Sex issues!! Please help!

Okay here is the deal, my gf and I have had some really great sex in the past, but because
of personal reasons to us both we stopped for about a year, we still played around but no sex.
So as of lately we have started having sex again, well trying at least. I have no problem getting hard when it comes to her, she turns me on to the fullest extent physically and emotionally. Even when we were having sex
in the past the first session was like 20 to 30 minutes before I would cum. Even then I was still rock hard or rock hard minutes later.

These last two times have been a nightmare!!!! Just so you know I have kicked my PE into high gear, I have been pumping more consistently and doing more jelqs and fowfers. So here is the deal. We start messing around and like I said “steel like erection”, so we start with the sex and all, it’s great…..for three minutes!!!
Now this has really never happened except when I first started having sex 16 years ago. Here is the kicker, not only am I cumming quick, but we are talking limp penis here, not just limp but retreating up into the pelvis limp!!

This has happened twice in a two week period. The first time she was like wtf!! but we moved on and joked about it, I was little worried but thinking “shit I am cool”. Then this last weekend it happened again but the bad thing was she was soooooo into it, I mean just so hot and WOW!! Then bam, the whole premature eruption. She is pissed and I think she should be because so am I. I am really depressed about this guys, why am I so sensitive all the sudden? She is trying to be supportive but is like you are supposed to please me, now she wants to go back to not having sex again. This is not about what she feels or our relationship, this is about my problem so please do not go into that, I just need help with my dick. The only thing that has changed since we were last having sex is the fact that I am doing PE on a consistent level, and I am wearing condoms with spermicide.

Also the fit between by dick and her vagina is tight. This is really stressing me out. Oh and by the way I even masturbated hours before we had sex just to make sure I lasted longer because we had not been having sex. Even with the masturbation before I still came within minutes. My question is, could the extra jelqing have made me more sensitive? Or any other exercise made me more sensitive? I am searching here. This is killing me and her. Thanks for any help.

Did you gain any of the .5 inches in girth since the last time you had sex? Could be that maybe.

The only thing that really worked for me was SSRI’s and drinking a shit load of beer. Neither are a good method of solving that problem.

I’ve been in your shoes once or twice, and I know, premature ejac isn’t very fun, for you or her.

It’s as much a mental thing as it is a physical thing. You may not have even realized it, but there is a possibility you had some performance anxiety before the first encounter. And because of the first encounter, it only made the second one worse. Also, I know you’re excited to stick your dick in her again (sorry for being vulgar) trust me, every time my ex and I hadn’t had sex for a month that was the first thing on my mind, all the time.

You’re worrying about it too much. Don’t focus on the genitals when you two are getting intimate. Spend more time on foreplay and giving her an orgasm before intercourse. Then, when you actually do have intercourse you won’t be so anxious and thus less likely to be a quick draw.

Relaxing is the key. Just enjoy it, and do what you can for her before you have sex. Who knows, she may reciprocate and you could get a blowjob out of it. It’s not such a big deal if you’re fast while getting head.

Oh, and one thing that helped me: have sex a lot! The more you do it, the longer you’ll last. Trust me. 3-4 times a week, and you’ll last for hours after a month. At least I did.

Not to mention kegels and edging are two exercises designed to help you control you’re ejaculation.

Hope I helped, and didn’t just spout shit out of my ass.