21 Years Old With Very Low Libido, HELP!

Hopefully it won’t take too long to get an appointment. This is really frustrating me. Cialis will help carry me along in the meantime, I know that for a fact, but hate having to rely on it for 100% erections during sex.

The thing is, I get really horny when I haven’t had sex in a few days. The only thing is, with my main girlfriend whom I have sex with a vast majority of the time, I can’t keep a 100% erection in her. The only girls I can keep one in are girls that have tight pussies.

Is this a problem of just getting tired of girls physically too fast? I believe JB007 mentioned that he has this “problem,” that he can’t fuck a girl more than once or twice without getting bored with her and not wanting to fuck her anymore. I can achieve erections by myself just fine and keep them fully hard by stroking myself. It’s just that guys at my age get rock hard boners just dancing with girls, and I haven’t had that happen since I was a freshman (when I was quite overweight).

I’m guessing here, but if your able to get horny then it is not libido (low test/thyroid levels) Maybe you are bored with the same lady. In this case it may be good to see a sex therapist.

Yes, I’m now not only thinking of scheduling with a dietician and a doctor, but a therapist as well. Those three would hopefully have me covered.

Maybe if you actually fall in love perhaps that might help.

Then your problem is not libido, it is sustaining an erection.

Sounds like DGS to me. The dreaded, Death Grip Syndrome. 95% of the time that this problem presents itself, DGS is the source of it.

Do you masturbate with a grip that’s tighter than the common vagina? Do you masturbate dry, i.e., no lube? Do you masturbate faster than a vagina can go?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, then it’s highly likely that you’ve conditioned your body to get off in a way that’s very much unlike vaginal penetration, especially if you were a chronic masturbater (Fun fact: Apparently, “masturbater” is not a word. At least not according to spell-check). When this happens, you lose sensitivity, and you’ll be fighting to keep a woody, let alone reach orgasm via intercourse.

Fortunately, it’s treatable. Unfortunately, it takes several months, and you’ll have to invest in a Fleshlight. Get the original sleeve, nothing fancy, and just masturbate with that. That’s the only thing you can masturbate with. For the first week or two, it might not be too easy, but one you can jerk off with the FL, stop using your hands. Stick the Fl under your mattress or wherever, and go hands free.

Your body will get readjusted to the sensations of normal sex, and this problem will be a thing of the past.

If that scenario does not apply to you, my next question to you would be: Are you circumcised? Does your glans have cracks, or grooves running down the length of it.

In probably four of the remaining five percent of these remaining cases would come from keratinization of the glans. The good news is this is also treatable. The bad news is this process also takes several months, and is a little more labor intensive.

I’ve made some good progress using NeedHalfAnInch’s instructions in this thread. The only other way I know of to do it is with foreskin restoration, which I have no interest in, and would probably take much, much longer, based on my experience.

If neither of these scenarios apply to you, then I’m sorry. I cannot help you. Go to a doctor who can. Good luck.

Oh I love my girlfriend very much. She thinks I’m inhibited sexually (psychologically), and she has been studying this.

I luckily most always get my sexual feelings out through pumping/clamping or sex. However, when I’m pumping, I do like to stroke fast. And yeah the pump has a pretty tight “grip”. Thank you for bringing this up. I’m going to get blood work done just in case though. Thank you all!

From what I read you have combination of DGS and porn star symptom (a term coined in the “I’m and escort” thread by jelly).

Your libido is fine. Your blood work will probably be fine as well. But fucking multiple partners, masturbating, pumping, clamping. You pushing the limits here. Every so often after PE, I have no negative indicators at all until I get to having sex. My erection is weak, I have trouble keeping it up, and I need far more stimulation then I would normally need.

This isn’t just due to the fact that my unit is tired. I also watch porn and edge so I am really pushing it both physically, and mentally. I wrote a thread a while back about how I can’t really manage both a healthy sex life, and a hard core PE routine.

You have to imagine that as of late, I have been hornier then ever, I crave pussy twice a day at least, yet from time to time, no matter how horny I am, my unit just doesn’t show it because of all the porn, edging, PE.

I think that this is, to some extent, normal if you are going to put your dick threw the things PE demands of it. So in my opinion, the best way to handle it is to cut down on everything.