A lie can make my life ruin, please help me

Well actually, it sounds to me like a true Internet love-story, I remember the first time I was in-loved, we were far away and only talking on the phone… slim chances of her deceiving our Indian guy :) (unless he`s a rich Indian guy he`s got no problome)

Damn so it’s happened to you too.

JAPP has exhaustive experience with American women, although, in truth, his survey is still in progress.

It started in puberty, when he began his in-depth study of all American women. At the end of his teens he had honestly tried to have meaningful relationships with most of the women in Texas. By his early twenties he’d covered a lot of the Mid-West as well as Michigan. He hit a snag or two in the Ozarks, but he’s trying to finish with the women of California now. He’ll be done there soon and will have the time to cover the Pacific Northwest, then move on to Florida, and finally finish up with the women in the Northeast. If he can he’ll hit Nova Scotia and do a sample tour of Canada.

The reason he’s behind over here is, obviously, he took time out to do a tour of India.

Definitely go to him for relationship advice. He will set you straight. He has great objectivity, uncolored by bitterness. The seemingly misogynist tone he takes has nothing to do with his own anger management or grief processing skills. No, the man’s an expert.

He knows women.

American … Indian … American Indian … you name it.

Lying to impress is always a bad plan. It heightens insecurity.

Try to honestly be yourself. She’ll love you that way or it isn’t love.

You said she’s 21. I assume you’re close in age. Young relationships are full of passion and exuberance; it’s great - part of the fun. Be aware that young people go through many changes and if you set your expectations high you set yourself up for greater disappointment.

I doubt she cares much about the size of your dick. I’d be willing to bet you brought it up and not her. Her fantasies about you will have to do with romance, not body parts. Focus on how make her feel.

Like DiamondsWinds said: Be more than your cock so you’re not just a dick.

Should you ever be disappointed in love, look inside and see where you can improve.

Or talk to JAPP.

I was supposed to come see her and meet for real and hold her in my arms or what ever, I was crying for her and shit, we talked like 3 months on the phone. 2 weeks before we`re supposed to meet she dumps me saying she`s back with her ex. My first love , on the phone …pathetic. A pathetic story with a pathetic me…

If you didn’t say 7 inches, later you can say 7 and add a metric unit behind it and then say, “Oh, that’s how we measure in my country”.
So as long as it ends up 7 something, you’re good to go. Also be very careful with internet relations. I had one once, and it was the same exact description of yours (how much she loves you ,can’t wait to see you, etc).
Mine was great for months… . . Then she started needing cash. She started having all these “problems” and needed my help to bail her out. After all, we did love each other enough to do this for each other, right?
I’m not that dumb, I told her no. I would help her, but not send money.
Her problems got so severe within minutes, that there was nothing I could do that would be done quick enough, unless I sent her money to bail her out through western union.
Well, I was upset, because up to that point I really did like her. But I saw what she was doing and told her I will be on the next flight over. She said no.
She didn’t want me to “get in trouble too”. So I said I will buy her ticket and just get on the plane and come here, and I would take care of her until she got situated.Oh No, it was to dangerous, and she all of a sudden lost her passport, and earlier that day she got robbed and almost raped and blah blah blah.
So I said, well the only thing left for me to do is send you a few thousand dollars so you can come here. And she perked right up and said thank you thank you. So I said , actually the only other option I have is to tell you to fuck off you nasty whore. And I never heard from her since.
Well, for a few months anyway.
She emailed me once trying to apologize for trying to scam somebody that she really cared for.
And my reply was… . . Screw.

Anyways, I hope yours is real, but be smart until you are actually together.
And since you have almost a year until you meet, that is plenty of time to make some gains. Use the newbie routine, and be patient. AND DON’t SEND CASH!

You were sure ‘she’ was a woman?

Lying to impress someone does two things: it reveals your own deep-seated insecurity and it has the potential to cause a breach of trust. Not good in friendship, worse in a romantic relationship.

Bullshitting about centimeters and alternate means of measurement is just digging the hole deeper.

I doubt she’ll ever bring up. My advice is let it go. If, for some unknown reason, she does bring it up you should just say you were exaggerating to impress because of how much she means to you.

Dude girls can cry over anyone lol, watch out!!

Never believe the tears of a girl dude :)

Ain’t that true…

Everyone seem Frusted here whoever gave me suggest( except Few one)

Well, Thank you so much guys!

My first girlfriend was like that. Well, I don’t know if I should call her that. Anyhow she was from sweden, really good looking, we talked on the phone a fair bit, things seemed to be going really well, then she dumped me. HAHA

Fast forward nearly 10 years, and I get involved with someone I’ve been friends with online for a good few years, I visit her twice, we have our problems, I worry like shit cause I’ve been dumped in an long distance relationship before, she tells me not to worry, blah, blah, I get dumped in the end. Oh well, looks like I’m stuck with women from here.

Man they cry over soap operas for christ sakes,

Nice bit of bitter misogyny there eh ;) :p

8target6:
I doubt that she is coming to India just for your 7.5 penis. She seems to be in love with YOU. One thing that seems true to me is that women place HONESTY high on their list. If you come clean before you meet it will be better for you in the long run. This way you will seem very honest and women are very attracted to honesty!

You could just explain that when you first started communicating that you liked her so much that you wanted to impress her. But now, she would probably be even more impressed with honesty.

Honesty is a big one for many of us, male or female.

Still, with this thing I don’t agree that running to her in a confessional mode is necessary, nor do I think it will improve the situation. I think he is much better served to let it go and say nothing.

I do think it is important to be honest and to discipline yourself to ensure this, but … I’d guess that penis measurement (as an issue) is really in his mind and not hers.

With her I’d bet it is a non-issue.

I would bet $1000 dollars that he brought the subject up in the first place. If he says nothing more about it and focuses on romancing her, communicating with her (honestly), and such, by the time sex rolls into their life together the last thing that will be on her mind is “Let’s see … is it really 7.5.”

Focus on the things you to do with her. Focus on being kind, listening to her, making her laugh: in essence, focus on the quality of her experience and make sure she’s happy. She’ll do what needs to be done with what you have (whatever it is) when the time comes. If you do it right she may even like it.

You make sound like she’s going to be ready with a tape measure. She won’t. She could care less. From what you said it’s you who’s all strung-out and apoplectic. Let it go.

Don’t confess. It will appear weak, and it will be weak. Save confessional for something really important.

In this situation confessing will do two things: it will reveal that you are insecure sexually and that you lied. These are not traditionally good moves to make when romancing a woman. Let it go and just make sure you don’t lie to her going forward.

Thank You Mr. Happy , You made me Happy,!

Thank you so much once again

Mr. Happy, you should defiantly write a book. If you do I will buy a copy, but if it is a conservative bashing book, I will still read it, but only because you wrote it.