Body Dysmorphia?

I’m new to TP. Been lurking here for a while and finally decided to join. I’m still having trouble jelqing properly.. Feels like I’m just pulling skin and nothing more, but I’ll figure it out eventually.

Anyway, I’m 5’10, 150lbs, 21 years old, and I THINK my BP EL is 6 and my EG is 5.1. I’ve been with a lot of girls and I’ve been told I’m a really cute guy but I can’t help but think I’m not nearly big enough. Girls have complimented my size telling me it’s much thicker than average or a little bigger than average, but I KNOW they need more. I tend to intentionally push girls away after I hook up with them, mainly because I’m secretly insecure about my penis size. I’ve ruined many friendships like this.

Recently I fell in love with a girl and I’m almost 100% sure her thug ex was hung like a horse.. And that’s the only guy she’s been with. I know when I pull mine out she is gonna be disappointed. She hasn’t had sex in a long time and she does kegels so there’s a good chance she could be really tight, but I just don’t know. It’s messing with my head.

When I look at myself in the mirror with an erection it looks good on my frame, but porn has ruined me. I’m not nearly as big as those guys. I don’t even want to talk to girls anymore or pursue what could be a sexual relationship with this other girl.

I’m willing to give PE a shot and take it seriously but I just want to know if some of this is in my head. And assuming what I’ve read on this forum is true, most of you guys started out bigger than me.

Could this be body dysmorphic disorder? Is it because I haven’t gotten laid in a while? Anybody else have issues like this?

I respect you guys and any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

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My current fiance only dates black guys. She had an ex who she claims was 9” (I think more like 7.5-8) but she loves sex with me and says it’s the best she’s had. I know this is because feelings are attached, but my point is that you can have great sex between being average size and having a connection. I’m only 6x4.8. I would suggest that you look into getting good at the motions because when you can point relentlessly for an hour it doesn’t really matter how big you are (to an extent). If you can make her sore, you win.

It is mostly in your mind. It is in the mind of many people though.

Women are elastic. They don’t remain stretched their whole life because had sex with somebody with a huge penis. Neither sensitivity is affected. If a girl is attracted by you, she will have more pleasure with you than with another man with a bigger penis.

Your size is fine.

Are you black yourself? I was guessing from your username..
I can last a LONG time and I do make girls sore if that counts for anything.
But I wonder, is it really a minority of girls who prefer 8+ dicks or is that a politically correct stance?
I know girls easily add 1” in length when looking at a penis so that makes me feel a little better. But I’ve never had sex with someone I actually care about! If I do have sex with this girl and she’s disappointed it could ruin EVERYTHING because I have feelings for her.

I am black. So it sucks even worse having an ~average sized penis. It fucked me up mentally as well. I’m still going through with it, but what I advised is how I compensate for my lack of size. I try to put it in this perspective. If you could have sex with one really hot girl twice per week, or a decent looking girl every day, which would you choose? Sure, it might be fun to tell the guys about the hot girl but when it comes down to it, you want something consistent that you can enjoy. And feelings obviously add to it. So be happy that you have a decent girth to work with, I wish I had that extra .3.

An average sized dick has no lack of size. It is called ‘average’ for a reason. :)

When she’s used to an 8 inch, there is a lack :/

There isn’t any lack. Having sex with a bigger penis doesn’t change the shape or size of the vagina, even if they fuck ten hours per day for twenty years. I think you could have a lack of understanding of how a vagina works; or probably just an irrational thought that can’t be fought with facts and logic. This would actually be body dysmorphia.

Ask any father how childbirth changed his wife’s walls. I see it like eating a really good filet mignon and then going back to a shitty little waffle house steak. It’s just not the same, although when you’re hungry, the shitty steak still tastes amazing.

Avg black, even I wouldn’t equate the having sex with a hot girl vs having sex with an average looking girl to having a big dick vs having a small one. I think girls look at it a little differently than that.

I have had sex with girls who have been with black guys and they say not all black guys are hung, if that makes you feel any better. My guess is they’re more growers than showers and that’s where the stereotype comes from. I could be wrong, just my 2 cents.

It gives me a lot of encouragement knowing your fiance loves you and is faithful to you even if you weren’t her biggest partner. I’m worried because most of the girls I go for aren’t necessarily the sharpest knives in the drawer and are pretty shallow black and white thinkers, so they are gonna look at my dick and either think “big” or “small”. Period.

I may have been with plenty of girls but I’m not a mind reader.

Do women allow for a middle ground ?

I almost forgot. This girl has also given birth twice at the age of 20.

Should that be a concern?

Sorry for the barrage of questions

if she gave birth at the age of twenty two times, then she has a lot more to worry about in terms of physical appearance for her vagina and her body than you do. You are more than average. I see nothing to worry about here. I’ve been with girls I know had horse hung exes and hook ups; they all preferred me to them and I’m just above average like you.

It all depends, man. If she has a naturally large vagina, it’s gonna be even bigger now. But if she’s naturally small, or even average, it shouldn’t be a big deal. And you said she does kegels, so that will help A LOT. It’s like saying oh this guy was getting fat so his fat pad is covering up some of his penis. But he jelqs. It all depends what they started at.

Yeah, only one of the kids survived. She’s had a rough life to be honest.
My fear is that she’ll turn it around on me if she’s loose saying I have a little dick.

Fear is debilitating only if allowed to be. Sometimes you just need to act. A woman told me she had sex with a guy with a pinkie finger-sized dick, but she came. She said she came because when in the missionary position his fat pad rubbed on her clit.

The motion must be in the ocean.