Making Your Chick Cum

Quick question for you guys…

Your girlfriends actually cum just from fucking alone? Or do you have to throw in some clit action as well?
Man, I gotta work to make my woman cum. I’ve never made her cum from just my dick, I probably never will. I always gotta stimulate her clit somehow.

The thing that burns me is I know she has done it in the past with someone else. She said it has nothing to do with dick size, but of course I don’t believe her. It makes me not even wanna fuck her because I feel defeated before I even start. She’s in her early thirties if that has any bearing on the situation… maybe her clit is “weathered” or something. Makes me feel bad. Six months into PE with actual gains and no notice yet. I could probably jack this thing up to ten inches and she still wouldn’t notice.

Guys are so different when it comes to sex. I could be having major dental work done while balancing in the top of a 75 foot oak tree in the midst of a finger amputation, and still go for a some sex. Women, well the season’s have to be correct in duration and all the planets in alignment, and the correct incantations read with the proper accents, hand gestures and….

I find it’s in their head. It’s how things transpired up to that point that determine for the most part how the rest of the play goes. Maybe it was dick size, maybe not, maybe it’s how she interpreted his size, or his actions, his aggression, a combination of things, who knows. One thing is that she’ll probably cannot tell you what it was because she herself cannot put her finger on it.

So don’t beat yourself up about it. Something like 90% of women cannot orgasm from intercourse alone. You’re trying to please her and that’s a good thing. Most guys just shoot their load and their done. Explore, invent, improvise.

You’re a good egg to think so much of pleasing her. She’s lucky to have you - so just stay-on-station and keep at it.

And don’t give up on the PE either, change it up and be persistent.

Stay Frosty-

Explore, Invent, Improvise. I like that!

In the past year, I’ve been with a far number of women. Playing the field, y’know? They are all different, Prickle. Some have orgasms at the drop of a hat, some you DO have to work like hell. One woman I was with gave my tongue a HELLUVA workout, I mean, we are talking muscle-building workout. My face was numb for a week. But on the other hand, a long term gf I had years back was 2-3 times during intercourse, easy. Shit, the woman I’m engaged to now, well, she CAN’T have an orgasm while on top, unlike most women. Think of it as a combination lock, and you’re trying to find the right combo. Everything from how she gets into the mood, to what makes her tick is the trick.

But, the main thing, like DarkTrick said, is that you are TRYING to please her. Talk to her, ask her what she wants, likes, doesn’t like.

Its definitely all in a womens head. Me and my wife when we first got together she had never even had an orgasm at 21. 2nd night we were together she got one from good old fashioned missionary style sex even with my little 6x4.75” dick. She was really into being with someone that could actually fuck and be free in the bed that night so it happened quickly and she had this WTF look on her face after. It was all build up that time.

But she is a tough one to get off. Sometimes it takes an hour of eating her, sometime she throws the vibrator on to tickle her why we do it to help her. And one night not to long ago I woke her up from a semi sleep by getting on top of her and in less than 2 minutes she got one without any foreplay or rough sex at all.

Some women are screwed up when it comes to that. The size doesnt seem to matter to her that much in that area. Shes used a decent sized vibrating dildo that couldnt get her off until she had some clit stimulation.

On another note a buddy of mine says his chick gets off 2 minutes into it like clockwork everytime. Go figure. I dont think anyone will ever understand this part of a women.

Yeah, technique is good and all, but I’m talkin’ about strictly the dick doin’ the job. Wish mine did.

Hey Pickle,

I’m 51 and have had over 200 lovers and let me tell you that they’re all different. I had one that loved this large feather! and I’d gently slide it between her labia and she’d cum like crazy. Most of my lovers I’ve been able to get off with intercourse but I always like to put my hands and mouth on them anyway. So to say that it’s just cockwork probably wouldn’t be accurate. Some of my lovers have been tough too, hey there are days when I haven’t cum too. I admit it’s cool to feel a women spazzing and twitching up and down your shaft as she’s cumming, but when you’re with a women that’s needs something else, go with it. My longest monogamous relationship in my life was with a woman that I could not get off on my dick, she told me that she had been with all sizes of dicks and that wasn’t the issue, but I’ll tell you Pickle, I had the best sex of my life with that woman.

