Interesting article

Check out the part where she states the average penis girth

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by Dr Patti Britton

Dear Dr Patti
Is it possible that my lover’s penis is too large? I find intercourse painful at times, which has never happened with other men.
G

Dear G
Yes, a penis can be too large for your comfort, and the size may cause friction or other types of pain. The average circumference of a human male’s erect penis is 12.3 centimetres (4.85 inches). When a woman complains about her partner’s penis being too small, it often reflects a problem with girth rather than length. In the same way, some women have tight vaginas and others are roomier. So it may be that you and your lover are simply not a ‘perfect fit’.
I suggest that you take the following precautions before having sex with your lover again. Firstly, make sure that you use a good lubrication. Secondly, make sure that you are fully aroused. Take your time over foreplay and encourage him to go slowly and carefully when he penetrates you. Finally, talk to him about the problem. Men need to be taught that sometimes their bodies do not naturally fit into ours. If the pain persists, you should also see your GP to ensure that you do not have some form of vaginitis, which may contribute to your discomfort.

Maybe some day my girl will go to this Dr. to discuss this issue.

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When His Penis Is Too Big : Wanting To Please Him Doesn’t Have To Be Painful

By John D. Moore, MS, CADC

The young woman who sat in front of me was wrapped in anxiety. It was obvious she had come to talk about a problem, but was having problems mustering up the strength to explain her dilemma. After allowing her a few moments of reflective silence, she began to open up.

“It’s not that I don’t like having sex with Tyler. We have been going out for a few months now and just recently decided to become more ‘intimate’,” she confessed nervously, while trying to keep her head high.

“Go on,” I encouraged her, trying to get her to open up.

“Well – the problem is that Tyler is, how I say it, very, very large. I have a hard time pleasing him sexually because when we have intercourse, it hurts!” she blurted out, trying to mask her anxiety. “I am afraid that if I can’t satisfy him sexually, he might find someone else.”

Does her problem strike a chord of familiarity? If so, you are not alone. Many of my female clients discuss sexual relations as part of their overall therapeutic program. One of the more common complaints discussed by these women centers on sexual partners who are well endowed and thus, serve as a source of anxiety (and pain) during sex.

Here are three things I advise my clients:

1. Don’t do anything you feel uncomfortable with.

Having sex with someone should be a mutually enjoyable experience. Prior to engaging in sex, set up some boundaries with your mate so that he knows what to expect and not to expect. There is nothing wrong with some basic rule setting before “getting busy”. This will help to reduce anxiety and enhance the experience.

2. Anal or vaginal sex should be taken slowly

Wanting to please your mate is certainly understandable, however trying to do too much too quickly can result in injury. Experts suggest taking your time when engaging in anal or vaginal sex, meaning that your partner should be acting in a way that is very, very slow and deliberate. He should be talking to you throughout the whole process, letting you know exactly what is happening and ready to pull out as soon as you say “STOP”.

3. Consider other means of pleasure.

If you feel that your man is “too big” then don’t try and force it! Try to discover mutually accepted forms of stimulation, such as masturbation, role-playing, etc. The point here is to not let yourself get boxed into situations that make you experience physical pain or anxiety.

CONCLUSION

Sex should be something that you enjoy, not fear. Remember to not do anything that you don’t want to, take things slowly and look for other means of pleasure. And lastly, of course, always use protection. By following these simple precepts, you might just be well on your way to a happier sex life!

And yet another -

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My Man’s Penis Is Too Big

My boyfriend and I have been dating for three months. About two weeks ago, we decided to have sex. Everything was perfect, until I took off his pants! His penis is huge! I am a small woman, and sex has always been a little painful, but it hurt so much this time. What should I do? I definitely don’t want to lose him because I can’t handle him.

Since you say that sex always hurts at least a little, it’s likely that you’re not producing enough below-the-belt lubrication. To play it safe, you might want to visit your gyno to rule out any medical problems, such as cysts or infections. But, there’s a good chance that you just don’t engage in foreplay long enough to become adequately aroused. Next time you and your guy are getting busy, take it slow. Have him lavish attention on all your hot spots, with plenty of genital touching and tongue teasing. And, make sure you apply some water-based lube to your vagina or his shaft right before he enters you.
That said, the reason you experienced such severe pain with your new man was probably plain old fear. It sounds like the eye-opening encounter of seeing his “huge” member for the first time freaked you out a bit. Anticipating discomfort causes your muscles — even your vaginal ones — to tense up, making penetration more difficult. So, in addition to extended foreplay and extra lube, it might also help if he gives you a long, sensual all-over massage before intercourse, which will turn you on and mellow you out.

When it comes to doing the deed, you’ll have an easier time accommodating your man’s large penis if you stick with positions that keep his thrusts shallow while sending you both into maximum overdrive. The woman-on-top pose is a good one to try because it lets you control the depth of penetration. Have him lie flat on his back and hover over him on your hands and knees while sliding him inside you. Move your hips in circular motions as you glide up and down, only going as deep as you can handle. Or, have him sit on a chair with no arms. Then simply straddle his lap, either facing toward him or away from him, and use your feet and thigh muscles to pump away.

You can also try the missionary, but remember that the more your pelvis is tilted, the deeper the penetration, so none of that feet-over-his-shoulders, pillows under your butt stuff. Also, the further apart your legs are, the further he can thrust, so keep your thighs together. Not only will it prevent him from plunging in too far, it can also make for some out-of-this-world clitoral/penile friction. And don’t forget, lubrication can come and go. So, be sure to keep adding the slick stuff as needed.

She doesn’t know about Thunder’s Place.

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ADVICE
Does a larger penis satisfy women more?
Posted Tue, 08 May 2001

Question
I have often been told that most women find it more sexually satisfying if she were to have sex with a male who has a large penis e.g. 9-10”. Is this true? Does a larger penis satisfy women more?

Answer
Myths and legends about penis size never seem to go away and the media, especially women’s magazines seem to feed into the idea that the bigger the penis the more satisfying sex is for the partner. In the flaccid (limp) state penises may vary in size. When erect, most are approximately the same size. A man’s sexual ability to please a woman is not based on the size of his penis.

Taking this into consideration, and referring to the question before this one, there is no need for to males concern themselves about their penis size and to think of penis enlargement. The myths and legends however continue and may cause a lot of men needless anxiety.