From E.D. to premature ejaculation and everything in between

If anyone has any advice/ insight/tips on my situation they would be greatly appreciated.

Before this little problem, I had great stamina when it came to sex. I would be able to finish on command and could even last hours if need be. That’s the good news, now here comes the bad

A little over a year ago I started to notice that I was developing frequent urination. I would go to the bathroom and less then 10 minutes later I would have to go again. For what ever reason I didn’t go see the doctor about it, I didn’t think it was a big deal.

Over the summer (beginning of July) my girl friend and I were about to have sex when for the first time I couldn’t get it up. I had been drinking a little bit that night, not very much and was definitely not drunk. During this time span, I also felt like I wasn’t achieving a good full erection. So after this embarrassing night I did some research (did not use thundersplace) and found that yohimbe bark and l-arginine could help with one’s erection. The next day I went out and got some and started taking them immediately. I was taking them for a little over a week when my girlfriend and I had sex again. The pills worked too well, for the first time in my life I prematurely ejaculated. I lasted about 20 seconds, even used a condom. Since this was my first time I didn’t think much of it and shrugged it off as a bad performance. Well days later when we had sex again, sure enough same thing happened, I lasted about 20-30 seconds. This time I was really upset and stopped taking yohimbe bark and l-arginine all together. The next time we had sex was about a week or so later, not very confident about my situation I drank 5-6 glasses of red wine before my girlfriend came over in hopes of allowing that to make me last longer. I ended up lasting a good 15 minutes or so but I wasn’t back to my old self of lasting until I wanted. For the next few weeks or so this was a reoccurring thing, I would last about (10-20) minutes but nothing like I was accustomed to.

About this time, I noticed my frequent urination getting worse and finally went to the doctor. All the test results came back fine but my doctor did prescribe me flomax. Let me tell you from personal experience, this stuff will lead to E.D. Our sex life was non existent on this stuff and it also did very little to cure my frequent urination.

After my prescription was done I was ready to have sex again. Well sure enough the premature ejaculation was back and this time it was here to stay. EVERY time we had sex I could not last longer then 30 minutes. This was around beginning of September. It has definitely affected our relationship so much that this day we are no longer together. I did more and more research and finally bought some deferol (raises serotonin levels) to help with my cause. Similar to the other supplements I took; I waited about a week after I first starting taking it to have sex. This somewhat worked but not very well. Out of the 15 times or that we had sex while I was on it, only twice was I able to control my ejaculation. I also believe that deferol causes E.D.

So now here I am about 4 months of premature ejaculation and I have no answers. I just recently started jelqing, kegels, and edging in hopes of curing my problem. Once again if anyone has anything that may help it would be greatly

Premature Ejaculation Solutions

That is just one of several threads on this subject. Did you attempt a search using key words of premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction ?

Did your doctor do a digital exam on the prostate? Sounds like yours swelled up and constricted flow, which will cause the I gotta pee every 3 minutes. If the doc gave you flomax, something triggered an alarm with him/her/it. Do you still have the I gotta pee every 3 minutes problem? Many medications will cause problems in the sexual desire area, doesn’t seem quite fair either.

I have read almost everything you can on premature ejaculation, even ordered a book. So far nothing has helped.

The doctor took a urine and blood sample and sent it to the lab. I don’t know exactly what tests were done but a the doctor called and said everything came back good.

Yes i still have the gotta pee every 3 minutes problem. It is very frustrating, especially right before bed when I am constantly getting up to go the bath room.

To quote a commercial, it sounds like you have a growing problem. Is the doc that did the tests a urologist or just a regular ole doc? Sounds like you might need the urologist type doctor. Since I don’t own a penis or a prostate its hard for me to give advice here; except to tell you to talk to the doctor and tell him/her/it that the I gotta pee every three minutes is unacceptable and you want it fixed. Now fix it or send me to someone who can.

I realize that most of us regard doctors as some sort of God, they aren’t, they put their pants on just like we do, one leg at a time and zips in the middle. You know your body best, convey that to the doctor and insist on quality care. And if the doc doesn’t want to take the time to track down the problem, find another doctor.

I wish you speed in finding the solution to your problem. You don’t tell us how old you are; sometimes docs are like you can’t have a prostate problem you are too young. Bullshit, guys as young as 18/19 can have problems, don’t let the doc give you that line okay?

30 minutes of sex in my book is not the definition of premature ejaculation. When I used to suffer from premature ejaculation I would struggle to last 5 minutes. What has worked for me so far is strengthening with kegels….when you get to the PONR pull out and hold a very strong kegel. Cycles of doing these have helped me last as long as I want.

Sorry for the mistake, I meant to say 30 seconds.

Flomax can cause abnormal ejaculation as a side effect; and a decrease in semen output.

I agree with Sunny. You need to find out if you do have an enlarged prostate and go from there.

Kewana, get this checked out fully. Ive experienced symptoms similiar to what you’ve desribed in your first post and I went to the doc today and found out that my prostate is smaller than what it should be. An answer that I wasn’t expecting at all. There have been instances in the past where I would need to pee during sex and I would really have to pull a strong kegel to get all the pee out and even then my bladder wasn’t empty. I find that I can last longer, or have greater control over my ejaculation once all the pee is out of the system if that makes any sense. I even get this problem when I masturbate or partake in lengthy edging sessions, I will pee about 3 or 4 times in the space of about 2 hours but the sensation of needing to only kicks in when I really push the envelope. When I’ve really struggled to keep myself from not ejaculating through riding close to the PONR.

I know this is going to sound a bit daft but are you a big tea drinker?

Funny that you ask that. I am big into fitness so i do occasionally have a cup of green tea (few times a week) however, I recently bought this herbal tea (Man Kind Tea) that is supposed to support male prostate health that i drink daily. I do daily drink 2-4 cups of coffee but I am trying to reduce that as much as possible due to caffeine making my frequent urination worse then what it already is. BigBear, did you go see an urologist?

Well, I was going to advise against drinking tea altogether. I’ve found from past experience that Tea tends to aggravate the problem, due to its deceptively high caffeine content.
Try stopping it for 2 weeks plus (if possible) and see what happens. You’ll notice a big difference in your frequency.

I haven’t seen a urologist but I am booking myself in for a bladder scan at the hospital. (see “bathroom” thread)

Heh, what’s the status on all this, Kewana?

Do any of your PE routines seem to help the ED and/or pre-ejac situation?

Josh 14-11 - read my thread titled “premature ejaculation at an all time low.”

Sorry, I do not know how to paste the link to the thread on here.