Trying to get big, but accepting what I've got.

After more than a year of on and off PE, I’ve come to realize that some people just take longer to grow. I will keep on working towards the girth I want. One thing I noticed, though, is how down i get on myself after reading threads about how girls care so much about size, especially girth. Everytime I read this I get extremely depressed and it has definately affected my ability to get aroused without some psychological ED. I convince myself that the girl is critiquing me and hating my dick and that I can’t satisfy her. I am 6.75 BP, and 4.5 girth (at thickest). The quintisential pencil dick (maybe it needs to be a little longer).

I decided it’s time to stop being so hard on myself, and accept my size….but still work for gains. It’s a hard thing to do, trying to work for gains while already accepting what you have. Anyway I guess I’m looking for advice….I know I have a pencil dick, but I know that some girls would prefer a guy who knows how to use it over a huge dick with no clue….So help me out.

How do I use it? It curves upwards. I honestly don’t know the best way to pleasure a woman with a pencil dick. I know doggy style kind of hurts especially cause of my upward curve…..so all you players with skinny dicks please gimme some tips so I have something to feel confident about instead of me repeatedly telling myself my dick is useless.

thanks,
skinnyguy

Your dick’s fine. It is hardly a “pencil.”

Upward curves are *excellent*. A variety of missionary-type positions — or ones with her on top — should work splendidly for you. You’re right that upward curves aren’t great for doggystyle: downward is the ideal curve for that.

These things are equally important regardless of dick size: Try to find a position where you can comfortably stroke her clit while fucking her. Work on “edging” and kegeling to build up sufficient stamina, if that’s a problem for you. If you’re getting too close to coming, pull out and go down on her immediately till you’ve “calmed down.” Women love it when you make them feel sexy and wanted, and this display of affection will do just that.

Try to keep your stroke speed constant for a while. Variety is good, but switching things up every three seconds is no way to pleasure a woman. Give her time to get into the rhythm. Let her control the rhythm at times, too.

Talk dirty to her, if she digs it. Make sure to kiss her neck and her ears and any other sensitive spots while going at it. Try putting some pressure on the area between her vagina and anus with your fingers while penetrating her. Don’t neglect her lovely breasts.

By the way,

>>I know that some girls would prefer a guy who knows how to use it over a huge dick with no clue<<

ALL girls would prefer a sexually skilled small guy to a clueless big guy. Have some confidence, mate. Fuck her brains out.

skinnyguy, stop being so hard on yourself, you have got a great size and I am very sure, dude that you do know how to use your equipment. You could always get some other ideas and methods of love making from some research at library, bookstores or Menshealth magazine. Just remember you are the one that and must to happy and please with your size. If a girl has promblem with what you got, it is her problem and not your. Just enjoy what you got, that is what I have done these past 64 years.

Para-Goomba,
First off let me tell you that i friggin love the Double Dragon pic, and your name. Thanks for the quick and detailed reply. It actually made me feel better. I have no problem with stamina and cumming quick, but I have a huge problem with losing my erection, or not getting hard at all. I know this is completely psychological because I have an ex-girlfriend who I never had one ED problem with for an entire year (besides our first time). It’s all because i have esteem issues with my dick, and anxiety about performing. *yes i’m one of those guys who has trouble pissing in front of other people unless i really really have to go. The first time I hook up with a girl I get so anxious that I cant even get hard when she’s giving me head.
I’m better off accepting what I’ve got and slowly working towards gains, then to feel insufficient even if i get big gains. Some guys, or maybe just me, worry so much about perfecting our physical selves to be what girls want, that we forget the biggest way to turn a girl on is to show her how turned on you are by her. Anyway, I’m rambling….I guess it just helps me personally to be able to express myself in a forum even if people don’t read.

thanks again for the replies,
skinnyguy

>>Some guys, or maybe just me, worry so much about perfecting our physical selves to be what girls want, that we forget the biggest way to turn a girl on is to show her how turned on you are by her.<<

Those are some true words of wisdom.