i wonder if there is a site or message board where experienced men like Larry share ALL of their techniques.

since i never want to run out of things to do to a woman,

change your name to Wilt Chamberlin

Dura Ace, I’m gonna blush. Actually, all I can say is I’m old and haven’t been married since I was 20 y/o. Since I was 40, I haven’t had more than a dozen partners, it was in my 20’s that I wasn’t getting much else done, but Wilt, no way. I read he had(he says) over 10,000 partners!! Do the math and I read that 5 or more years ago. He must of been like Magic, doing 6 and 8 at a time. Anyways, I love women, love being with them and of course love undressing them. There are advantages to getting older and I’m still looking for the one that’ll settle me down. One of my fav Seinfelds was the one where he broke up with this otherwise perfect gf because of the way she ate her peas(I think one at a time) and wonder if there’s not a bit of that in me.

If you haven’t tried this , this is the first thing to change. In order for her to have an orgasm you have to stimulate her clitoris, So after you insert your psnis pull your self up toward her shoulders so that the top of your penis is rubbing against her clitoris. You are thrusting down and in ,NOT in and out. that gives your now larger penis more pressure on the whole length of her dlit and that makes a BIG difference to her.

If you are a pumper, pump with a ring in place until you are really large - then go for it.

If your GF is aware of your concern over whether or not she has an orgasm, You have lost. The pressure on most women regarding mens expectations or the big “O” turns them off. I have read this in most of the current sex relationship books and my wife has indicated that it is just that little glitch that stops her from letting go and climaxing. I have stopped all diaglogue on this with the wife and simply do the best I can in extended and variable techniques—changing often until I sense she is building up, then I stay in that area with hand or mouth and do not stop doing what I was doing—I ask if it feels good and wait for her to stop me. Remember same area and vary the stimulation patterns. Many times we men hit the spot and then stop just before they “O”. Most woman admit this to each other. At any rate, do not say another word about her “O’s” — you may be the reason she isn’t having them.

PS: heard on the radio that the 10 o’clock spot on the clit was the key area,,,,I tried it and son of a bitch,,,,it works. I circle around that tiny spot—alternating light to hard pressure. Variation is the name of the game. Try it.

My girlfriend comes very easily, usually with a minute or two during intercourse. however she hasn’t come from oral, she says she never has. But stroking her clit with my finger does get her extremely hot. So women can be strange that way. i am trying to figure out what will get her off orally, it doesn’t make sense to me that she can’t get cum that way. She tells me that size makes no difference to her and I think I believe her. Last time we did it, i was working my way into her going a little deeper with every stroke and she came when I was barely halfway in her. Theoretically a guy with a 4” schlong could satisfy her. Hopefully she’ll get used to bigger though :-)

You’re young. You’ll get there.

Dura Ace, Alas(or thank God, depending on your point of view) my sun is setting. When the juices were really flowing, I was nailing anything with a pulse(sorry if that’s a bit crude, but it takes two, right?)

Prickle, the word from Vivace is right on. Couldn’t have said it better myself, but getting a couple of glasses of wine into her and asking her what REALLY feels good doesn’t hurt either.

Nelsondogg, what a woman likes orally can vary quite a bit. Something that I found that most like is after some foreplay and she’s started to get wet is to, while lightly tonguing her clit and hood and labia(LIGHTLY) is to insert one and than two fingers into her vagina and with your fingers up and you should feel a somewhat hard spot about 3-4 inches in., kind of under her abdomen(it only firms up after some sexual stimulation) . With a come-hither motion, start to massage this area(her G spot) while lightly tonguing her. Some of the women I’ve gotten to cum like this have almost popped my head like a walnut when they squeeze their legs together.

I can vote for the “all in the head” situation. Another issue to consider is how relaxed are you and your girl.

My wife takes a while to relax - a little wine, candles, cuddling. It’s infrequent that I can get her to cum during penetration, BUT once she starts to cum from clitoral stimulation, I can get her to climax six or seven times, rather rapidly, if she can stand it. I think most women are like this.

One technique I have used that seems to work is to give her multiple clit orgasms and then get her close to another… then stick it to her.

Try it…