Big Guy - Average Dick - My Story

Just wanted to get all this off my chest. Responses / replies welcome.

I am 49 and 5.75 x 4.9. In my teens I seduced my fair share of women and got the impression I was a good lover and had a lot to offer on inner levels, women were interested, and attracted.

At 18 I got together with a girl where the personal connection was intense but the sex became a problem. Size was an issue but of course with love and lust it can be overcome. But when other strains came it became a bigger issue in my mind, confidence suffered and then it spiralled down into obsession.

Knowing what I know now we were fairly incompatible size wise. She admitted she could usefully take another three inches. Man that hurt.

I’ll say again - if everything else had been right the size thing would not have been a deal breaker - but I let it get totally out of control.

That relationship lasted several years and was just very painful. Being young we both had some other lovers and it was obvious that a) she loved me b) she could really have used a bigger dick (more than most - she was anatomically large).

My next long relationship the sex was great. She had had a tiny ex followed by a big ex followed by me. I had some insecurity but I knew it was a good fit, no problem.

I am a size where there is everything to play for. An inch smaller and I would be small. An inch bigger and I would be big to some, decent to others. Obviously I am not talking about size queens or those who have had dozens of men. More or this later.

I got drawn into SPH as a fantasy before it was even a thing. Why is it so damn hot?

Over the years I half heartedly tried a few enlargement techniques but didn’t get far.

In the age range I am in the kind of women I meet etc they mostly have all had all sizes, size is not their priority by any means, but they could all appreciate 7 x 5.5

My most recent relationship was several years with a woman who has had three kids and a lot of men. She never enjoyed sex beyond the first minute until she met me. I reached her in some way emotionally that allowed her to let go and experience orgasms with a man pretty much for the first time ever - but not full orgasms through penetration. She has a beautiful body but shows her age.

When she first saw my cock she was shocked by how small it appeared. I am 6’ 4” and a grower and probably nervous and shrivelled when she first saw it. Her expectation was big man = big cock. I remember her vagina felt rough and tense as well as quite loose. I also remember her suggesting I approach from behind. It was only too obvious what she meant - she couldn’t feel much. Long story short we fell in love and our love-making became a journey of discovery. I told her my insecurities and she was happy to discuss which was a great joy for me.

I took up PE seriously and results were good - I went from 5.5 x 4.9 to 6.5 x 5.2. It was a long process with mistakes made along the way, injuries and so on.

She was especially impressed on one occasion (we were not living together at that time and I had really been training hard) and she said - if you want the truth - you are now average. That’s her perception and what more can you ask than that. As I say she has had a lot of cock.

I remember one time when we were really in love and she had come to live with me and we made love after a month of being apart and she just could not feel me. This is partly an emotional cut off thing with her. She was so disappointed and she knew I liked the truth and she said in a moment of passion - ‘if you can’t fill me full of cock, fill me full of spunk.’ I was so in love it didn’t bother me at all, in fact it was very hot. But it has stayed with me in quite a heavy way.

Our general sexual experience was I adored her, she often preferred me to just enter without much foreplay so she had a chance of feeling me. If I made her come through foreplay she would be so wet and wide that she couldn’t feel much (though I still loved it).

It pisses me off to see that honestly if I were bigger we would have had a better life together. Or maybe that’s not true - but it seems to be.

We are no longer together. I am alone in fact. I have given up PE and my results have faded. I am a bit worried about injury and I also find myself unwilling to make PE a priority - many other things to do.

I have had some great sex in my life and that’s more than some people so I am grateful. Size is not everything but wouldn’t it be great to be 7.5 x 5.5 and have a chance of reaching the A spot?

I have read enough tell all girl confessions to know that average size is rarely a deal breaker but I still believe - perhaps wrongly - that an 8 incher is a near magical power that I bitterly wish I had.

As I said before for people of my size and there are so many - there is all to play for with PE. An extra inch is a big deal but two extra inches length and the girth that hopefully goes with it is the real deal. But that takes like hours a day of self-obsessive PE. And I think we all know girth is the real driver of pleasure.

Has anyone else noticed a lot of women say - ‘size is not important but I do like girth’. I don’t think they mean to drive us crazy but…

Lots of motivation there - but not quite enough it seems to actually do anything. Maybe I can find inspiration here?

Its not too late. If I were you I would put in those couple of hours of PE a day. When you reach the age of 55 and have a 7.5 x 5.5, you wil still feel that something that you have wished for, and women will also still like it.

