Libido and Confidence issues

Hey guys… i was away from PE for a long time, because i saw no measurable improvement after 5 weeks of dedicated PE. (It felt a bit bigger in my hand though).

Anyhow, i have recently got back in to the wonderful world of being single…so naturally i started revisiting old contacts and making new once.

Well to make the long story short, i started noticing that i have some serious issues with myself…for example i go only once per night (WTF.. i am only 25 years old), and after i am done… i dont want to be touched and sex is the last thing on my mind. In some cases i cant even get hard the first time. (and i am completely healthy)

Its a confidence issue…its this stupid recurring thoughts in my head “what if my dick won’t get hard, what if I cum too soon, what if she will think I am too small …etc” And as much as I try to suppress it, it comes back with a vengeance….so instead of enjoying sex I am dealing with some serious shit in my head…really takes the fun out of it, and makes it feel like fucking work, and desire it less and less.

In any event, I recall that when I used to PE, I got that confidence boost, because my dick felt bigger to me, so I decided to try to restart PE, at the same time I am trying to “train” my body to climax and get hard more then once per night… I figured I will do this by masturbating everyday twice in a row with a 15 min break in between. But due to lack of time I have to do it right after I do my PE session.

QUESTIONS:
Will masturbation after PE make my workout useless as some people state on this site (personal experiences please)?
Does my approach to “train” my body, have a chance…or is there a better way?
Is there anyone that went through what I am going through, and how do you deal with it?
Is there anything I can do to improve my libido ? ( naturally I am not looking to take some supplements)

All other comments and suggestion are greatly appreciated….. Really depressed here ;(

I wouldnt even try the masturbating 2 times a day with PE too! That’ll probably last about 2 weeks tops before you realise your dick is so worn out you wont be able to get very hard at all and won’t have any libido. From what I know FR will help this alot, you don’t have to restore your skin just your head covered and you can have alot of the same benefits of being uncut. Also Kegals if you don’t already do them help with boners. Look for some good kegal routines and do them for a while even though they are boring as hell.

Hey man it’s all in your head man , take it easy . Even I keep getting such thoughts so I just tell my internal chatter to shut the hell up and divert my mind . After a while these thoughts will sound silly .

Thanx for the comments guys, but what is FR ?

FR = foreskin restoration. Not something usually recommended for libido problems and not something you can just start without some planning, knowledge and, especially, desire to do it. Plus, if you already have a foreskin then sensitivity (where hoffy200 was going, I think) probably isn’t the issue either.

“i started noticing that i have some serious issues with myself…for example i go only once per night (WTF.. i am only 25 years old), and after i am done… i dont want to be touched and sex is the last thing on my mind. In some cases i cant even get hard the first time. (and i am completely healthy)”

There’s nothing wrong with your sexual cycle; it’s just the way you are chemically wired. It’s a myth that all 25 yr old guys can go and go like the Energizer Bunny. Perfectly normal, too, not to want to be touched in any sexual way after an orgasm. Some people even find further sexual stimulation to be painful. Normal for them.

If you sometimes don’t get a good erection prior, that is probably psychological (you do have yourself worked up into a mental fuss over this :) ) if you do often get a good erection prior. Try getting into the groove of your own cycle and enjoy it more in the sexual process.

Thanx guys…. you see i understand that there is nothing wrong with not wanting sex after you are done the first time…. but normally you should be able to recover in around 30 minutes or so and go again… but my body is rejecting the thought of getting intimate again, whereas my mind goes like “Come on, what kind of man are you… once per night???? u r making me laugh… go again and again…” so i try to get back in the game but something is resisting…that why i was wondering if there is anything that could be done to stimulate my body and mind to have sex more often, or rather more frequently per night.

BBC News | HEALTH | Sex drug could aid male stamina

Dude read that and then your solution as far as libido seems clear:)

Don’t ignore the possibility that your dick is trying to tell you something. When I was 25, I was in a long term commited relationship, and I rolled over and went to sleep when I was done, most times. I THOUGHT I was in love at the time; no one could have told me different.

Now I’m in my 40’s, with a different woman, and my recovery time is 0 to 5 minutes, and I enjoy cudling after orgasm. It would be easy to say that the right woman alone was enough, but that is not true. I’m a very different man now.

Performance anxiety issues are in your head. Health issues are in your body. While I only wish that I could tell you the steps to take, if you get connected to your HEART, your head and your body will follow in ways that will make you think you are super-human.

Determination alone, and/or hypnosis MAY help some anxiety issues. A good diet will help any health issues. But if you get connected to your heart’s desire, your other issues will take care of themselves as if by autopilot.

Anyway, it’s my opinion based on my experiences and observations. Good Luck.

Slender: Words of wisdom there.. And I’m still in my twenties ;)

Ys