My EQ concerns

Hello, everyone!

First, some personal information: 20 years old, non smoker, non drinker, gym 3-6 week in general, haven’t trained for the past 2 months though. I PE’d for 3 months, gained around 0.5” in length and not sure if anything in girth, so max 0.15”. I haven’t PE’d for the last 3 weeks.

I have two concerns:
I get an erection really hard without manual stimulation. Once I stimulate my penis, I can get a hardon.
Once I get an erection, it is rock hard, would say 9.5-10. The stiffness is comparable with touching the table or another firm surface, but only when “flexing” my penis.
The second problem is that I lose erection very easily. I could get an erection and if I don’t touch my dick, I will lose it in less than 10 seconds.

I didn’t have these problems with my ex girlfriend and I was able to have sex with her up to 10 times a day (not all of the erections were really rock hard, but with a good rest between sessions I didn’t have any problems).

I will present that with the scenario with my current girlfriend:
She starts teasing me, touchin me, showing her perfect (to me) body. I get aroused and start feeling incoming bloodflow in my penis, so I get something like a semi-erect, 50-60% erection. We undress, I go over her and she starts stimulating me. I get hard enough to penetrate (around 9, I get my best erections alone while masturbating, which is may be another problem). After some foreplay, which includes penis stimulation as well, we decide to have sex. I go to the wardrobe, get a condom, unpack it and try put it on my dick. This happens for about 7-8 seconds, where I have already lost some hardness, but it is in most cases enough to put the condom on. Then, again, my gf starts to stimulate me with a condom on and after a while I’m again hard enough to penetrate. Once we reach that point, I get inside and then everything works fine until the end - I’m hard inside her and have no problems with changing positions for about 2-5 seconds.
We could repeat that up to 5-6 times a day, and it gets worse with every next trial. I don’t have this problem on the first session, but afterwards it’s problematic.

So what could you suggest me? It is weird sort of problem to me, cause I’m able to get a real rock hard but only with stimulation and then I cannot keep it long, unless I get stimulated.
I consider the fact, that once I realised that and started to think about it, the problem went somehow on a mental level.

Do you think that PE could be related to that problem, e.g in relation with the TGC Theory, cause I gained way more length than girth?
Thanks in advance!

You’ve proved from what you say that you difficulties are not physical (which leaves mental).

So, try doing something in your sex with your girlfriend that excites you. Tie her up. Get her to tie you up. Shave your pubes. Get her to shave her pubes. Try pegging. Whatever. Just change things things up a bit, so that you are not doing what you’ve done a hundred times before.

>TGC Theory<

TGC Theory is worth ignoring. It’s interesting but not based in the physical reality of the penis.

Do you watch porn ? if yes how much and how often ?

We have had sex 6-7 times in total (I mean 6-7 days with multiple sessions), so I don’t think I’m bored and need something different. Her body excites me a lot and I’m the one who always initiates sex.
But yeah, I think that this happened after I started to think about it. So if I am able to get full erections, no matter how, I should be calm and not worry about it, which could eventually cause the problem?

Yes, I watch plenty of porn (or at least masturbate, sometimes without porn) 2-5 times a day. That has always been the case, even when I was having a lot of sex with my ex, up to 10 times a day, as mentioned before.

Sounds like your self diagnosis is pretty acute! Yeah, don’t worry there is no spoon.

What has happened to your imagination of sex on your own during this whole process. Verses watching watch some one else version of what sex is? Is it possible your mind has been jacked up higher and higher now it takes more stimulation to get to the same place that use to be easy to get to? Just a thought. your 20 just a simple thought should get you hard and keep you that hard for as long as you wanted before touching it.

If I had a nice girlfriend like you do, I would not watch any unless she wanted me to watch porn with her. I would not be masturbating alone either. If I was getting sex 5-6 times a day, I would be saving it for her instead. Even if it was only once a week! At your age I could have done it but it still spends a lot of energy so I would save it for where it counts!

I can not successfully install a condom myself. I go completely soft. I always needed my girlfriends help for that. I would have to squeeze it tightly to hold the blood in to keep it firm enough for her to roll it on then she would squeeze it real hard while stroking me vigorously for several minutes so I could get firm enough to penetrate her. She did not let go of her grasp until I pumped her for at least 15- 20 minutes and by that time I would be getting very pumped up with blood and quite rigid so she could release for a while until I needed another good squeezing. She would just squeeze whenever she wanted it firmer without saying anything. She would usually give it 4-6 squeezes per hour or switch to taking me in her mouth for a while before switching back to her vag. I would just keep pumping her for as long as she let me until she wanted me to stop.

Most times after 1 1/2 - 2+ hours I would sense that she was getting too impatient and I would begin to lose all my confidence and start to get soft and would get very embarrassed and she would just start laughing at me and I would just clam up because I was so shy and never knew what to say to her.
I’m not much of a talker. I have always struggled with that. Then all those previous feelings of rejection, inadequacy and low self esteem that I carried before I met her would kick in and take over and I guess my mind would just be playing tricks on me because I would be very confident when making love to her but I would have no confidence in talking to her afterwards. I guess that was why she finally dumped me in the end, which was devastating for me.
I don’t know for sure but looking back I think she may have felt that I did not find her attractive because of the times that I did not ejaculate for her. I would always assure her that I was very attracted to her and I would make that very clear to her all the time. She would seem very unhappy when I did not ejaculate for her and absolutely overjoyed the times that I would ejaculate. It seemed to be very important to her but I would always assure her that it did not matter if I did not cum every time. I hope that she believed me!
The funny thing was that I would often ask her if I made her cum and she would never tell me she would also say that it did not matter and it was very important to me as well.

I have not had any confidence at all since she dumped me and have even less than I had before I met her. The one thing that is not easy to live with is the not knowing why she rejected me. It really took it’s toll.
It was a lot of fun though.

In your case, I would not make the same mistake I did and I’d communicate better