P.s. For my knowledge, are you talking about BPEL measurements or NBPEL?

BPEL yes

That is quite inspirational thanks. How much time are you spending a day?

in my experience after talking to around 5-6 women, all of them had a preference for a 8 - 9 inch cock, 6 - 6.5 girth.
One of them was totally open about her desire , initally told me 7.5-8.2 inch NBP, but later told me 10 inch.
Some weels later she repented and came to a final decision to desire a 8.5inch NBP, to reach her cervix consistently.

I showed her danny D, lex, and mandingo, as examples of 8.5, 9, and 10 inch, and she preferred danny D,considering the others too big,
however she admitted mandingo appearance was stronger, veinier, less loose skin feeling more powerful to her visually. She liked the strength, not the size that much.
She emphasized the desire to feel totally penetrated. a big one made her feel more protected and beautiful.

Many can say size is not important, but when given enough confidence to talk fully honestly, my experience is women will say 8-9 inch is most desirable.

However the most popular dildos have only 7 insertable inch. by far.

Under my understanding, this means women have a distorted idea of what a penis size is. When they buy the dildo they really enjoy most, they think that´s a 9 inch, cos make them feel they had the best man, but in reality it´s a 8inch bone pressed. 7 inch insertable, or non bone pressed.

I am scratching the 8inch BPEL 5.5 girth, and honestly i feel like a have a ridiculously small dick.

am far from 8.5nbpel x 6.5 girth. that´s my goal… so I still need 1.5 inch from the extende, and a lots and lots of clamp.. but even then, my head will be comparatively supersmall, with a fat long shaft… weird.

It’s all relative isn’t it? I’m grateful not to have a 4 incher - there are plenty out there.

I’m surprised you feel small. You say you want 6.5 girth - I am sure you are gonna get turned down by a lot of women with that as being almost like a coke can.

Even if I had a 4 incher it wouldn’t be the end of the world - it’s just another obstacle in life of which there are many.

I personally don’t believe size makes you more or less of a man.

At my age now I get to thinking about this a few minutes a day - when I was 19 it was full on obsession - that’s a damn shame and I wouldn’t wish it on any one.

Honestly what you are saying about female preference for size sounds like on a day when they are at their most horny. For sure the majority of women would not want to deal with a 9 incher on a daily basis. I reckon about one woman in three wants 7.5 NBPEL 5.75 EG, one out of three wants more and one in three wants less.

the woman i talk about has had 2 rape experiences and she is obsessed with having one that reach the deepest and clean that deep spot from the traces of the 2 rapists.
So that 8.5nbp x 6.5 desire comes from a rather traumatic thing.

we are all a bit crazy around here.

Nozzle, bravo for turning a thread where you were seeking inspiration and motivation to one where you were offering it in support of another member. Well played.

In my opinion, and experience, sex for women is 90% mental and maybe higher. The saying “happy wife, happy life” is true and definitely applies to sex. I am extremely lucky to be married to a very sexual women who is ready to go almost anytime. But all that changes in an instant if I have done something to make her unhappy. Raging hot to ice cold like a switch is flipped.

Keep ‘em happy, make sure they know they are in a safe place, and encourage and support them in bedroom activities and the sex will be amazing.

Wow!!!!!!!

Talk about a plot twist! Yea, see and if someone did not know that of her past, they could easily fall victim to her wants or needs of a huge dick.

Anyways Nozzle, you sound mentally stable. You know what to do, considering you’ve made good gains in the past. Remember also, not all women can take the same size as another. It’s a very subjective subject. Just stay consistent, and don’t let life get in your way and you can enjoy a bigger and healthier cock.

Thanks for sharing your experiences. Conversely, I often see super-skinny guys touted as having massive dicks. But a major contribution to this perception is that the guy is 20 years old and weighs 112 pounds. Comparatively, his just-over-average cock looks like a log.

Hi Nozzle,

Thanks for sharing your story. Investigate ultrasound heat - I got quick growth with that and others have too but care needs to be taken

Gaining volume with Kyrpa

Never tried that - thank you I will

I have doing PE for a 18 months now. Started a year before that but stopped because I thought 90 min. to 2 hours a day was too much time to spend on PE. Now I find the time to do it. The only regret is I should of put in the time the year before. When you see the gains it all becomes clear that the time you spend is well spent.

I was getting gains using Phallosan so it’s not as if you can’t be doing other things. I just cannot be spending 2 hours a day totally focused exclusively on PE. Any thoughts on that?