Realistic ejaculations, refractory periods, & sex marathons

I am the first one to admit that most of my issues are mental, and that very little of what I fear or believe actually comes from real world experience.

Yet I cannot help myself from becoming depressed and discouraged every time I start to read threads in this forum. For as much help as thundersplace has provided me since I joined, I find myself repeatably frustrated by what I read here.

So I am asking my fellow thundarians, really how many of you out there go several hours of Marathon sex with little to no refractory period, cumming several times?
I can point out the threads if required, but it seems that anyone under the age of 50 can fuck for more than an hour straight out, cum a minimum of twice with taking only a slight break or none at all.

Guys, I am really not trying to be an asshole or a cry baby here, I am mealy curious. Without getting into my back story (if you really care check my threads) I avoid sex because when the time comes to do the dirty I do not believe that I can measure up to previous partners. This includes size, technique, and stamina. Now, I am much better then I was when I started posting in this forum, and some-days I actually can conqueror one or two of these fears. For instance, I am not so obsessed about my penis size, although I still think it is to small, and I find myself caring less and less about my lack of sexual knowledge and technique. Occasionally I even hear statistic and what not of how long the average man lasts, and I feel slightly better about my own current stamina level.

But then, I read post after post of guys going for hours or however long they want, cumming several times without stopping or only taking a brief break, by that I mean oral stimulation or some other sexual activity, not a real “break”.

Most likely I am completely missing something here. For instance when I first joined I posted something similar to the following: “I actually have a small dick, unlike most of the guys here that I see with 7-8” dicks”.

Shortly after that pussy ass, uneducated statement someone brought up a very valid point. People here on thunders have been PE’ing for years, and therefore might exhibit larger units than a true average. Also guys with bigger wangs tend to post more then those little smaller Johnson’s. These are just two examples of why someone might mistakenly come to the conclusion that the “average” penis is much larger then it is in reality.

So, I suppose that the same type of situation is occurring again, and that I have missed some obvious thing that would ease my troubled mind.

So, am I crazy? Or just way below the curve when it comes to sex. Is it normal to go for 1-3 hours and ejaculate 2-3 times?

Thanks for any input, I appreciate it. Feel free to let the flames fly, I seriously doubt anyone is going to make me feel any better or worse. In fact this post is really more to satisfy curiosity more then resolve my fears. If every member were to answer this post by stating that multiply ejaculations and fucking for more than an hour consistently ( and I assume frequently) I would then just refocus the energy I wasted feeling inadequate in the stamina department to the inadequacies I have in the size department. Although I feel that I meet the minimum requirements of most women (something I did not believe before) I still feel I am to small to give pleasure and I the posts here by our larger brethren help fuel that fire with their tales of increase pleasure given to their partners once a size increase has been achieved, their partners eagerness to take it all, the sparse tales of incompatibly, and the fondness that women have for men that can bottom out in them. But that is the topic of another crybaby post.

Later

Hey ManChuck, you are alright in my book because you are mental. I personally am mad as a hatter.

I am one of those guys you are talking about and am over 40. My beliefs on this topic are backed up by both medical/psych statistics and conversations with many hundreds off people and are as follows; If by normal we mean a huge statistical preponderance than this type of thing is not normal by any means.

Statistically speaking I am an “outlier” unless you start sampling truly vast numbers of people. Guys like me do exist bit we are far from the norm.

While I believe that zero refraction is a learnable trait to some guys, I would strongly suggest separating that from endurance. If you can pile drive for all of 10 minutes at a shot without popping that makes you in effect capable of lasting for hours of sex. Very few women will complain if you switch it up a lot, going from penetration to oral and back.

If you’re worried about if you’re better than the woman’s previous partners, just remember: You are.

Also try to look at it in the light: Does she measure up to your previous partners?

Maybe she should be worried: “Is my vagina tight enough? My boobs bigger than his last girlfriend’s?”

Maybe they are. Worried, that is.

