orgasm but no cum....... WOW!!!!!!

Im writing right after I experienced it.

I have always wanted to orgasm without cumming, since I feel very tired and not willing to do anything afterwards….

i tried kegels, and sometimes they worked, other times they didnt…..

most of the times with kegels, they were very hard on me and took away pleasure in trying to control not to cum, most were weak orgasms…….(i know i need to work my kegels)

tonight, while i was takin care of business, as i was bout to get close, i remembered reading bout some ancinet secrets on the net, and i put my finger between balls and rectum (called perenium???), and felt the vein (dunno what its called), and i pressed down on it, while feeling the kegel muscle, and when i had a full blow orgasm, underneath my fingertip, i could feel the liquid trying to gush out, and it felt just a bit painful, but i held on, and to my surprise, nothing came out…………..

i felt refreshed aftewards, but lost my erection…………

questions……

1. is it harmful??????
2. did anyone ever experience it?
3. why did i lose my erection, if i didnt cum??
4. does your semen come out later when you urinate?

omfg

i did it again,,,,,,,,,,,,

someone please tell me that they have done this before, so i dont look like a wierdo

I rested for bout 5 minutes, porn was still there, so i started looking again. I was hard again, but not too sensitive (this could be a good way to get yours, not get tired, and then satisfy your love)…..

and voila, it worked again……

LOL!!

I’ve been doing this since I was 16 years old. Right after hearing that this is a practice that is very popular in the east.

Not hard to realize why its so popular; having an orgasm without cumming prevents feeling drained from all energy and it saves your cum for the real thing and, for me the most important aspect of it, it enables you to get an erection again very soon afterwards.

Enjoy!! :D

Seems to me that what you are actually doing is temporarily blocking the ejaculatory ducts and preventing the sperm from actually coming through. Isn’t that a bad thing to do? Since damaging something so important it could spell complications later on in life as i believe. As far as i know, the pressing on that perineum section is used to ‘delay’ orgasm and not halt it. As far as how i do it, i get myself to the point of no return and then kegel really hard and breathe in and focus.. it works for me.

I used the squeezing my pc muscle extremely hard and focusing method each time i was at the point of no return. It was very successful but the focusing was crucial.

This was several months ago now and because that is the only way I do it now, my brain always switches into auto pilot and I don’t even need to think or do anything to stop cumming. It happens all by it’s self now. Whilst I can still ejaculate, i must do it within the first ten minutes otherwise I find it impossible to do so as my dick and brain go into auto-pilot and I can’t cum when climaxing.

All I need to do to switch my auto-pilot mechanism off is allow my self to ejaculate each day for a few days without taking myself past ten minutes so that the auto-pilot doesn’t kick in.

After going through this program of switching off my brains auto-pilot mechanism, I am once again able to ejaculate at any time during sex or masturbation.

It’s a funny old world!

i think during kegel, you are pressing on the muscle to block exactly the same spot, cuz when i was blocking it with my finger, and kegeled, it felt like the same spot…….

can you please give me more details on how to do that???

I am gunna try my best to explain this one to ya but my body and brain are different to yours so I can only go on what I know worked for me alone.

In order to hold of ejaculations through pc squeezing when climaxing, you need to slowly introduce your penis to the idea that it is not going to cum. Your dick will want to cum everytime and ideed expects to.

If you just go and maturbate and try to hold of cumming when u climax you will fail to do so.

What you need to do instead is take your self near climax but not close enough to cum and squeeze your pc as hard as is possible until you go limp again. Rebuild up to near climax and squeeze the life out of your pc again until it makes you limp. Do this three times a day or more.

Each day let yourself get just a little closer to climax before you squeeze your pc until limp.

After about a week you should hopefully be able to go to the point of no return and still hold off cumming by squeeze your super strong pc.

If you want to aquire the auto-pilot it isn’t just about having a strong pc, infact is even more about your dick and brain learning that they are not going to ejaculate when they climax. Your brain will start sending the signals to your dick or pc muscle to squueze strongly when you are at climax after a while of teaching it through this routine. Or that is how it worked for me and you could try it aswel.

Unless you go through a program of switching off the auto-pilot

your pc muscle will squeeze itself at the point of climax if you have already manually sqeezed it a couple of times within the first ten minutes and it then gets into it’s stride and takes over when you reach climax.

Once you have aquired the auto-pilot mechanism, you will not need to practise anymore. Your brain will naturally take over so long as you do a couple of manual squeezes during sex when you are near climax. Once ten minute is up you will not cum when climaxing. It just won’t allow you to. You will have taught your brain to non manually squeeze.

Inorder to switch that off you need to introduce it back to cumming again.