It sounds like you know that your real problem is anxiety-induced ED. One approach to consider, obviously, is to quit reading this forum and doing PE; it may only be adding to your preoccupation. It does sound, however, like you are on the verge of reaching a healthier standpoint and being able to both accept what you have now and work toward achieving reasonable PE goals. You should use the Search function to try to find threads in the Sexual Health forum about psychological ED. Something helpful may turn up. Please update us on how things go for you (unless you decide you have to leave this forum).

Skinny,

I know how you man, I started with 4.5 EG, but didn’t have near your length. 6.75 BPEL is above average I was one inch shorter than you when I started PE last July. Yes, more girth and length give you more confidence, I know from experience. But you have plenty of dick to do the job now. You will get bigger if you stay the course.

You can always get some Viagra on line without a prescription. This may help overcome the mental barrier you have.

Good luck dude!

Ophiosaurus

I started at 6 (NBP) x 4.5 EG, and I’m probably at about 6.5 NBP x 4.675 (maybe a little better now). So we have similar dicks, and the same peeing problem. :)

I currently have a girlfriend, so I don’t have any psychological ED problems, but I have had the odd one when being with a new girl in the past.

One trick I found was to eat her out while jerking yourself off. That always seemed to work for me.

Good luck, sounds like you will be getting a handle on things.

I started at 5.8” EL and 4” EG, so I know how you feel. And I know how it feels to read about all of this stuff about size, women, etc, but I just try to keep moving forward. Sometimes it even motivates me to work harder. I appear to be a hard gainer in length.

Well as long as you are trying your best and learning about PE you’re certainly not FUBAR.

Hi skinnyguy,
I’m convinced that PE works for everyone, it’s just slower for some of us… As for your size it’s more then enough to please a woman.. Have you tried using a pump? PM me and I’ll tell you exactly what I’m doing… It’s odd but a few of the people I’m helping have gained more with my routine then I have and they just started! I would be happy to help you if I could…

Regularwhiteguy

Skinny, was reading over this forum and thought I’d post. I hope you are worrying less about your size, you do have a great length as it is, and from what I’ve heard from others, the girth will eventually come with the right exercises, and 4.5 really is not so bad. Also, I am giving away some info by saying this, but I once had a partner that was a good inch and half smaller than you in length and roughly the same girth. He worried alot about this, said all the time how he didn’t think it was big enough for me. Well, to make a long story short he was the best partner I have had so far in my life, and being with him for ~ a year taught me size doesn’t really matter. If you have it, cool, it can be fun. If you are not giant it’s no big deal. Work with what ya got, and it sounds like you are doing that. Good luck with things.

Ok my might get my butt flamed for this but dude….sometimes i think this board, and the storied told are another demension.

ex.

Just talk to a girl tonight, who loves big penisis. But only for their visual appeal, she just wants to see it..and that’s it! I’m not huge by any means in my head (8bp x 5.75), but to her I am HUGE. She likes to see pics that I have posted here and stuff….but do you think she want so have sex with me. A big resounding NO…she had experience with a guy whom she says is my size, which she measured to be 9.5”….of course she measured from the bottom at his testicles….dumb girl. Anyways, she said she hated it, it hurt her, and she even got naseuated from it. She swears she would NEVER have sex with another guy that size or even close. And she’s not exactly your uptight, well kept, picky kinda girl. Totally fits the mold for a size queen…but only visually. She could get all the big cock she wants but she perfers not….

Take some of the things you read here with a grain of salt. I don’t know why but for some people, alot of things on the internet just don’t match up with their reality. I am one of those people in that situation.

Granted that is only one example but I have many many more…if you want me to share PM me, and I will tell about the experiences I’ve had with girls around this campus and in high school. My experiences are a good bit different than alot of people’s on this board, not because either is false, just that people are so diverse, we can’t possibly begin to accuratly portray every women correctly on this board.

Hope all this rambling made some sense to you….