Well, I'm fucked

Here it is, guys. I turn to you as my only hope to maintain my dignity and keep me free from embarassment. I now attend a community college. This place is very tight, we are probably about less than 100 students in my program. Recently I started dating a girl from my class, who I really get along quite well with.

The problem is that the last three times we had sex, I came in less than 3 minutes (in total, each time, plus the few moments I had to stop in between positions to calm myself from finishing). I am desperate like you have no idea. I am starting to notice she is getting very frustrated by this, with reason. I’ve had this problem a few times before. In the past year and a half, I gave lengthy tries at edging and kegelling. Neither worked. Edging made me last about just as long, but made me precum myself a few times before even getting intimate with chicks. Kegelling just made me lose my erection when I tried to clench myself from coming. Starting/stopping has become ridiculous as I find myself stopping every 30 seconds in bed.

It can’t be my health. I’ve cut down and I smoke less than half, daily, the amount of cigarettes I smoked in 2010. I also lost 15 lbs since January. I also walk a loooot during the day.

I’ve come to the conclusion that I would go for ANYTHING, even if it involves drugs or medication, that would make me last more in bed. I’ve ordered, as I mentionned in another thread, Black ant pills. It’s pretty much, according to other TP members, generic viagra. Which might not even help either since premature ejaculation is not necessarily the target of such drugs. So it might not even help delay my ejaculation.

HELP ME PLEASE.

Have you tried masturbating before having sex?

This is what I would do. It the premature ejaculation is that bad masturbate twice before.

Co-sign the above.

This may also be useful - some find that certain anti-histamines have a delaying effect: mspert - Benadryl epic orgasm effect.

In my experience I had premature ejaculation to the point of embarrassment when I ejaculated too often or when I had periods where I had poor erection quality and If I go long periods of not ejaculating I have a rock solid erection and feel like I could blow just from looking at a girl but for some reason I last longer during sex and have more control. I also know from experience being nervous causes you to blow your load easy but I am sure you know you need to relax already.

Tell me is it normal for you to get off quickly or have you in the past had sex fine with no problem and if you have had sex fine before what do you think has changed recently to cause it? Is it nerves? She is so damn fine you get off easy? Tight pussy? Do you take any steroids or bodybuilding drugs to mess with your hormones?

Cut your cigs down to nothing and do some proper exercise and you might be able to rule out your health as an issue.

Relax. There’s no such thing as premature ejaculation unless you stop trying to please her before she’s had enough. Just get busy licking and rubbing until you’re ready for more. Also, focus more on what your hands are doing during intercourse.

Edging did it for me. It’s really helpful.

Masturbate often and use very thick condom, so can reduce the sensations.

Also there are delay creams to be had. Do not let this issue be a problem or worry or then you are fucked.

Yeah, there are also long lasting condoms. I believe trojan makes them……extended pleasure. Maybe add a few minutes onto it. Just a quick fix till you find out the main problem. But the masturbation thing seems like a good start. How old are you?

I always got off very quick. I think the longest I’ve lasted was about 7 or 8 minutes of consistent thrusting. I was amazed. Excluding that time Id always come in less than 5 minutes, easy. And I’m not talking about 5 minutes of continuous smacking. More like having to stop completely every minute or so to keep myself from finishing. She absolutely loves it when I start pumping at her hardcore, but I do so for about 10 seconds and then jizz. I really doubt it’s nerves anymore. She does feel pretty tight. She said she had sex two three times (she only had one boyfriend before me, and she is 19). I don;t take any drugs.

I started trying black ant pills, which are supposed to be generic viagra. It gives me a nice bone (sometimes) along with a headache. But does not make me last any longer.

I’ve tried masturbating before sex. That just completely kills my bone for the next hour or two.

Any recommendable, cheap delay creams anybody could recommend?
Or any alternative to the american benadryl, as I live in Europe, and apparently the european version does not have the same principal ingredient that can potentially delay orgasm as the US one.
Perhaps I’ll try the special condoms.
Thanks a lot, guys. Hope I can figure this out before she walks off on me :S

Some say antidepressants or benzos work extremely well for this. A friend of mine pops some Ativan before sex and says it works wonders.

The problem is that you can become addicted to those drugs, which have some serious side effects - not least ED. So you could go from the bad to the worse.

Tried a cock-ring?

From what I understand, the orgasm response is a process. It’s triggers are mental and physical. If you can identify your triggers then you can interrupt your process.

Many have trouble from masturbation because we speed the process as much as possible to cum before we get caught or to hurry and do other stuff. But then sex comes along and we have effectively trains ourselves to cum as fast as possible.

This is where edging comes in. It let’s you identify your triggers and then can avoid them. The most common physical one is the kegal response. So by using reverse kegals you can stave off the orgasm for a while.

The creams and condoms are the quick fix but edging is the permanent fix. It may take you as long as a month or two but when you master it you will have total control and she will totally love that. Women are funny that way.