Are these insecurities learned?

So I was reflecting this morning on the past 9 months and thought, hmmm, I’ve gone the better part of 30 years being pretty damn confident, if not outright cocky. Even during the later years when the ED began, because I hadn’t realized it as a problem, I was still pretty confident if not outright cocky. It seems that I just chalked it up to stress, life, etc.

When I finally accepted that something may be wrong and began to search for solutions, I found Thunder’s and learned about this thing called PE. Now fast forward 12 months (I didn’t start PE until four months after finding TS) and I’m having more feelings of insecurity than ever, which leads me to the question, are these insecurities “learned”. I mean, I’m now at a point where I don’t want to have sex if I am not at “max” erection. There’s actually thought and preparation that goes in to whether it’s the “right time” on a level that I’ve never considered before.

This seems to have the saying “ignorance is bliss” written all over it; or it’s a really bad case of over-thinking and over-analyzing.

Has this happened to anyone else or does it even make sense?

My story is very similar to yours in many ways. I didnt pay too much attention to my dick until ED showed up. Now I am keenly aware of every aspect of my penis. I manage my ED fairly well and seldom have a “failure to perform” incident, and am more likely to have a delayed ejaculation (go on and on and on) than a FTP. Yet I never take it for granted that an erection is going to be there; I am always considering how my dick feels, will it work, and similar.

Early in my ED journey I was frustrated that my EQ was bouncing around so I tried a cock ring, with which I always have a max erection. So using one became a regular thing. Took out that worry of EQ.

I would suggest that you rhink on what you are calling “insecurities” and find a way, thought process or action, to shift that to “awareness”. Get ahead of it.

One huge positive which came from my ED issue is the very open communication with my wife about it. She knew I had dick problems before I acknowledged them, so there could not be any hiding the problems from her. She became part of the solution in that I am totally open with her and she knows everything that is going on with my dick, ED and PE.

I’m not so sure that this attitude is not a good thing. A heightened sense of awareness allows me to identify and head off any potential issues before they become larger problems. Basically extreme proactiveness.