Sworn off porn.

I’ve looked at porn for as long as I’ve had a computer. The other day I came to the conclusion that I was going to stop for several reasons. First of all I realized that I once I became “addicted” to porn I stopped making PE gains all together. I think that the problem became so deep rooted that it affected my bodily chemistry enough to change the way my brain and penis interact(if anyone has any clarification on this one I’d appreciate it). Also I’ve had several experiences where I should have been able to get it up and wasn’t able to (after reading some of the posts on here I realized that this may very well have been because of how frequently I looked at porn). This was really the most important reason but I want the gains to come back as well. In a nutshell, I feel that if I continue in the direction I’m going I will be cheating myself and my future partners of all the pleasure we should be having.

After going for about a week without porn I’ve realized that I didn’t really need it after all. It’s amazing how much you can get done when you’re not surfing the net all the time. I’m not sure about making any gains yet or not but I think that I am now being able to get it up easier than I had been. Also it’s easier to tell how well I’ve recovered from a PE workout gauging how easy it is to get an erection. I hope I’m on the right road.

When I look back, this has really been a big problem for me. It put a huge damper on the social part of my first year in college. For me it was like a lightbulb went off in my head that I needed to stop and I was only going to hurt myself to continue. For those out there dealing with erection problems (especially young ones like myself), consider this as a possibility. Hopefully you will save yourselves some of the embarassment that I experienced. I hope this helps someone out there like the forums have helped me so many times.

Good Luck!

i personal think this is a great choice. A lot of people dont think porn is a problem, and for them….it probably isnt. BUT if you realize is porn may be a problem for yourself, than it most likely is. I use to have a lot of Ed problems, and I realized that porn was desensitizing the hell out of me. I’m much better off now that i dont watch porn. good luck

Skinnyguy

I’m too much a junkie even though I’m married and my wife looks like a toned up brianna banks.

Sex just does not cure my need for porn.

Good luck bro.

My Wife thinks that watching Porn is for pimps and queers, I must admit that I like to look at some young women getting fucked hard, or giving some lucky bloke a BJ.

Yes I like Porn even at my age, 60 plus.

I can’t even imagine life without porn.

My wife is into gay porn as well so I don’t feel so bad.

I’m not sure what to make of porn. I’ve always known about it. I’ve always been really curious about it. I’ve seen a fair portion of it, ranging from realtively plain-vanilla boy-girl stuff to the indescribably weird, but I always end up looking at as though I was a sociologist and not a horny dude looking for something to stroke to. I do a fair amount of peer-to-peer file sharing/copyright violating, and the web is littered with every conceivable kind of raunch. My favorite are FantasySisters.com’s two pairs of identical twin sisters and their many Sapphic four-ways, which tells me that I appreciate vicariously fucking with boundaries more than anything else about it. You can see big Lesbian gang-bangs anytime, but they’re fucking their own sisters and it’s just too cool. (My life is absurdly straight-laced, and the only place I get to be deviant is in my own sick little imagination.)

(The irony of porn is that it intesifies what is already the most drastic and dramatic shift in emotion known to man: the apres-stroke switch from the most elated sensation we know followed rapidly by an awkward, deflated feeling of, “Why?” as we reach for the Kleenex and start feeling a little pathetic that we have to resort to self-abuse…)

So playing along with my DoctorLecter thing, “First principles, Clarice. Simplicity. Read Marcus Aurelius. Of each particular thing, ask: What is it, in itself? What is its nature…?”

What is the first and priciple thing you do with porn, and most importantly, what needs do we fulfill by using it? (I learn an awful lot by asking that question about all sorts of things…) If you can answer it then you’re on your way to a more comfortable relationship with it. A lot of addiction literature refers to people who abuse X, but very little refers to people who simply use it. Some people live their whole lives maintaining very balanced relationships with scary shit like heroin, alcohol, organized religion, and power, and no one writes books about them, probably because there’s no money in helping people who don’t need help.

AA teaches that only total absinence is effective treatment for alcoholism (I know that oversimplifies matters, but stay with me…). Maybe it’s so with chemical substances, but some people are addicted to food, and there’s no abstinence from that. There’s a chance that your problem isn’t addiction so much as what using porn makes you think about how you’re doing.

If porn serves a useful purpose in your life - and some sociologists believe that it erotica is an important tool for teaching society about an otherwise forbidden topic, although I don’t know what I learned from the Lesbian twins…

Sorry. If porn serves a useful purpose, then work towards making your use more balanced. Use, but don’t abuse.

“You see a lot, Doctor. But are you strong enough to point that high-powered perception at yourself?”

Most of all, be honest with yourself. Look the ugly truth right in eye, and don’t beat yourself up over it. It’s just information. Use it to make a good decision. But it starts by asking the question.

You know how to do this already. You wouldn’t be doing the PE thing if you hadn’t.

(And thusly is penis enlargement made into an exercise in metaphysics… I also do children’s parties.)

Ta,

H.

Hey doctorlecter, your theory on PORN is most astounding and may I say an eye opener which gives one food for thought. It’s a bloody good analyses. I think you must be a shrink of some kind or you have a very logical and mind for facts. Good show old bean.

I am a recovering sex addict also. I don’t have time to get into it now, but you can become normal again with lots of effort and support. Learn more about the addiction.

Out of the Shadows
Understanding Sexual Addiction

By Patrick Carnes