No longer able to have sex

Was wondering if anyone can give me some advice other then surgery the valves in the penis no longer close to cause the blood to flow in it for a erection doctor says it is like being stretched out you work something so much it doesn’t work anymore does anyone know what I can do to make it work without surgery or any advice please help me it no longer engorges with blood when the penis is aroused I have been taking Cialis for over a year but it no longer works anymore.

This is because of PE?

Probably not 1foot.

That is another issue all together. One of the more knowledgeable members will be along to talk about this.

Have you been doing PE? What kind of PE and how far did you get into it? You need to speak to a urologist or more specifically an andrologist, but let us know more details.

Welcome, ProblemedWil.

And good luck with your problem. I suggest that you find a more sympathetic doctor, or a specialist. This doctor is seriously suggesting that “you work something so much, it doesn’t work anymore”?

And I don’t want to get on your case, as this is your first post, but that was a very difficult post to read. It is one long run-on sentence. It will help you if you break your posts up into shorter sentences in the future. More members are likely to read your posts, understand your posts, and provide good responses to your posts if it is easier to read them.

Sorry about that ok I was told that the muscles in the penis does not work properly anymore. The doctor is a Urologist he said that the blood flows to the penis and a valve closes which causes the Erection. Well he says mine doesn’t close anymore. His example to me was if you use something so much and it stretches out it is hard for it to go back to the size you want it.

The only thing I have done is taken Cialis for the past year well I just remarried in May to a younger woman and now I can not perform. So I want to know if anyone has advice on something I should do besides surgery. I am not familiar on any of these terms and all you use on here so please explain if you can thank you

Did you practice any kind of Penis enlargement exercise before having this problem i.e. jelqing, hanging, stretching, etc?

Here’s a little trick for you. When you see BPEL (or other terms) hold your cursor over the letters and it will magically tell you what it means. Most of our abbreviations are that way, but if you do find one that doesn’t tell you what it means, ask and someone will answer your question.

Your doctor is not explaining the issue properly to you. (Or, he doesn’t understand it himself.) You don’t have “valves” per se in your penis. What happens during a normal erection is this, basically: You have arteries supplying newly oxygenated blood flow IN. You have veins carrying de-oxygenated blood OUT. As you get erect, penile tissue presses against the veins such that more blood is flowing in than can flow out. This compression is not complete, as you always have newly oxygenated blood coming in and some de-oxygenated blood leaving during a good-duration erection.

What he may have been trying to explain is a condition called “venous leakage” wherein more blood leaves the penis than is necessary to hold the erection. There is a test for this called the Doppler Color Sonogram. Painless and does not take long.

Normal erections are natural events. And, we don’t “wear out” our penises by having lots of them. In fact, the opposite is true. In the ED biz, there is a saying: The more erections you have, the more you will have in the future.

Maybe find a new urologist who can talk with you plainly about whatever is going on and initiate the proper tests to determine what that is.

If Cialis doesn’t work any more, talk to your new doc about other erectile meds.

ProblemWil,

How is your relationship with the other woman? I am too with a younger woman, and I noticed about 4-5 years ago she switched to a mode where she “always had to win”, didn’t matter what. Wrong, right or anything - even with immoral or totally wrong, I will have to pay for it.

It affects your head after a while and the dick follows. I noticed this several years ago.

Now everything about her has to be better, attitude, strength, verbage, etc. Its annoying as hell - and my dick for the most part has been affected.

In my situation - the cure is being with a woman who you find attractive, who does not ball bust, and who values you. Everything will return.

Using cialis for so long I’m not sure if it is a good idea. I don’t think the cialis messed up the valving, but you never know.

How about getting as healthy as you can and keeping your mind off of it for a while. Diet, excersise and living the way you want within your power.

Do not talk about your issue. People who respond to you negatively - stay away from them.

Thank You for all the input I will see what I can do