Multiple times a day and condoms

Hey everyone

Just wondering if anyone else had issues with how long their refractory period lasts, and if PE did anything to decrease it. Using condoms is of course, no help, but is sex twice in an hour too short? I know condoms decrease the sensitivity, but wondering if anyone else in their 20’s has this problem, and what they did with it.

Twice in an hour is good but depends also how long sex is lasting. Can’t give any advice on PE since wasn’t PE’ing back when I was 20’ish. Condoms do suck, but finding the right one does help.

I’m 34 but I still have sex 2-3 times in a 30 minute to an hour period with my girlfriend on occasion. Maybe it’s a conditioning thing, because a lot of the girls I have dated in the past loved multiple sessions back to back. If the condoms are killing it for you, try the Durex Avanti Bare or one of the natural skin condoms. The heat transfer makes it feel like they’re almost not there. If you’re losing your erection while putting on the condom, have her go down on you (if she’s willing) and let her put the condom on.

Well I’ll give a little more background. I’m in my late 20’s, I work out often and eat well (so that is out as a possible contributor to ED). I PE (usually 2 on 1 off, sometime 5 on 2 off). I manual stretch, do 25 minutes of hi-level jelqing (the technique supported by braindrain. I do a 5 minute kegel session each day. I don’t edge or balloon, because I can’t spend 2 hours PEing per day.

I have been using Trojan thintensity condoms, which are pretty good, and an improvement over “regular” condoms. Yesterday we had sex (lasted little over 5 minutes), then hung out for 30 minutes. Then she started to suck me, which got me about 90-100% hard. But when I went to put the condom on, it faltered. My dick responds to the physical sensation of her sucking me, but the difference in sensation of real friction and wetness and then just the pressure through a condom is huge.

I think it’s partly physical, partly mental. If the whole time I’m wondering how my dick will perform, that will of course hurt me. But it’s hard to turn your brain off, especially as soon as you notice an EQ fluctuation at all.

BigDanny, do you do any conditioning work? Edge? Kegels?

I’ve read some threads on mental detachment during sex affecting EQ, which may be part of my problem, but I can’t help but think a lot of it is physical. If my dick gets stimulated for PE by direct contact, contact through a condom won’t be enough.

Yup, I kegel and edge almost daily. If I’m watching tv by myself, I’ll do stretches and some dry jelqs, but nothing that you could really call a “routine”. I did buy a clamp last night and clamped for five minutes while edging, and my dick loved it. I was hard as a rock, and even maintained my erection for a good 15-20 minutes after I ejaculated. I’ve limited myself to cumming only twice a week from masturbation. My girlfriend and I usually have sex once and sometimes twice a week on top of that. Edging without cumming has made a huge improvement with my pre-ejac issues and has also increased my EQ.

I’ve read several threads at TP with people having issues similar to yours, so you may want to do a thorough search and read up on what those guys may have tried. You may definitely need to give yourself a break for a few days to a week. Try the opposite of what you are doing now, cut out masturbating, etc. until you pinpoint what may be causing your problem. Try those Avanti condoms I mentioned, or try other brands. Have your girlfriend put them on you while she’s sucking your nuts or something to keep you in the game. Last but not least (none of this is in order by the way =P) get your mind off of PE/Sex for a while if it’s bringing you down mentally. Let sex happen when it happens, and don’t fill your mind with negative thoughts while you’re going at it. Just think about how tight and wet her pussy is, and how awesome it feels. Get your face down there and get a good taste of her. You’ll feel a huge difference if you try the condoms I’m suggesting. I use condoms to reduce my sensitivity, and I can’t use the Avanti condoms because it feels like you’re not wearing a condom.

Sorry for the wall of text, but I hope it’s helpful.

Thanks Danny. I just bought new box of Tojans, a variety “pleasure pack” or something. It has their thintensity condoms (which arent bad), and some other varieties that are thinner, or looser, etc. When I burn through these (probably in another week) I’ll buy the avanti.

During PE last night I decided to edge/balloon. I realized that not only do I use a firm grip when jelqing, but jacking off and edging too. I think I’ve trained my body and brain to only get turned on my high friction/pressure. So unless I’m with a girl who’s tight (on my girth) I start to turn off. Hopefully the combo of edging, kegels and changing my own technique pays off.