Tantric Sex for Dummies

SO just a while ago I had another bout of piss-me-off performance anxiety. Great, just f*$#@ing great.

I figured I’d try and maybe find some MORE info, maybe something I hadn’t read here…..the missing key peice of info to solve an intermittent problem.
I read a few posts about prolonged orgasm, hour long sex, that kinda stuff. I thought to myself “My god, and I only want to get it up. That’d be the day”.
Well I decided to, uh, “relieve” some sexual tension. Now, while doing this, I thought “wtf, I’ll just see what happens here with some kegels”.

Well, lemme tell ya, when I’m alone, I’m a freakin’ tantric GOD.

I kegel’d as hard as I could prior to cumming. Sure enough, I had an orgasm, sans the load drop, and still had a rager. So I tried again. And once again, same thing. Well, this was getting fun.

Then, I came, yet no orgasm. Crazyness. This kegel thing was unreal!

Now, this may be elementary to some on this board, but it was a bit revolutionary to myself. My point for the post? Nothing is beyond reach of anyone here. Take the info, try it out, see what happens. You may be surprised.

Now if I could only find a cure for performance anxiety. :D

So, you jacked just to the point of orgasm, then clamped off with a kegel during the orgasm, but no ejaculation? Over and over? This is one of my long term goals.

Did you find the drygasm as full and powerful feeling as a regular non kegeled off orgasm? For me, I can hold back the ejact, have a full orgasm, but the horniness subsides somewhat, as does the hard on. I’ve yet to have a full drygasm and keep a raging boner…

Tell us more, with exact details :)

Canwood

simply admitting that its psychological and not a plumbing problem is half the battle. I see so many guys get this and cannot admit its in thier head so they come up with PE causing impotence. (It has done nothing but improve my erections). So you are already halfway there the problem is PA not PE. Now I have given this advice to many and most have responded well. If you have a regular, understanding sex partner agree between you that:

1) You ARE turned on by her (so many times the woman makes it about themselves)

2) that you will commit to non penetrative sex play for a while getting her off manually or with your tongue or toys.

Women actually love this variety but are often bashful to ask for it outright.

Often you will find that once the pressure to “perform” is off you will have your best boner ever. Good luck.

RB : Yes, exactly as you stated….just “clamped” off, no ejaculate, great orgasm. As powerful? I’d say close, but not as intense as a normal one. Erection did subside a BIT, but not really significantly. Now, to try this in bed, that’s the key.

Luvadus : It’s been a helluva battle, and still ongoing. I’m damn lucky to have an extremely understanding partner, and also damn lucky too have a tongue that works well, too :D The aspects of PA are so psychological its amazing. Problem is, the “fix” isn’t just a pill or potion…..this makes it hard to wrap one’s mind around it. I’d have to say for myself, failure drives me to want to succeed even more……which is all good, but this attitude is the reason PA has a wicked grasp on me. Working under pressure is part of my job as a paramedic and a firefighter, but sure as hell doesn’t work in bed. Your advice is very sound and well taken. Thank you.

I also lose my erection most of the time when doing a kegal right before orgasm. Also, the orgasms were about 3/4 as intense. There is another method that I have heard of but everyone here thinks Dr. Lin is a nutcase. This method has something to do with another muscle, the annococcyx or something like that. The only problem is his website is hard to follow.