ED lately

I have been experiencing some serious ED lately. And I really don’t know what to do. Is stress and depression really that much of an erection killer? If so I’m pretty sure that is the cause of it. Anyone with experience from that?

And one more thing, I don’t really get kegels to work, when I am hard I don’t really feel them pushing blood into the penis, I have never been able to get an erection from kegeling only. Is that something that is rare to be able to do or have I been doing the kegels wrong?

Stress and depression is a well known erection killer. I see you are from Sweden with it’s long cold and dark winters. Perhaps you have seasonal affective disorder (SAD), in which case, light therapy is often a very effective cure. Here is just one article: http://www.mayo clinic.com/heal … isorder/MH00023

If you want to read more on this, just Google light therapy or season affective disorder.

For your second question:

If, when you have an erection, you can get it to bob up and down by squeezing your BC muscle, you are doing erect kegels.

It’s pretty unusual to get an erection from kegeling alone, so don’t worry about that.

Yeah I can do that and then I won’t :) Thanks!

Well, I’ve been down for quite som time now. It’s been alot of things, school, family, girlfriend and all sorts. But it’s getting better, man. I’ll definitely check that out. Thanks for the answer!

Depression and stress can kill erection and erection strength…

Yes, and yes.

Kegels are not going to give you an erection by themselves. You need to be aroused for that to happen. If you are extremely horny I suppose that it would be possible to work yourself up, but that has more to do with a sexual predisposition than Kegeling alone.

When done as part of sexual health maintenance Kegels are simply performed flaccid. The goal is to develop the muscle tone in the BC, which will improve blood flow to the whole area and promote better erections and overall sexual health. Which is why they are included in the Newbie Routine. It’s a very simple daily practice that can have dramatic results.

When done with an erection, say in the course of intercourse, they can be part of a technique to aid in ejaculatory control. This is tricky, as if you flex really hard and simultaneously hold your breath (which many people do without realizing it) you can actually hasten ejaculation. There are combinations of breathing techniques, Kegels, and Reverse Kegels, that can be used in combination to maintain ejaculatory control, ultimately leading to the male multiple orgasm.

With regard to your main problem I’d suggest that you look into stress management techniques that have nothing whatsoever to do with sex or PE. I’d also ask that you look at both your PE and overall sexual practices and see if they aren’t too severe. Often people go too far and that causes a lack of response, because your body is busy recuperating.

Also, how’s your love life? If you are unattached, are you maybe going overboard with masturbation and porn? It’s quite common to do so, especially if you are depressed. Trouble is that you can easily wear yourself out and then get even more depressed as a result.

Are you getting enough exercise? Particularly aerobic exercise? Do you eat well? Are you smoking? Excessively perhaps? Drinking? And, here’s a big one, getting enough sleep?

Get right with the basics, dial back the PE, porn etc. and, for the hell of it, take a good multi-vitamin and maybe a stress formula B-vitamin supplement. Fish oil with meals is also good. If you have an excess of depression I’d recommend Carlson’s Super DHA 500 , one capsule with each meal.

Be advised that the vitamins and supplements will do very little if the basics aren’t being taken care of. Eating well, sleeping well, getting some good, solid exercise regularly and cutting out the distractions that people typically turn to when they are stressed are really what will do you the most good.

What do you think?

Mr. Happy, right on spot as always.

I could pick any which one of those things and say they’re going bad.

I’ve been neglecting school for some time now, haven’t been out running for a couple of weeks, haven’t been to a boxing practice in like two months, I haven’t eating regularily for a month or so, I’m sleeping very much, too much. I’m watching and jacking off to too much porn. I have a girlfriend but things are pretty frosty right now, nothing unrepairable though. And it’s winter. And I wonder why I can’t get an erection… Sometimes when I’m really depressed I dig myself down and sort of accept the depression as the natural state, if I just break the really really bad habits above I’m going to feel better, I’ve done it before. It’s time to slap my inner martyr and shape myself up! And buy some vitamins, since I’m out.

Thanks!

