Why cant I get an erection??

Well it just seems like you denounce everyone’s observations and advice. Maybe because you know the real issue? Or maybe the truth scares the crap out of you so you would rather not discuss it?

I hate to denounce your observation but that is not the case, I’m considering everything that has been posted and trying to come up with a logical answer so in order to get more feedback, I have been trying to respond with the best and most logical answers as I can in order to help keep this thread from getting buried then getting no more feedback. Capiche?

If I knew the real issue I would not have started the thread! I would spend little time here too because I don’t really need to increase my cock size. I just want it to work properly. I do not know the real issue. That is why I am asking for feedback in hopes of others who had the same problem and a way to conquer it.

I thought the truth was that I had a vascular problem and I was very scared, but that has proven not to be the case after finally waking up to a full on hard erection.
I would rather not discuss any of this but that would not help so I am reaching out.

I am very thankful for all feedback I apologize if it appears that I am denouncing anyone.

No, the anecdote is that the less you make an issue of something or pay attention to something, the easier it balances itself to a neutral state. It’s got nothing to do with what you do or don’t do in regards to women or the like. In the above post you mention you were scared because you thought you had vascular problems. You’re in a negative feedback loop.

Just calm down about your ED. Calm down in general, you’ve got something somewhere ruining your erections, you’ll find out what it was in hindsight.

You may need to heat your tissues with a warm heating pad so they can relax.

If you strained or pulled something heat is a vasodilator and a blood flow promoter.

If you pulled something your diversion goes from erection to worry more about what you pulled, if your anxious then promote blood flow by working out or doing hand grip workouts to reduce stress. There are A LOT of stresses that lead to anxiety and that can lesson stimulation a lot.

Potentially focus on something that makes you happy so that your normal systems work again. Forget about the PE for a while and focus on joyful stimulation by doing something you enjoy.

I’ve read a little about your ED through other threads and I know you really want to fix it. Actually it would seem you NEED to fix it and id agree. You should approach it as a holistic issue IMO.
1.diet, I’m no expert but getting enough minerals and salt is important for fluids of which blood IS
2.injuries, common practical remedies etc.
3.herbal supplements/ointments I really suggest macca, but that’s just me.
4. Stress
5. Anxiety/mental block. Perhaps see an energy worker (don’t knock em’) or consider acupuncture

There are probably more factors to consider but if you think of all of them and explore every possibility thoroughly then its just a process of elimination. Great to hear you are having a win to some degree

Edit: write them all down on some paper, and don’t give up. Fulfill the logical solution to each possibility, even write down possibilities you have considered in the past and try different solutions. If you are getting morning wood there is hope have you read the how to get raging morning wood thread?

Sounds to me like talking to a professional could solve this in a much faster, easier way. Frankly, if this was a problem for me for even a short amount of time this would be my first move. Look at this like any medical condition, like a stomach pain for example. Yeah, you would scour WebMD and all sorts of articles and forums to find a possible solution/s and just test them till you get a result. Or, you could go see a doctor in person and get a resolution much faster.

Yes, paying for a doctor costs you money up front, but what is the cost of all the hours of your time spent researching and self-diagnosing? What is your time worth to you? If medical attention makes your penis work again, then you can instead spend that research time on PE for example.

I had one of these erections before it was fucken awesome the girth was 7+ inches length 8+ inches.

All I have to say if it was like that I would be one happy camper.

I meant every single time of course .

I know nothing about penis’s other than the pleasure they bring me. Lol But you asked for my advice so I gave it :p

If something were wrong with my Wazoo, I’d be getting it checked out ASAP. I don’t understand why you wouldn’t. :confused:

7inches soft here is my two cents and that’s all it is , is my two cents. I think you desire cock worship, and that could be the root of your ED, just my two cents , not trying to offend you just did know if you were aware of this 7 inches soft.

I think your approach sounds like the most logical one and it is already working for me so I think it is the right one.

I tried not worrying about it and just forgetting about it altogether. I decided to kick back and relax and watch some adult videos (first time in over a month!) without even thinking that I wouldn’t be able to get a hard on and not even caring either way.
It didn’t take long before the blood was pumping and I was getting erections like nothing was ever wrong. I was able to edge for a few hours each time and was able to get subsequent erections not too long after several good ejaculations.

All the stress from worrying is gone and my flaccid is hanging even longer and thicker now and I have been getting enough blood flow to get random semi erections as well. My balls have even dropped back down and are hanging lower too! :)

I think I’m going to be good now.

Looking ,back I think the problem was that I must have been so upset for whatever reason, and could not stay hard. Then, I must have over-reacted and really thought there was something wrong physically and that must have made me panic to the point that I was not able to get hard. I guess that is what you mean by a negative feedback loop?

What I am going to do now is give myself enough time rest, while I let my balls reload and then, hopefully, my EQ come back up to the point where I can get real good ones like the one I woke up with a while ago. Then I will try to gradually get back to where I was able to edge for several hours at a time.

Thanks for your helpful advice! ..and everyone’s feedback on this. It is much appreciated.

Glad to hear the big guy is alright. ;)

I know this post is quite late, but I used to get erections ALL DAY in high school and had to hide it for various and somewhat obvious reasons.

One thing I’ve learned over the years is that I love my manhood very much and when I give him my attention and focus he gives it right back ;)

I don’t think about an erection I just think about how much I love my cock and admire it in my hand and how it feels to touch and to be touched.

Not saying I love EVERYTHING about him because I probably wouldn’t have found this site if I didn’t haha! But it does start with an admiration to get me going. Cock worship as someone said previously.

That point LilPEguy made is really important. If you feel that your cock isn’t wanted or needed it or good enough it becomes something you subconsciously wish away. You’ve got to feel that it’s the greatest thing ever, all the time. Then the energy and power ( and the blood ) goes to it. THEN you can bend it, stretch it and shape it into something more magnificent.

Also, your erections often come from something or someone that causes desire in you. In your case it sounds like you want your desire to come from someone else’s admiration for you first. You want someone else to say it’s o.k and your cock is great. Then you can feel desire for them. It’s a bit backwards or passive and feminine. ( which is o.k in certain situations with some people ) That even applies to you yourself. It’s a passive role. You can be more active when you’re not as self conscious. Self consciousness comes from a wait and see guessing attitude. Is it going to be o.k? What’s going to happen? How is it going to be? What’s it going to act like? What’s it look like? All that stuff. It’s not good for being active and assertive and full of desire. Let your cock express itself before you put restrictions on it. Let it be alright. Judge and evaluate it later.

There are times I felt like having sex and I told myself that she wanted it bad and was teasing me to take her. Luckily I’m with the kind of woman who doesn’t mind if I take her whenever I want. ( well most of the time ). The point is when I ask her later ‘were you teasing me and wanted to do it?’ She’d tell me no it was all me. Later, I realized it was true. I made it happen because I really wanted it to happen and made myself believe it was because she wanted it too. She enjoyed it because she felt my desire. I just made it all up in myself. It’s all mental. You need a positive sexual attitude. You’ve got to think your cock is amazing and she wants it and will love it. She most likely will. Or you will love and appreciate your own cock. If you don’t then it’s not amazing and she won’t want it. It’s all up to you.