There is a product on there called Chikara that sounds like it might be your kind of thing. There’s another one called WAGG (What A Great Guy) that seems to have a lot of fans too, but I’ve never tried that one. I believe there is a lighter version of it with less androsterone for exactly what you describe. I didn’t know about it though until after I’d ordered.
I come across as arrogant and not caring, but with more of a ‘stay away from me’ than confident unless I push really myself out there. I’ve found that Chikara works well making me chatty (not sure yet what it does to others), and Perception(tm) adds to the aggressiveness. This seems to be a double edged sword though. Male friends have said they feel edgy (like when you know there’s a fight about to break out but you don’t know why). Women I’ve noticed either decide I’m an asshole, or if they are already ‘admirers from afar’ then they get quite overwhelmed.
There’s definately something to all this, but it’s not a ‘use this to get that result’ as it combines with so many other variables it takes a lot of time and experimentation to work out what suits your natural profile, the particular environment you’ll be in (work, social, people density per sq/ft etc), and also whether it’s straight after a shower or after sweating a lot. If you have a lot of dirt on you, as opposed to just a lot of sweat, then it can smell quite nasty.
The only three that seem to be available are Androsterone, Androsenone and Androstenol. There are however thousands of them naturally. The Androsterone version I would liken to the effects of extremely high Testosterone in terms of signature, with Androstenol being a more gentle and friendly one. I haven’t figured the ‘none one out yet.
Edit: If you try it and it doesn’t get the result you wanted, use *less* not more next time. The label doses are very excessive (for me at least) with some of the pheromones, whereas others I can use a lot with no ill effects.