Add: I am the master of doing this, when one thing fails I let all else fail too, I think this has to do with the bad self confidence I hade in the past which I’ve trained up, I have much better self confidence now compaired to a couple of years ago. But I still “suffer” or let myself suffer from, I don’t really know the correct phrase for this but as I wrote above, when one thing starts going badly, be it school, training or anything, I let all the other things slip too and I just enter a downgoing spiral of bad habits. I’ll have to get better at noticing when I let myself slip so I can prevent this.

Depression is not something you have to accept as status quo, nor should you. I’d make the following recommendations.

1) Put away the porn. You don’t need it. Your “ED” (and I put that in quotes, because you really don’t have a dysfunction) is just your body’s way of telling you to re-prioritize.

2) If things aren’t going swimmingly with the girlfriend put that on hold for a while too. Nothing major, you just need to structure your time so that she’s not taking up quite so much. You need your energy for you right now. You can even say so in a nice, non-threatening way. Tell her about your plans to get back in shape and re-focus yourself. Most reasonable people will understand this. It’s something we all go through from time to time. You may well find a little time away, along with the fresh energy you put into yourself, will automatically help to make things better between you.

3) Kill any and all school children you happen to cross paths with as well as everyone you know named Bob. Ok, I’m just trying to see if you’re paying attention. All kidding aside: regain your sense of humor. Watch some good comedies instead of porn -even if you’ve seen them before. Give yourself permission, maybe even bordering on a mandate, to laugh. It may sound weird, but it will really help.

4) Exercise and eat well. Make yourself do it. You don’t have to become an Olympic athlete or anything, but put one hour a day on your schedule for some sort of concentrated exercise. After as little as four days you will literally feel your body start to feel better. The exercise can be light, but make yourself do it. Personally I would recommend alternating days of aerobic exercise of some sort, like running, swimming, or even power walking, with the other days some sort of weight lifting. But if you can’t hit the weights, make sure to do the aerobics. Six days a week with one day off, one hour a day. It will be huge for you.

5) Did I mention you should eat well? You should. Eat well and lightly. Fruits and vegetables, moderate carbohydrates (complex carbohydrates like brown rice, barley, or what have you), and good lean protein: fish (salmon especially), chicken, roast beef, etc. Eliminate simple sugars and empty calories. Drink more water. If possible, eat six small meals a day, rather than the typical three squares. This helps keep your glycemic index on an even keel, which will help your mood. If you can’t do that, eat well and balanced meals and find a way to have a few healthy snacks in between. These strategies are great for helping to keep one’s mood positive.

6) As far as supplements go, let me re-emphasize: a good multi-vitamin, along with a B-Complex stress formula, and also some fish oil capsules. They are your last priority, as they won’t help if you haven’t got the other things I mentioned going.

If you’re sleeping “too much” it could be a signal that you want to avoid something. I don’t know what that might be, but I’m putting that out there for you to consider.

It’s easy to let things slip - and sometimes it’s even necessary to do for a while, but there’s nothing like taking control back.

This is all stuff you can do. So just do it.

I’ve been meaning to answer this for a while now, but I haven’t gotten around to do it.

First, thanks for some very, very good tips! I’ve bookmarked them in the toolbar as “Mr Happys tips” and I give them an eye every now and then. They’re really spot on.

I’ve deleted all my porn and haven’t surfed or jacked off to porn for about two weeks now. I have a whiteboard with fields for monday to sunday in which I make a mark if I’ve had a PE-session so I don’t overdo it.

If I didn’t have a really hard to beat cold I would be out running now, but I have my first boxing training on january the seventh, so that’s all good.

Last night my girl was here and even though we didn’t have sex I got hard just from making out with her and fiddling a little.

So I feel like I’m on the right way.

Thanks again!

Thanks, man. :rainbow:

We try to be helpful around here. :)

Well, you don’t have to go overboard, but if it works for you, then good.

It’s a really good idea to make your routine concrete and consistent and manage it in a controlled fashion. Well done there.

Health is first. Once that’s achieved then you have the space for fitness.

See? Your body just wanted a little break, think of the ‘ED’ as its way of sending you the memo.

If the presence of your girl made you hard after a little break, then you didn’t really have ED just a mild case of penis exhaustion - which is completely normal to have from time to time even without PE.

No problem, bro.

Glad things are getting back to normal. :thumbs: