Help! Girlfriend not satisfied! I'm soooo close to getting her off!

>>Thanks r0ad_h0gg, I will try your suggestions!

r0ad_h0gg,

You definitely struck true with a lot of those points in your last post. After about 4 months of PE including hanging and jelqing I’ve switched to pumping alone. I want to get my erections as strong as possible and then if I’m not satisfied with my size then I will PE more. Did you follow the regimen that you prescribed in this thread when you realized your full size? or did you add any additional elements such as manual exercises or such? Thanks for your assistance!

Dr Lin is definitely whacky. Some of the stuff is so funny that I think it’s really a regular guy being funny. But if you ignore the herbs and potions and all that garbage I think he has some valid points. Either way I read that site just for a good laugh if nothing else.

>>See this is the problem, when I picture myself doing all these things to her and her feeling all these things, it gets me off big time. Her pleasure gets me off more than anything

>> This is probably my best bet, to just turn into a machine with no feelings, a sexual monster. It’s just hard not to think of these things when you’re next to someone that you are so attracted to

Thanks for the advice!

machtenx:

I have the same affliction as you in that my girlfriend’s mounting pleasure is a huge turn on. Also, when I penetrate deeply it is extremely stimulating for me. She has never had a vaginal orgasm. She doesn’t believe they exist. She has trouble orgasming unless she is on her back with her legs straight down and her clit directly stimulated. She has come from oral, but her legs still have to be down. I find this strange since I could come standing on my head or with one leg on the wall or eating a sandwich, lol. The only times she has climaxed during intercourse is when my pelvis was stimulating her clitoris, with me on top, her legs down. Even so, when I start to go fast she obviously loves it. I can’t help but wonder how she has been fucked by her previous lovers. I begin to feel weaker when those thoughts enter my head. Still, she says its a turn on when I cum fast, and really seems to get off on making me cum. supersizeit’s approach works for me. When I go “machine” on her, I can last a lot longer. It’s not a state of anger exactly, but it is a bit impersonal. Like a feeling of I’ve got you bitch (in a playful sexy way). She likes to be dominated for sure. She also likes slow, deep powerful strokes, which allow me to last longer, so I’ll often alternate between fast and slow to stay going longer. Still I’d like to see what would happen if I jachhammered her for about 15-20 minutes straight, without having to mix it up to delay my orgasm. Usually we eventually have her rub her clit with me on top penetrating to get her off. She likes doggy style, but it seems impossible for her to cum that way.

Edging has worked for me, but since she wants me to go like hell, it’s not the best solution for her. But it’s not like she dislikes me mixing it up. Me getting aroused and HAVING to edge is a big turn on for her. One thing that works well for us is for me to get off once first maybe doing some edging, going fast, then edging, etc. then letting her squirm like a minx to get me off, saying things like “I’m gonna make you come now… Oh yeah…” etc. Then after my orgasm I give her oral. As much as she digs it, it is difficult for her to come with oral alone. But the oral gets her very stimulated and more able to orgasm, and it gets me very hot (the aroma, the control, etc.) and I almost always get hard again. The key for me mentally to getting hard again it to suppress the initial desire to sleep 8 hours after my first orgasm and to really “get into” her arousal. Using my hand on her clitoris (medium pressure, fast circles) can get me aroused again too. When I get hard again I get on top and enter her, first with her legs up around my shoulders for ease of entry, then once I’m good and hard again we move her legs flat and she uses her hand on her clit while I thrust. She has great orgasms this way and I usually get two out of the deal :-)

Has your pumpimg had a positive impact? Girth increase? With my busy life, I’ve had trouble keeping up with jelqing and stretching regularly and am considering cutting out the coffee and pumping for a while. I’m more concerned with girth.

This usually works for me as well, try staying mostly inside and doing quick fast strokes, it won’t stimulate your glands very much, thus allowing you to last longer.

I’ve also found something out that is pretty useful. For me if I edge myself early on in sex and then get back under control I can literally go until whenever I want. Try and edge right to the brink of orgasm then do whatever you must to stop it. Then keep on going.

Also, I must be a lucky fella, because my g/f has anywhere from 4-7 orgasms every sex session. I think that orgasms for girls often times are alot more mentally enticed than we guys seem to think they are. She was with 2 guys before me but never had an orgasm with them. Since we started having sex it started with her having 1-2 then 3-4 and now anywhere from 4-7 orgasms. Usually I start her off with one oral orgasm, then go from there.

Tip: If she is on the verge of orgasm, reach down and gently finger her asshole, for my girl this is a HUGE turn on and if she is near the edge is the extra push that puts her over.

Also try doing Doggy style and with one hand wrapping around and stimulating her clit with your offhand. You can do this in the cowgirl position as well.
Another good position for manual stimulation of the clit is lieing on your side in the spooning position.

Also I’ve found that if you stimulate the anus, “g” spot and clit at the same time it will take 5 minutes max for orgasm. This can be accomplished with obviously just 2 hands and your tongue.

I don’t have much experience but I know what my girl likes. Try some of these tips.

Hey guys, thanks for all the tips. I’ll be sure to try them all

Pumping for me has not done much for me yet. I think it may have made me more vascular and slightly better flaccid. Erections could be better from it but I’m not sure.

I’ll just detach myself from the physical part of it a little and just focus on her.

One of my problems is I want her to have a vaginal orgasm not a clitoral one because I believe a clitoral one makes it harder for a vaginal one, and if she has a clitoral one she’ll be less thirsting for a vaginal. Maybe I should get over this and just try to please her whatever way I can?

Wannabelarge99, congratulations, you’re definitely a skilled lover. Thanks so much for the tips

I wouldn’t go as far as saying that. I just think that experimentation and finding out what is good for you and your lover is the only way to make things better. Needless to say everyone is different, and it takes a while for the sex to become good. Just keep trying new things until you find what drives her over the edge.

Well, 9 months and still searching, but I shall continue :)

machtenx

Try a vibrating cock ring, you will be able to cum together.

Well my girlfriend has a twin sister, and one of my friends dates her. He complains all the time that she doesn’t have orgasms. I’m not sure exactly why I think that my girl orgasms easily and logic tells you that means the twin should too… I don’t even consider myself good at sex, I think that the ability to have orgasms lies mostly with the woman.

Anyway, soon I will be questing for a bigger penis to satisfy my girl even more.

She made me try it and I hated it :( The thing felt so weird, and I’m not big on foreign objects in the bedroom. I couldn’t stay hard with it probably cuz I felt threatened by it. (stupid I know but I guess I’m a pussy)

This is true that it lies mostly in the woman, but still it is the man’s job to give her the stimulation she needs to acheive it.

OK, heres’ my 2 cents. Many women get the urge for you to fuck them harder and faster, but the results many times is that they have a hard time cumming. Try rubbing the back of your hand hard and fast for a period of time, you start to lose sensation…gets numb. The same thing can happen to a woman, she starts to lose sensation, and if she doesn’t really know herself (many don’t) she will have you “chase” her orgasm, which really shoots the reproducibility to hell. Sometimes she’ll cum before you, many times you will lose your ability to hold out and cum prematurely. Here is the answer, settle in with a moderate to slow pace, always paying attention to how it feels to you. I guarantee if it is feeling great to you, it is to her also. You will soon approach your own orgasm, but if you back off from it a few times (slowing down, or stopping or go very deep and just rock slightly without any in and out friction on your glans) you will get past that initial urge to go over the orgasm edge. Now you are ready for business, continue with a slow to moderate pace as your baseline, and watch her reaction. The girls that can masturbate successfully, don’t go crazy, forget those stupid porno movies (ever see any girls cum in those films?) they set a steady moderate pace and keep it. So keep the moderate pace and watch her reaction, forget what she says, keep your pace while monitoring your own feelings (should feel great, but do get too close to cumming you cant stop). So you are getting her closer and closer to cumming,(or multiple times)now you can add variation…short spurts of hard and fast, pull all the way out and just use the head of your cock slowly, suck her nipples, gentle rub her anus or clit, pull her hair , talk dirty to her, make her talk dirty etc. This is the joy of prolonged sex, you in control, keeping her in ecstasy while you are enjoying the wonderful feelings (sexual and emotional). So the basics are…ENJOY EVERY STROKE (while making sure you know where you are in relation to your own orgasm) and steady pace to get her to the verge of cumming, then based on how many orgasms she is capable of ( she will increase with your help) you can either keep the steady pace to put her over, or some variation that she responds to best.

I think most of your problems is you are too worried about it. That stimulates the sympathetic nervous system (fight or flight) which is the opposite of the parasympathetic system which is what controls erections and orgasm. Go about it with the attitude that you are going to enjoy yourself, for as long as you want, and not be worried about her, I can guarantee, she will have more pleasure than ever, you will develop mastery over this whole thing…and you will start getting much more physical pleasure, followed by the emotional pleasure of giving your lady total sexual satisfaction (and the secure feeling that brings YOU!)

Regards,

Sparkyx

ps Road Hog…I need to pick your brain…you have some knowledge’s I want!

I should have mentioned that she’s never had a vaginal orgasm and has only had one ever clitoral orgasm that was when she was 15 through oral sex. oh well :)