Matt I didn’t mean kegeling after ejaculation to regain your erection. Rather I meant kegel at a different time, aside from masturbation or sex, just as a strengthening exercise. Your results will follow slowly but surely.
And you are right, no matter how hard you will try, you may just have to wait a certain amount of time before you can excite yourself again. Try reading that link I posted earlier in the thread that talks about the refractory period from a scientific perspective. I believe it was a wikipedia citing, but still seems valid as I have read that information elsewhere.