any one else have a problem making their girl cum

Man,it gets tireing trying to make this girl cum,and I still cant do it.I have licked ,and sucked ,and fucked till I cant no more. She cums but I have to be on the side while she touches herself.She cannot cum with me in or on her.Any ideas ? She says I am satisfying,but I think for a guy satisfying, means making her cum.

Joy also comes very slow. When being on top it seems to be much easier.
A few days ago there was a very interesting posting about how to perform eating pussy properly. I tried this and it worked- at least once:)

Cheers

Andreas

Dragster,

If she can make herself cum then it isn’t a physical problem. Cumming is a funny thing. Sometimes they more you want it to happen the less likely you’ll do it. I would place less importance on her actually cumming and more importance on her just enjoying herself. Let her relax and not worry about actually cumming and it is probably more likely to happen.

Also if you havn’t already I would ask her specifically what she likes done to her. Watch and study her when she masturbates. Also, as Andreas suggested, fauven’s "The Art of Muff Diving" post is full of great info:

The Art of Muff Diving

Hope this helps.

I guess every girl is different, but my wife cums in three positions only: 1) Her on top, 2) Me going at it in her ass, 3) eating her out. She will come in other positions, but it is very hard to do. So if she wants an orgasm, she’ll pick one of the three (with many variations). You just have to find out what makes your girl orgasm. She can either tell you, or you’ll have to find out by trial and error by watching what stimulates her most.

as said, every girl is different.
You just have to experiment, find what works, and refine technique.

that’s basically all you can do.
Every girl is capable of cumming, you just need to find out the right buttons to push :D

Unfortunately they don’t come with instruction manuals or data sheets, but sometimes you find some hints from other users on the net :D

Just a though, but a day or two before you are likely to have sex. Be attentive to her with non sexual touch. Try this, come up from behind her and hug her some. Touch her hair and rub her shoulders some and kiss her gently. Call her at work and ask how she is and what she is up to. Listen to her tell you a story and look into her eyes. Don’t try to solve all her problems when she asks you what she should do about something. Sing a few bars of a song she or you like that is romantic or hot and lets her know she is special to you. Buy a funny card and tell her you think she is special.

She will respond sexually and open up to you and love you like there is no tomorrow. She will want you and she will cum. Be a little romantic, technique will work out with good communication and trust. Let her know she is special to you.

bigone has some excellent advice there.

My wife likes the CAT position, and cums in missionary regularly. Another position that we’ve used to great effect is like missionary, except her legs are pressed together(only a few times, but it works really well). I think this position gives more clitoral stimulation than any other.

CAT = coital alignment technique, look it up. I don’t particularly like it, but she says it works for her.

Your wife comes from anal? How fascinating! Does she masturbate while doing it? It seems rare, from my experience, to find a woman who has an orgasm from anal.

fauven,

hmmm….had to think there for a second. Yes, she will come just from anal penetration when she is really excited. Other times, she helps herself with her hand, but mostly penetration alone will do it for her.

Dragster,

If you haven’t already, maybe you could try these:

When having sex missionary style, deliberately rub your pelvis in a way that the pad of fat around your dick will rub her clit.

When having sex (especially doggy stye) don’t insert your penis all the way. Insert the head and nothing more than just below the head. I haven’t found a girl that doesn’t like this. That’s not to say to never completely penetrate, you should; just don’t completely penetrate all the time. A pussy likes to be teased, my friend. Besides, the most sensitive portion of the vagina is right around the orifice and a man’s glans can do some pretty nice things to that sensitive area.

Do more than fuck. Foreplay/sex/more foreplay/spend some time running your dick through the crevice of her vagina, making sure to bump your glans against her clit.

I particularly enjoy rubbing my dick through the lips of a vagina and bumping my head against the clit. Not only do I, but it seems that most women do too. Your dick is a wonderful clit stimulator. Don’t be shy to grab your dick and maneuver it around her clit with your hand, either.

Toys.

This may or may not seem taboo or impossible, but you might wanna try it. While having sex, reach down and see if you can insert a finger or two (or four?). Naturally, this will stretch the vaginal walls, especially the orifice of the vagina, and may give the illusion of that extra little bit of girth most women secretly want.

Masturbate together (don’t allow yourself to come if you can’t recover from it) before you have sex.

If you haven’t already, introduce her to and encourage her to practice kegeling.

PS

Dragster,

Don’t forget the power of taboo, either. Try screwing on the kitchen table, bathtub, or take a drive someplace and do it in your car. You might be pleasantly surprised, if this isn’t something you already do.

Man, I got some good advice from the love doctors.Great info. Usaully we do about a hour of foreplay . I will kiss her and then move down to her neck(nibbling on her chin,and neck,and ears) ,and then go to the breast(sucking and caressing) .Then start to move down sucking,and licking on belly and then move down from there. Then tease her around her clit and move in to her inner thighs,and go down to the feet.Then turn her over and start back up her back kissing and sucking,and just licking.Usaully when I get to the back of her neck she starts to moan.When I do get to her clit I suck ,and lick in circles ,and up and down,I have done this till i cant ,and she still does not cum.She gets closer ,but nothing.By this time I have not fingered her,just maybe passed my hand over her area. Also I think its working ,because she will be soaked down in her area.When I finally do penetrate she is moaning and feeling good (I think). She likes to be held tight and not fucked hard ,but kind of the way only a guy can do it.But ,I still cant make her cum.She has told me that no one has ever made her cum,only her self. I think she got some kind of mental block that wont let herself cum.As,soon as she cums she wants me to get inside of her while she is cumming.Also her clit is real small almost not there does that have some thing to do with it? She is 21 and has a kid.I think it also has to do with trust.She has had some bad experiences when younger,and I think thats the main problem.

Dragster,

It doesn’t sound like you’re doing anything wrong, but you could add to your “routine”. Try different positions, especially ones that will cause contact to her clitoris. If she’s concerned about this, then it shouldn’t be hard to get her started Kegeling. Reportedly, nothing will increase her ability to orgasm better than strengthening her muscles down there.

Dumb question,but how would she kegel?Would it be the same as when a guy (I)

does it?

I had a girl with a smaller clit and she would cum as quick and hard as any other.She preferred to be on top.

Encourage her to learn kegel or pelvic floor exercises,some women groups teach this.(phone and find)Learning at a young age(21)is such a positive thing.For her own health when shes older and the sex.Current girl/f is like having three hands.Feels so gooood.

regards.