-Borat, knows equality when he sees it, and he doesn’t mean two perfectly matched, perfectly sized lovebags

Manchuck,

I hear what you are saying and I am sure that each person here at one time or another felt those same feelings and fears. I used be so uncomfortable having sex cause I would cum so fast. And if the girl was screaming and hollering you could pretty much be sure it would done deal for me. In my younger years I was back in action fairly quick, but now that I am 42 that is not the case. But the cumming early has stopped for me since I have been doing PE. If anything now I can’t cum. I used to think like that these stories of going for an hour or more were lies or that I was inadequate. But any more if it don’t last for for at least a half hour or so I am disappointed. If most men were honest, few are able to do that unless they are taking Viagra or something, let alone to be in that kind of shape to last that long.

Mostly I see in you as not a physical problem, but more of a mental issue of just beating up on yourself too much. I hate admit this, but when I am first with a woman there is a definite anxiety of it being new. I have had problems with cumming to fast to the dang thing not getting hard. But once the ice is broken and I relax I do just fine. I talked to friends about this and some have admitted experiencing the same problems, so you are normal.

You just to find yourself a good woman, be open and honest with her about your concerns and just have fun. No matter who you, are some one else will always have a bigger cock, a nicer car, a bigger house and a hotter woman. So forget all that cause it don’t matter, just make what you got better in all areas of your life. It will all happen, just give it time and enjoy the trip there.

I think iamaru has this one pretty much by the tail.

If you look at the average duration of penetrative sex, most men don’t last more than ten minutes and most of them don’t last that long. There are exceptions. I’ve said this before here and have lost the link but it was from a medical source I trust. The average duration of sex once you are inside (and moving!) is about 40 strokes.

Guys like iamaru, though, have trained themselves over a long period of time to tolerate stimulation and to ward off ejaculation. Further, the longer you are with one continuous sex partner, the easier it is to train yourself to last longer because the two of you have worked out ways of letting each other know where you are in the orgasmic process and so cooperate together to get longer duration of a good-feeling thing. Further still, some of us with ED use drugs which allow us to last longer. Sometimes whether we like that or not.

I doubt that any of this has to do with the size of one’s cock. Certainly one could argue that when you have built a large one you have accustomed yourself to a whole lot of penile stimulation over time by doing certain kinds of PE, but then, with more nerves/surface area on your cock, you are also getting more area stimulation during sex than a guy with a smaller one and might cum at the same rate or sooner? I don’t think you can make a hard and fast rule, so to speak.

Some of what you read here is exaggeration, for sure. You have to filter through that for yourself. I know that there have been times in my own sex life when it seemed while it was happening to last a very long time, in fact not that much time had run past the clock.

You’re getting some good suggestions - most of which have to do with your ceasing to worry for yourself, when you are having sex.

Thanks guys, 99% of my problems are in my head. I just feel like giving up all the time trying to get a PE program going, getting into shape, going after women, etc.. because I read all this shit and I think, man even if I get in great shape and get my dick the way I want it and learn all these techniques and get over all my issues (which would take years) I still can’t compare to the average dude so why try.

I know at some point somewhere I have read statistics dealing with how long the average sexual encounter is and it seems to be within the 10-30 minute range, which sounds right to me. But then I come here where I regard most of the information I receive to be accurate and I read post after post stating 1+ hour sex sessions and cumming at least twice without skipping a beat. So I begin to think, hey, these other statistic are way off, look at all these guys in here within 10 years of me fucking like supermen. Most of these posts do not say if ED drugs or other drugs for that matter where used so I have to keep that in mind. Also, this is a PE forum and the guys here do have trained dicks. That would also probably lead to an abnormal amount of posts stating multiple ejaculations and hours of sex. It makes sense.

I just get so worked up easily. I am so stupid sometimes, considering there has been almost no real life experience that can back up my beliefs or my fears. It’s just hard to have confidence about yourself when I am constantly reading all this shit. There are so many factors that go into sex that I get overwhelmed and discouraged. It just seems sometimes that there is just too much that I need to learn and practice and I feel that most guys know all this shit so I can never measure up and I am doomed to be a bad lay forever. Anyway I have to go, I have got a Bartending class refresher and then I have to do laundry until after midnight Whooot!

I guess I should keep in mind that the guys posting this stuff are probably very experienced, have conditioned themselves to do this regularly, and are probably in good physical condition. Three things that I am not, in shape, conditioned, or experienced. I guess the only thing I have going for me is that I am young. Maybe I should just shut the fuck up and get PE’ing, get in shape, and get as many notches in my belt as I can. Who knows, maybe with the effort I can do all of the things I read about. OK I am late