Hard Time Coming

I have a hard time orgasaming from getting hand jobs and blowjobs, I associate it with the death grip masturbation technique I used to do, but its been close to a year since I stopped that. I orgasm quick from sex if I haven’t had any for a couple days though. I have a fairly large turkey neck, tiny balls and I might have varicocele (if that’s how you spell it) in my left testy. Plus for about 10 years I masturbated with a blanket instead of lube. Does anyone have a solution to the problem I have?

Kegels routine, there are many a phone apps for it.

A fleshlight to masturbate may be a good way, find a very loose one.

I read sounding is good for desensitization.

But mainly get rid of the death grip.

I have same problem as yours, I can go for hours without ejaculation.

Many will preach ejaculation once or twice a month.

Kegels sound like a great idea and I don’t do them enough, only when in stretching or in the pump.

Very proud of myself, last night I recieved a hand job and orgasmed so good and it only took about 5 minutes.

It’s a head game! You won this round. Go buddy! I have my issues with oral also. Mine is total mindfuckery. I had a few not pleasant experiences and well I just shy away from it.

Glad to hear you broke through. With blowjobs and handjobs (from a partner), it might that you know you’re on stage. That’s enough to create unease, which can delay or block you from orgasming.

Ive always had a problem with stage fright.

I have the same issue with oral. It’s like an aoogah horn goes off and my brain moves my body totally away from just letting go and enjoying the moment. Oral is just too damn significant to me. What a shame. The visual and the sensations are THE BEST!

Im incorperating getting oral as part of foreplay with my girl and its working. I think the more me and her play around with it with no expectations the more comfortable I will be with her mouth.

I got two blowjobs this weekend and it was great, I came both times and pretty fast. I know its all in my head game, don logan was right I used to feel like I was on stage and I would get stage fright. Too much thinking in my own head going on, and to counteract it I would intermittenly close my eyes to focus on the feeling and then open them up and look at her doing it, and I was telling her what I liked too and made sure she kept doing it that way. Both times I came in under 5 minutes.

The first time I had sex with my current GF, who is the hottest girl I’ve ever dated (she is a fashion designer and was a model in college so you can imagine how gorgeous she is), I was so afraid to mess up and wanted to give her a good time so I was definitely feeling the pressure. It took me a while to get hard which was a bit unusual for me because I get very hard very fast. Fast forward 30 mins and 3 orgasms for her, I was still not close to cumming. Then she said, “it’s ok, if you want I can give you a blowie to finish you off,” which she did. After we were done and were getting our post sex snack, she told me that this kinda thing is very common for her because guys either cum too quick or take forever to cum the first time she has sex with them (yes she’s that beautiful).

As for PE, I have definitely noticed that I can last much longer now than I did before. In fact, I was feeling that PE had caused a loss of sensitivity a little bit, especially if the sex was after doing PE, but now that I’m on a decon break I have regained my sensitivity.

May the gains be with you!

I’m in a similar situation this is the way. The girl I’m with now is completely drop dead gorgeous, I’ve been with her a year and I still get butterflies with her. And decon is so important I’ve noticed most girth gains now just from deconing, which maybe just because my E.Q is getting up to par, but when I do get back into it maybe a couple weeks from now, I’m going to focus on jelqing again since I believe I got lots of gains from that as well. Also when I stretch I’m really pulling from the base so I can pull my inner penis out which I know first hand has a lot of extra girth.

It’s only been 2.5 months since me and my GF have been together but I’m sure I’ll never tired of her looks and personality. It breaks my heart to leave her because I’ll be immigrating to a country which is literally on the other side of the planet in a few weeks. I try my best not to cry every night before going to bed but I can’t help it. I love her so much!

Yeah, that’s called Expressive or Expression stretches and is supposed to pull the inner penis out. I know a guy who did that when his gains stopped and he said along with heavy manual hanging, it was responsible for his 2nd inch.

May the gains be with you!