Clamping bc during sex

I lost my virginity a couple of months ago with my girlfriend. Our relationship is tremendous except for the sex. I´m a fast cummer. I think it has to do with me clamping my bc muscle during sex. I feel it beeing tense all the time and it makes me cum within a minute. I try to relax it but it is impossible. Please give me some advices on how to relax the bc. It doesnt work as it is now.

First of all, it’s a mental thing. You need to relax your mind before you can relax your body.

Look up on the net on breathing techniques and excercises, they are relativly simple.

And try edging, without squeezeng the bc muscle all the time.

I agree with you in 100%. Strong BC muscle has always been a problem for me any many other guys that would like to last longer. However you will find many other guys who report to have a great results in this area thanks to strong BC muscle…for me it just does not work.

Here is my opinion based on my experience and knowledge. Orgasm happens to your brain-not to your dick. It is 100% mental thing … however it needs to me induced by some kind of stimulation. Notice that sometimes you are so ‘horny’ that you ‘can’ cum just from watching porn movies. It is because orgasm happens to the brain-no to the dick. We also have orgasm and ejaculation during the night when we are slipping…no stimulation and orgasm still happens…it is about ‘mind’.

In order to solve this issue you need to ‘re-wright’ pattern that is hidden in you unconscious mind. Sometimes when you have some kind of problems in your life(often related to your masculinity) quick orgasm is the way your mind ‘confirms’ and ‘proves’ to you your inner self-image(which often is weak).

IMO the only way to solve premature ejaculation is practice….practice, practice and practice. You can do it with your woman or with fake vagina(like flesh-light). Each time set a new goal…try to last 5 minutes-if you become master in it go further…try to last 7 minutes…then 10, 15, 20, 30…Each time when you achieve new goal your self image will change in some way…you will have to believe in it. It is like playing football or other sport…if your mind is to believe ‘you are good’ you have to give ‘examples’ and ‘proofs’ to your mind that you are ‘good’…in this case it is number of points you score. It is all about mind and ‘patterns’ of releasing your sexual tension. Good luck!

disi, are you like one of those mind-over-matter gurus that can walk on egg shells without breaking them? Seriously, this post was moving.

I’ve got one for you, though; I’m off masturbation, for ethical reasons. So, no flesh-light for me. I also don’t last like I used to. Perhaps these things are very, very closely related, but that doesn’t change anything. So, any insights?