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DOING THE RIGHT THINGS TO ATTRACT MORE WOMEN AND
KEEP THEM ATTRACTED!
I was talking to a good friend a few nights ago,
and he told me an interesting story.
He was walking home recently, when he walked by
a couple who were obviously in an emotional discussion.
As it turned out, the woman was breaking up with
the man, and he was trying to understand why.
The interchange went something like this:
Her: “I’m not ATTRACTED to you anymore… I just don’t
FEEL IT.”
Him: “But I would do ANYTHING to make this work…
I’ll do anything you want… just tell me what to
do.”
Her: “That’s the problem. You just don’t get it.”
….and that was all he heard.
Have you ever been there?
Have you ever had a girlfriend break up with you,
or just drift away, and the more you tried to hold
on, the further she ran from you? And the more you
tried to be a “good guy” and please her, the more
distant she became?
Well, me too. I’ve been there MORE than once in
my life.
And it ALWAYS SUCKED.
The worst part about it was NEVER UNDERSTANDING
WHAT THE HECK WAS GOING ON!
I can remember being that guy I just told you the
story about… and asking “Why? Why are you confused?
What do I have to do to make this work?”
I was willing to change, act different, or whatever.
Little did I know at the time, but it was this EXACT
attitude that led to all the problems in the first
place.
If you’ve read my newsletters for awhile now, you
probably know that women don’t feel the emotion called
ATTRACTION for guys who act weak, needy, insecure
and “WUSS-LIKE”.
But unless you know this to begin with, then it’s
ALL TOO EASY to become a “nice”, overly-accommodating,
uninteresting, predictable, boring guy… and even
though it seems logical that a woman should love to
be treated like a queen at all times, you’ve probably
found out, just like I have, that this combination
usually leads to a woman either 1) Leaving you…
or 2) Becoming increasingly controlling, domineering,
and neurotic.
So what’s up with that? Why does this happen? And
more importantly, what can we do to avoid getting into
this horrible position of losing a woman’s attention
because we’re trying to be nice to her?
Here’s my take, after studying this stuff for about
five years now…
1. ATTRACTION ISN’T A CHOICE.
In other words, we humans don’t CHOOSE who we feel
attracted to… and, JUST AS IMPORTANT, who we DON’T
feel attracted to.
ATTRACTION happens for reasons all its own, and
these reasons have evolved inside of us over the last
several million years.
While culture, peer pressure, and trends can shape
our natural drives slightly, the FUNDAMENTALS NEVER
CHANGE.
2. MEN ARE ATTRACTED MORE TO LOOKS, WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED
MORE TO PERSONALITY AND CHARACTER.
Most men can’t believe it, but to a woman your
looks just aren’t that important.
Sure, if you don’t take care of yourself, don’t
bathe, and let two of your front teeth rot out you
might scare away the ladies.
But for the most part, women will look past just
about ANY physical issue if she feels that all-important
emotion called ATTRACTION.
And ATTRACTION is created by your PERSONALITY.
For women, ATTRACTION is triggered by male qualities
like: Dominance, Humor, Unpredictability, Adventure,
Strength, Sexual Awareness, Indifference, Etc.
3. WOMEN AREN’T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES.
‘Nuff said.
4. WOMEN TEST MEN BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO.
When a woman begins to feel a romantic connection
with you, she faces an interesting problem…
How can she tell for sure if you’re character and
personality are the way you’re expressing them?
As we all know, men and women BOTH show off and
exaggerate their “good sides” while downplaying and
hiding their negative traits at first. This is why
men suck in their guts, brag, and show off… and
why women wear makeup, do their hair, and shop all
day for their clothes.
If you were a woman, and you needed to figure out
if a man was showing you his “true self”, how would
you do it?
What if you had to know FOR SURE?
The only way is to TEST on an ongoing basis, and
to keep escalating the tests to be sure.
Put all this together (with a bunch of other factors
that I don’t have time to talk about) and you get
an interesting problem that women face…
A woman responds to a man that stirs her emotions,
and causes her to want him so badly that she’ll put
aside all logic and reason to be with him.
But what if the man is just pretending? What if
he only SEEMS to be this confident, funny, manly-man
on the outside, but he’s actually a push-over WUSS-BAG
that is insecure and makes up for it by acting like
a tough guy?
Or worse yet, what if he’s a WUSS all the time,
and she just happened to settle for him because he
was available and persistent… and she didn’t have
anything better going on at the time… but now she
has other options?
Well, these are the kinds of situations, that when
played out, lead to the story that I started with…
a man begging a woman to stay… pleading with her to
explain what he has to do to keep her.
Of course, this is all WUSSY behavior, and it only
serves to put the final nail in the coffin, convincing
the object of your desire that you are ABSOLUTELY,
beyond the shadow of any doubt, a Wuss.
So what’s the answer?
The answer is to NEVER BE THOUGHT OF AS A WUSSY
AGAIN!
If you want to make your dating life a whole lot
better and easier, then stop and think about your
behavior… and resolve right now to stop acting like
a WUSS for the rest of your life.
Being “nice” and “accommodating” and “understanding”
is great for friendships and social relationships,
but it’s HORRIBLE for ATTRACTION.
An interesting, attractive woman doesn’t want a
guy that she can push around. She doesn’t want a guy
who does what she wants him to do. She doesn’t want
a little boy that she can train and raise.
An interesting, attractive woman wants a MAN.
