a second to collect myself almost always seemed to be when she was about to cum. My girl is pretty vocal when it comes to sex.. Along with the wonderful sounds she makes, she would say things like “I’m about to cum”, and that was a mind job!! Could I go another 30 seconds? Not when I doubted myself.. I talked with her about it, and although I can handle the “sounds”, I asked if she would please just make some more intense noises during her orgasm or let me know she “came” afterwards. It’s a huge downer when you have to stop moving or pull out right when she’s about to cum.. It’s fine if you’re wearing protection, but neither of us like using them and I just pull out. Thankfully, she is an understanding girlfriend, and her cooperation is paying off. =D