went for a "test run" with a hooker and I could nearly not cum

Decided I should try what it’s like to get laid and got myself a hooker because I wanted to see how I would perform in bed. Was awkward at first, but when she started blowing I had no issues with getting hard. Tried with her on top, maybe lasted 5 minutes before she wanted to switch places. Went missionary. god it felt like I could go on for hours without cumming. it was good, just a bit exhausting but maybe 20-30 minutes in I want to cum but I couldn’t. I was actually worried at that very moment that I wouldn’t be able to cum. Tried pulling out, stroking my dick, had her stroke it for me, thrust it between her thighs, put it back in again, still nothing till I felt like I reached a threshold that I suddenly start going soft. Tried fighting it by kegelling hard. In the end I took off the condom and beat my dick over her. Took me like almost 10 minutes of manual stimulation till I could finally cum.

Question is, do condoms really kill the sensation that much to delay orgasm that long or is there something else going on entirely? Maybe being new to this and stuff?

PS. just realized how much of a mental block I had to not have tried other positions

Condoms do kill a lot for me.

But prostitutes have always made me cum. Only done it a handful of times but I loved it each time.

Something about “sex as an agreement” turns me on like crazy.

It is some sort of psychological block.

Not sure what its like for others but I cum faster/easier with someone I know well or for long.

With total strangers, it I have the same issues as you.

Most of my sexual activities was with escorts, and yes, happened just like you described, specially the first time.

Also on hind sight, at some point she kept on telling me to cum already, almost came across as nagging too. Therr was a moment where I was beating my dick on top of her for 5 minutes and I said “I’m cumming” and it took me like 10 minutes more before actually cumming and took her that amount of time as well to turn her head away and brace herself for a cumshot that it was almost funny the whole time :D anyway, I suspect her trying to “nag” me on might have had a bad effect on me. Also, she kept saying I was too rough in her, that I was “too big” but I reckon it was just some paid acting going on and being able to catch on to people being pretentious and having a particular dislike for it may have also contributed further. Note that she has had one childbirth the previous year and it’s not the tightest hole I could have gotten. I might be reading too much into it, who knows, maybe i WAS too rough on her puss, but I’ll never know if I don’t get more action to cross-reference my experience with.

I had the same happen to me. I have a hard time to begin with reaching orgasm and the girl I was with had an amazing body and face. Partially due to the fact she was not able to orgasm I was not able to either. I generally can’t orgasm till she reaches orgasm. Quite sure it’s all in my mind and the extra excitement of her reaching orgasm steps things up a level or two. I was able to reach orgasm at the end in missionary but had to work very hard at it. Not sure if it was due to the extra small condom she put on me or just the lack of intamacy as well.

Don’t worry about it. I couldn’t cum the first time I had sex, and it was with a woman I was dating and comfortable with. Condoms do kill a ton of sensation for a lot of guys, and you also aren’t likely to figure out exactly what feels best for you the first time you ever do it. It can take some experimenting with the same woman to discover what best gets you off. Women’s pussies also vary a lot in how good they might feel to you. With some women, I could cum easily even with a condom, whereas with others, even without a condom, it’s challenging.

Congratulations on getting and keeping an erection with no problem with an escort. If you had no problems your first time ever having sex, and it was with a complete stranger, you are probably not very prone to anxiety-related ED!

I just had a second night with the same girl. No problem with erections at first but this time I didn’t cum and I just gave up. We we’re slightly more intimate this time around though. Man this is frustrating.

I just had a second night with the same girl. No problem with erections at first but this time I didn’t cum and I just gave up. We we’re slightly more intimate this time around though. Man this is frustrating.

If you want to get your dick more sensitive, usually the first step is to stop masturbating for a while and then only allow yourself to use a much softer, gentler technique when you jerk off. At first, you may not be able to make yourself cum at all, but eventually, you can retrain your penis to be more sensitive, and you’ll be able to orgasm more easily. Some men replace their hands with a Fleshlight or other similar masturbation device if they want to regain sensitivity. Again, it may be frustrating at first, but if you can resist the urge to go back to extremely vigorous, tight-gripped masturbation, it will work.

People often also talk about cutting out porn if you want to enjoy real women more. For some men, it makes a huge difference. For me, it doesn’t seem to matter much. Worth experimenting with, though.

In any case, when you have a long-term relationship with a girlfriend in the future, and you don’t have to use condoms (hopefully there are other contraceptive methods that work for you and her…), you’ll be glad that you aren’t a premature ejaculator :)

You are too tensed. Have a drink before. Not more than one. Strictly.