anxiety initial sex encounter

Hi Guys,

I got a “little” worry, wen i really like very much a girl and want to do it the first time i always get flaccid, no erection.
Once overcome the initial encounter, i have no problem working as normal (or better :D ) as everyone…

This is some kind of psychological worry, maybe due to the anxiety of a possible failure.
I had this problem as long as i can think but never represented a real problem for me because it was only the first few times (i got very careful sex partners till now…). But this time is it more important to me because i’m involved with a woman that could be something very, very, strong and durable and want to make all things good…

Maybe, some of you experienced the same problem and could give me some advice.

Thank you in advance,
matti

P.D: It dosn’t represent for me a big problem, i now i will overcome it as i always did, but maybe some of you has a trick (mental trick ??) to make things easier

I had the same problem with my first girlfriend.

I was really nervous and I couldn´t get it up.

After we had tried a couple of times I was able

to get a partial erection and take her virginity(sort of).

A week later she dumped me.

:angel:

When you get more comfortable with her the problem will

solve itself.

Most guys have this problem every now and then.

Tell your doctor about this. He probably knows that Viagra works well for overcoming most cases of performance anxiety. Take it the first time or two with her, or any new partner, and you won’t need it anymore.

take some arginine 2/3 hours before.
anyway, get that all days.

Work a little on your bc muscle
during the day: 60% force.
Do some reps.

If you have the possibility, is good to sleep with your girl!
or to get laid with her without hurry.
You will see when you are with her, naked,
evrything comes…very easy.

Caress her and dont do nothing else.
You can anyway do some little bc work
when she touch you…I bet you will be
very excited!
Find a good place for your sex.
Easy….

angel has a good suggestion there. Talk, cuddle, sleep the first night but have sex in the morning. You will be well-rested/less-stressed, your testosterone levels will be higher in the morning than any other time of day. Also, if you normally wake up with a hard-on, don’t get out of bed (it will begin to deflate) but use that erection as your “bridge” for penetration.

Although nocturnal erections occur through a different neural pathway from sexual ones, it is pretty easy though stimulation to convert morning wood to a firm sexual erection. Once you’ve had a successful morning session, you should be able to get very firm for sex at any time after that without anxiety.

What avocet8 said. It will work like a charm (and has for me when I needed it for this exact situation).

Matti, I’m going through the same thing with the current girl I’m dating. I’ve never had this problem until now. Like you said, its a mental barrier. I think I’ve known this girl too long, to get completely comfortable with her sexually. I’m going to start popping viagra or find a new girl soon. lol.

Put your tongue to her vagina. The scent and visual should cause you to get erect, nothing like a good whimpering, quivering chic to up the anticipation.

In highschool I had two girlfriends at once. One of them I could have sex with all night, the other I couldn’t even get hard. It’s all about anxiety. The nerve impulses that trigger an erection are busy making you nervous.

Yguy,
I’m in the same boat. The girl I’m with now makes me so damn nervous I can barely talk to her, let alone sleep with her. I think I may have to find another (viagra is expensive).

I tried Arginine but it makes me more nervous. I think the best thing is what avocet8 said because you won’t be anxious right after waking. Plus there’s nothing like sex in the morning.

Hi,

Thank you guys for your kind answers…
It is damn complicated, yesterday i had the second chance and “everything” was more then ready until she put off her pants. Anyway, it was better than the first time thats why i think it is a progress (Im always a positive thinker :) :) )

She is young and can not stay at home with me all the night (this is a way how i solved in the pass a similar situation), and on top of that i spoke to her to explain that may some initial “playing” (petting ??) would be good for me to relax and to loss the anxiety but she told me she is not quite ready for that now because she is shy… (but penetration is no problem ?????, i can’t understand it very well, but she is so…).

This is beginning to make me really worry. Maybe avocet’s Viagra suggestion would be a good “tool” to overcome this and be more sure.
Do you know a good&cheap source in the net for it (maybe Europe)?
I would give it a try.

Thank you all, matti

Hello, Matti:

In the US you need a doctors prescription to buy Viagra, I’m not sure but it is probably the same in Europe. You may need to see your doctor first. Just tell the doctor what you told us and you will probably get a an RX or more than likely a free sample. If this doesn’t work just tell the doc you are impotent, faking impotence is easy. My doctor is a beautiful 30-year-old woman. I had told her I had a bike accident and pulled my groin and hadn’t been able to get an erection. When she examined my testicles I got an erection, but she prescribed Viagra anyway plus gave me some samples. I don’t know your age, but you sound young. I’m sure once you have broken the ice with this girl you will no longer the pills. You can send the rest to me.

Also there is a generic pill called genagra or something that I heard the guys mention it here at T’s place. I believe they are at genagra.com Spelling may be wrong. I don’t know if the pills work as well as the real thing, but I understand you don’t need a doctors perscription. Check it out, do a search on ED or Viagra and I’m sure you’ll get the right spelling
Good lucl
BG

BG

Thank you big girtha…

Yes, why not to visit my doctor…you gave me a good idea. Do you think this could be a reason to ask for a Viagra prescription? Im “only” 36 years old…

matti

What’s up guys, I have had a similar problem myself. I am able to get it up but I often have problems finishing. I think its a similar nervousness just not to the extent. I just made a new thread about this yesterday because I overlooked this one.

Hi everybody,

I just wanted to say that everything is right now. I could overcome my initial fears and finally do it. It was about two weeks ago, and now im “working” very well as always…

I knew i should relaxe and don’t feel anxiety but, this time it was different because she realy means a lot for me and that caused this nervousness.
She has contributed a lot, with her patience and calm, to fix the problem.

I ordered anyway a caverta sample pack (4 pills 100 mgr. each) for just in case… but never used it, I have not need it.

Thanks for all your replies…

matti

Yea, I’m same way with women. First time or 2 is a little hard(wished), then after it is ok. Might do the fake Viagra or Arginine under future circumstances.