It Feels As Though My Sex Life Is Over (Numb Penis)

Hi all,
I hope somebody can offer me some advice, please let me explain.

I was circumcised at 17 years old due to tight unretractable foreskin. I was not informed of alternatives to circumcision at the time, if I had been, I wouldn’t have had the chop. Anyway, the circumcision caused me to lose quite a bit of sensitivity in the glans but sex was still enjoyable, other than I had a painful ridge/scar from the circumcision. It was also very unsightly. Eventually at about 20 years old, I decided to get the scar cut away or recircumcised you could call it. Unfortunately, if anything the new scar was worse. A number of years later at around 27 I went to have it done a third time as the scar was bothering me so much. This time with surgical glue rather than stitches. At this point I’m running out of skin on the shaft average to cut away!

Anyway thankfully the final time has left a much more tidy scar that is less painful. The problem is all of these procedures seem to have left me with little to no feeling left in my penis glans.

I’m now into my 30’s and had not had much sex for a few years due to a nervous breakdown and then avoidance due to penis size. I’ve now pushed myself back out there and have women I am able to have sex with but it’s barely pleasurable anymore and it’s as though theres little point in me having sex anymore which I’m finding very hard to come to terms with. I still have strong sexual urges and attraction to women but the sex itself is numb.

I struggle to stay fully hard now as I feel very little during intercourse. I feel practically nothing from oral. This all leads to poor performance sexualy and no enjoyment for me or my partner. My thin girth isn’t doing me any favours either as it means very few vaginas are tight for me.

The person I’m currently seeing says it doesn’t matter to her, we can try and work on things, which is lovely of her but I know deep down she isn’t going to hang around.

Has anyone experienced anything like this? Is there anything I can do to increase sensitivity?

The only way I can really get a decent level of sexual pleasure is if I don’t masturbate for weeks on end and then I suppose, psychologically I’m so horny that things feel a bit more enjoyable a theres a bit more sensation.

I have one of those manhood foreskin substitute things which I’m going to try and wear consistently to see if covering the glans will restore some sensitivity but other than that I’m feeling pretty lost and hopeless.

Is there anything I can do?

Have you discussed your situation with a doctor? If so, what did they say?

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We’re all going to speculate about ‘nerve damage,’ beyond that I think even with a relatively large membership, the knowledge base isn’t there.

What do the doc’s say?

It was mentioned as a risk of adult circumcision that I’d lose sensitivity.

I haven’t been back my doctor about this particular issue as I’m dealing with some other things at the moment which are more urgent.

I will have to get to the doctor at some point about this but I’m really not sure theres anything they’ll be able to do.

I believe it’s a combination of circumcisions and the glans become less sensetive due to gradual toughening from rubbing on underwear without protection from foreskin.

I hear you about priorities as I’m similar; some things are just more important overall than others.

Not that it’s likely but this wouldn’t be an ailment/issue where there’s degradation over time? Y’know, one of those things where the earlier we catch it the easier it is to deal with?

That’s the main thing making me suggest you speak to the doc asap.

Sure PE exercises will be great for your unit.

Take members advice.

Consistency is the Key.

I was circumcised at birth but always wondered what it would be like to have a foreskin. I started using an extender (noose type) in 2016 and got good gains but I tended to leave it on too long with damage to my glans sensitivity from the noose. I found that the Priapus Shot (PRP) really helped me regain sensitivity in my glans. I also managed to stretch my penile skin enough from PE (pumping mainly but also sensible use of my extender) to form a semi foreskin. This now covers three quarters of my glans when flaccid. I have noticed the colour and texture of my glans has improved a lot. Have you looked at foreskin restoration techniques?

You need to protect yourself from yourself first of all. You can’t keep getting tissue removed or you’ll have nothing left. You should ask your physician to add a note to your medical records that you have a history of requests for elective surgery you have regretted and inform new physicians and surgeons of your past history.

New skin can innervate. As the skin on the shaft stretches, new nerves should grow into place. They will not however have the nerve density of the foreskin you lost, since the new skin will have the characteristics of the remaining skin it was stretched from.

I personally use a very small amount of hot sauce to temporarily increase sensitivity in my glans, but it increases sensitivity through slight irritation. I put a drop of hot sauce on my finger, rinse it off with water, then wipe the residue on my glans. I use this only on the rare occasion where sex or masturbation has made the penis less sensitive. I don’t know if it will work in your case and I would not use this on a regular basis. Capsaicin has the capacity to kill nerves in higher doses and when it is present in tissue new nerves will not grow, so it would probably be counter productive for you.

I think the standard approach to this problem, for people who have had sexual organs partially or completely removed or who have had their nerves to those organs severed, is to use alternative erogenous zones, nipples or prostate. I knew a man that had lost sensitivity to his penis in the past due to a nerve being severed, his doctor recommended prostate stimulation so he could still participate in sexual activity with his partner and he grew to enjoy it.

We all have our little neurotic impulses, part of being functional is being able to compartmentalize and rationalize in a way that keeps us from acting on impulses. You may be fixating on the penis and imagining fault in it where there is none. It’s good that you asked others about this to counteract what looks like an irrational view of your penis. Based on what you said, it doesn’t sound like there is anything wrong with your penis other than the surgeries you have had, which can only be improved with time. I personally have never enjoyed oral sex much because of the lack of stimulation, I much prefer anal or vaginal sex; there’s nothing particularly unusual about that.

Sorry you were cut. We now know there are non-destructive treatments for nearly all foreskin problems.

If you have any skin between the scar and the glans, then wearing your skin rolled forward over the glans 24/7 will help make the glans and that surviving inner skin more supple and ticklish.