Question on orgams and ejaculation
I have the following questions to you guys regarding orgasm and ejaculation.
Orgasm- While I enjoy sex very much and get turned on before and while doing it, my orgasm is in most cases very short and mostly with just a week feeling in the genital area. Sometimes when I masturbate, especially when I extend by going slowly and resisting the urge to come, I can feel the orgasm extend to my torso and feel and strong shiver for a few seconds. However, as I said, often, especially when I have sex, it is very fast with not that much a feeling. I guess, I could actually stay quiet during orgasm. I normally don’t do that, but I’m not sure how much of my groaning (Do you use that word for guys, too?) is kind of acted.
With ejaculation in most cases the muscular spasms are rather weak and the sperm is not pumped out but just flowing out. Sometimes when I’m quite aroused it will fly perhaps 4 inches, sometimes even more, like 20 inches, that is quite rare, though. When I ejaculate my penis does not move. Actually, only my first ejaculation, when I was 13 or so, was very strong. I was in a bathtub and I was overwhelmed. The muscles around my penis contracted strongly and I could see the sperm shooting out strongly in the water. After that, though, it hadn’t been that strong again unfortunately.
I wonder, whether this normal and if I can do anything to a) experience stronger orgasms and b) ejaculate more strongly. I practive Kegels and I take zince regularly as well as lecithin.
Also I have to say, that when I have sex sometimes I don’t feel that much with my penis. Or for example when I get a blow job I’m turned on by the sight and feel a little bit with my glans, but not that much. Still I come early. It’s quite strange. Sometimes I wondered whether I was asexual or whether my penis had an injury, which I know I hadn’t.
I used to worry very much about contracting a sexual disease when I had sex. I therefore have associated high anxiety with sex which is probably a reason. I also have the problem of premature ejaculation as I have written in other threads.