Gottagrow

Once you have aquired the auto-pilot mechanism. Does your member go limp after climaxing.
If not….it sounds usefull to make marathon sex :o )

Is ejaculation supposed to be a bad thing? I understand the fact that the penis is sensitive after ejaculation. So is the clitoris, but I am not going to stop touching it out of fear that I will have to wait a half hour to touch it again. I imagine it is nice to be multi-orgasmic, but not releasing when you should seems unhealthy. Isn’t that almost the same way guys get blue balls? Again I have no penis but it would seem like having to pee and keep holding it until you FINALLY go. That eventually messes up your bladdar and kidney. I assume this is an extreme example. It just seems…interesting. Sorry I couldn’t help but comment.

Because I am a powerlifter, ejaculation lowers my testosterone and my drive to weight train goes right down. I use this method when I feel the need to climax but don’t want to loose my testoterone. The added benefit is that although the climax isn’t as much as an ejaculation one, I will go limp and then be hard again within 2-3 minutes and ready for action again. After 3 climaxes without cumming it puts you on a high that is intoxicating whilst still feeling bursting with drive and energy. When ejaculation is allowed the high is great but it isn’t all that great for being able to focus with drive afterwards. Infact you just wanna chill and relax after ejaculation so it is only good in certain situations.

If I climax a single time without cumming, imediatly I am revived with oodles of boundlessd drive and I will leep out of bed and attack the day with positive aggression and drive. If I ejaculate, I just wanna sump down and chill.

If I want marathon sex and don’t mind going without my climaxes every few minutes for my added pleasure, then I will use my tail bone muscle instead and that shuts of the nerve to my penis at the spine while I flex it and breath in a certain manner. Shutting of that nerve makes your dick go limp, so you flex it just long enough to take the edge of wanting to cum and then you release the tail bone squeeze and feeling is instantly restored and you can gradually build up to near climax again and then flex it again. The great thing is that you don’t have to stop thrusting when you are near climax. You continue to thrust and stay as hard as rocks whilst you flex the tail bone and shut the nerve to the penis of so that you cannot get excited and then after a few seconds you release and you find yourself far away from needing to cum even though you have been thrusting all the time. If you squeeze for more than you require you will start to go softer and eventually go completely limp, whether you are rubbing your dick or not because if the nerve is shut of your dick feels nothing anyway and cannot maintain being excited. That isn’t a problem in the slightest because you only need to flex the tail bone muscle long enough to take you away from needing to cum.

I don’t use this method all the time because I like to have many orgasms myself during sex rather than just one. Although I supose I could incorperate tailbone sex along with pc sex and then I could have sex for 20 minutes really hard all the way by using the tailbone muscle to stop me from needing to cum, then after 20 minutes allow myself to climax without cumming by not using my tailbone muscle and allowing my pc to take over when climaxing so that i don’t ejaculate. Then going back to 20 minutes of tailbone sex and so on and so on. I will give that method a go i think. Maybe I should incorporate both togther so that I can last for ever and make her cum over and over but still be able to have my orgasms when I want them aswel. I can’t believe I haven’t thought of incorperating them together. Talking about it has given me a new idea now. Fantastic!

I think it would be called “blue clit” in your case

Takes a licking and keeps on ticking. :blue:

I agree with you Anna.

I used to practice the multi-orgasm thing and at one point decided I prefered good old-fashioned lovin’. The reason I got into it was because I, like many modern men, tended to feel extreme performance anxiety with regards to sex. I was so afraid of orgasming before my partner and being a “bad lover” that I was willing to give up most of the pleasure that is normally associated with sex - ie. I no longer just relaxed and enjoyed myself. Inevitably it all became very mechanical. My partners were always very well pleased physically, but several of them were rather annoyed that I always controlled myself. It became difficult for me to let go. Eventually I did, of course, and all was well.

Many men are very competitive sexually, not with other men, but with their women. They want to make them orgasm, make them scream, hurt them with their monster dong, etc, etc. They want to dominate. A man who orgasms before his partner often feels that he has “lost” or somehow not been strong enough. I’m generalizing heavily of course - many men don’t have these tendencies and others leave them behind them at some point.

Now… I’m most definitely NOT saying that orgasm is the most important part of sex. In fact, I think orgasm is ideally rather trivial - the importance thrust upon in causes for a lot of emotional and relational difficulties. Honestly, there’s nobody in the world who can create an orgasm in me faster and more efficiently than myself - ditto most women I have asked (admittedly not that many). If that’s what one truly desires, why not just do it and then save sex with your partner for when there are some feelings involved?

I know it’s oversimplifying the whole thing, but that’s my take on it.

Or takes a sticking and keeps on twitching…….or takes a drilling and keeps on spilling….

Pamdaga,

I agree……..