I feel like I have a similar metabolism to you Scott, as I always ate a lot too. Although I’m not sure it will help you at all, I’ll post here what I’ve moved to for my diet that helped me gain weight. The protein shake that I mix is very interesting and probably well over 1000 calories on its own, and I take 2 of them a day minimum.
The protein shake itself consists of 2 scoups chocolate whey protein, 3 large scoups of peanut butter (whipped prefered), 3 large scoups frozen yougurt (vanilla flavored) and enough whole milk to mix everything in nicely and then blend. It ends up tasting exactly like a resus peanut butter cup and is extremely high in protein / calories. Also gives you plenty of l-arginine for the day.
I have one of these with breakfast and one after I workout, as well as a creatine shake before I work out to help with muscle rebuilding time.
For food, I usually start my day with 2 pop tarts, 2 eggs, some bacon, some hash browns, and french toast (although this varies to pancakes and such)
Then for lunch I have been enjoying a subway footlong (although it’s also high in calories the way I make it :) ) along with a homemade chicken ranch tortilla wrap and sides.
For dinner, I can knock out a large 3 meat pizza by myself without trouble, or large quantities of spaghetti, or sometimes both.
I also snack throughout the day as I go, and enjoy leftover pasta at random times.
Overall if you include the protein shakes, I’m probably doing upwards of 6000 calories a day pretty easily, which I realize seems like a lot but it’s what it took me to gain weight.
I lead a very active life style, and have been lifting a lot in the last 6 months to go along with the calories and it’s really helped. Before this, it felt like I was eating a lot and then I realized how much you actually have to eat if you have a metabolism like I have. Hopefully this helps you, although I think you eat a lot you are eating a lot of foods that are not high in calories / carbs / the right kinds of fats. Maybe it’s the type of foods you’re eating that you can change to help this. Let me know if anything here sounds interesting, btw the protein shake is worth trying, it tastes fantastic :)
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