Weak orgasms, difficulty reaching them and almost no arousal

Erection quality Ie ability to get hard

Well, my problem also has a bit of that. Because of a low libido and a difficulty to reach a proper arousal, erections usually have a bad quality and are difficult to maintain. I don’t think this is the age because I saw in porn vids guys much older than me with better erections and responses.

Are your arousal and orgasms normal? Only erection quality problems? In my case is like everything is together.

Today, I’ll go to the urologist. I guess when he see the prolactin he will conclude that all is in my head and good bye. I’ll ask him about oxytocin and adrenaline though.

It was just as I thought. Just exasperating. He said that hormones are ok, that FSH and LH are female hormones and it’s because my high testosterone (so, my hormones now are very well). Why am I with this libido and orgasm problems with that hormones? I asked him about another causes aside the hormones and he doesn’t know. He even blamed me saying it’s in my mind and that I must go to a psychologist. “Orgasm are in the mind”, he said. I swear what I’m feeling is physical and not in my mind. I don’t know who else can help me. What is the cause of this? Why my orgasm is not healthy? Why my arousal is almost nonexistent? Why that difficulties to get erect and those EQ problems? If hormones are not the problem what is?

Hi Chaval

>Are your arousal and orgasms normal? Only erection quality problems? In my case is like everything is together.

I am 67 and do have some issues in getting really hard. Exercise combined with L-arginine helps. Cialis certainly helps. A cockring helps. Orgasims are fine but can be delayed. When I was younger I had good control and could generally decide when to orgasm. I suspect the anti-histamines I have been taking have had an effect and now have tried going off them and using more nettle tea combined with quercetin/ bromelans and garlic / horseradish as a substitute. I still use a nasal steroid. Seems to working. May be able to avoid anti-histamines except when a weather front comes through.

As I mentioned earlier I went through a month where I could not ejaculate. I put that down to temporary nerve damage from improperly removing an Xsleeve.

You mentioned in your other post that the urologist thought it could be in your head. You mentioned earlier that you had been taking SSRIs. It is possible that the urologist’s advice is worth considering. Even if you do not want to see a shrink you might reflect on what is going on in your life. Relationships? Do you use porn and how that may affect you? Just suggestions.

Austfred

PS Look at your exercise regime. Cardiac will enhance your EQ and should help in other areas as well.

Thanks, austfred.

Maybe my problem is something related to neurotransmitters. These days I’m thinking about that. My hormones seem to be ok, I think I don’t have any circulatory problems, so maybe those SSRIs and anxiolytics turned something in my neurotransmitters unbalanced. Maybe if I take a medicine that makes the opposite of SSRIs I can correct the issue. Maybe my serotonin is blocking the orgasms because is unbalanced.

Do you know which specialist I must go to check that?

A question for sentii. Were you taking any SSRIs or anxiolytics?

Hi Chaval

>Do you know which specialist I must go to check that?

I have no knowledge about SSRIs etc, sorry

Austfred

Anyone knows? Which specialist treats neurotransmitters?

Usually it’s a psychiatrist. SSRIs are antidepressants.

Aside of psychiatrist? I don’t want to go to a psychiatrist.

I’ll go to a neurologist in two weeks. If he doesn’t know what’s going on with my sex drive and orgasms…

I was 15 days waiting to go to the neurologist just for nothing. He told me that he doesn’t know anything about my problem. I told him that the SSRI and anxiolytics had to leave something unbalanced in my neurotransmitters which still persists and if there is a test to see how they are and he told me that not. Then I asked how do they know that antidepressants and that stuff affects neurotransmitters and he said that there is no way to know. Are these people playing with neurotransmitters without having a way to verify what is actually happening with them? I’m now quite puzzled and more concerned than I was. The guy has sent me to a psychiatrist or a sexologist. I’m sure that those drugs left me something wrong that are fucking my libido but nobody has a response. How can now I check how my neurotransmitters are working? How can I know where my problem comes from?

Unfortunately, that’s kind of how it works. There’s really no way for anyone to know if you have a particular imbalance other than for a doctor to make the most likely diagnosis based on your complaint, prescribe the drug that has been shown to be most effective for that diagnosis, and wait to see if there’s any improvement in your condition.

I think it’s important to bear in mind, however, that you're the one who is supposing that you have a problem with your brain chemistry. You really can’t just walk into a doctor’s office, tell him, “There’s something wrong with my neurotransmitters,” and expect him just say, “Okay, let me fix that for you.” Rather than making the diagnosis yourself and being critical of whether the medical community is lining up behind you, I think you should go to that psychiatrist/sexologist, be totally honest and forthcoming about your problem, and let that doctor do his best to help you.

I know SSRIs and anxiolytics mess with the libido and orgasms but the problem is I don’t know any medicine that makes the opposite effect (I read in England they are making something to restore libido in people who were taking those drugs but it’s not in the market yet). I’m supposing the problem is with neurotransmitters because I was told my hormones are OK since I made the treatment for lowering prolactin and my testosterone is a 10% high. So, I thought that, since the effects are quite similar to what I was feeling when taking anxiolytics maybe is something related to neurotransmitters. I don’t know what else can be. I must go checking one by one. I need to find a sexologist.