Convincing the wife

Hi guys, a little help needed here please. This is very new to me but I have had a good look around the website. I am below average (5.5 EL & 4.75 EG). First of all you should probably know that although I am small in length it doesn’t bother me that much, it is girth that I am looking to improve. The thing is I have tried to discuss my size with my wife who just does the usual it’s fine, it is not small routine so as not to hurt my feelings. I have discussed surgery with her a few times over the years and she was not happy about it, led to big arguments. I want to give this a go and I have read the newbie routine. The thing is for me to have any chance selling it to her it has to take as little time as possible per day. I know it takes a lot of time investment but I think that if I can prove it works then going forward the time thing won’t be such an issue. So, if it is girth I want do I need to do the stretches or do I just do the hot wraps and the jelqs? Also how do you sell it to a sceptical wife who refuses to admit to you that you have a small cock?? I hope this all makes sense, I am on my phone so apologies in advance for any typos.

A good idea is. To buy a. Vibrator a bit bigger than. Your size and then you will see if she have orgasm diferent than usual.

Wait a minute…… Are you asking your wife if you can touch yourself to PE? Am I understanding you right?

A few things;

So you’re average in size and length. Albeit on the lower end of the scale, but not “small”. I say this knowingly because I am exactly the same statistics and trust me, I’ve read every survey going. But we both ended up on a penis enlargent website so we both know that a little more wouldn’t hurt.

The difference is between me and you. Is that I didn’t start this size, I was smaller and have only recently in the last week measured at your starting statistics. This works mate. It’s slow. You have to be extremely careful. You need to rest and practice your technique over months not weeks making it part of your lifestyle. And you have to be consistent. Bui I just gained a quarter inch in girth in 4 months with a two week rest period in the middle, which would put your girth to 5MEG bringing you up to the higher end of average. Average being (4.7-5.1)

If you need proof I could send you photos, but not quite comfortable putting them on here yet. Once I reach my goal of 6 inches and 5 inches girth I will. Hoping by July.

My two cents, If you are PEing for her, then believe what she say and enjoy your life, but if you want a bigger unit for yourself then PE may be your answer. I mean there’s no point to prove to her that she needs a bigger dick when she is content with your current stats.

If you are only after girth, then you may skip the stretches, although they may help stretching the tunica for better girth expansion over time, and they don’t take that much time either.

On the other hand you may do the full routine as is and see where it will take you, as for some men, length gains comes first and fast, for others girth gains comes first and fast, a few reports gains in both departments too.

I want this for me and her. I know it’s a lifestyle thing which means she would have to put up with me doing it every day and that is where the convincing comes in. You would think that she would understand as she has had breast surgery but she is really funny about it. I can’t do it in secret due to the time involved. No point in doing it half heartily otherwise it won’t work. So this is the dilemma!

Um, no. Hell no. You’ are not PEing for her, she already likes your large cock. You’re PEing for you and only you, and she can’t take that away from you. What’s going to happen if you get divorced? Is she going to take half of your penis and leave you an implant? No. That’s your penis and you can do whatever you want with it with it.

Everyday? What part of the newbie routine did you read that? Look you can PE everyday if you want, but all you need is like 10-15 minutes three times a week. I don’t know where this 6 days a week thing came from, but it’s not necessary and may slow down gains.

It says 2 days on and one day off. Is that not right?

I am doing PE and I didn’t ask for permission from my partner. Why? It is like working out or reading a book. I don’t think you need to tell her. Just do it and see if she can see any difference later.
PS I don’t think you are small neither unless you feel small inside of her.

The thing is whenever I am home so is she so if I spend half an hour in the toilet every day she will notice. I know I am not tiny but it is not big enough in my own mind. Any other guys had to tell their partner? How did they take it?

When you add an extra 1/8 or a 1/4 trust me you will feel better. I am feeling lots better finally being in the average bracket. But I completely understand you wanting to feel or be bigger because I had the same drive. The extra weight to my cock is something money can’t buy. I love PE. And personally the stealth part of it is fun for me.

I wouldn’t tell her if I was you. My girlfriend wouldn’t understand since she already thinks I’m big. I just take a long shower every other day and do it while showering.
Though when my girl have noticed, I’ll just tell her like it is, that I wasn’t satisfied with my size and wanted to try to do something about it.

PS. I have told my girlfriend that I’ve found some exercises to help with my ED instead of Cialis that I’m going to try. DS.

Personally, I think it’s great that you want to share this with your partner. It is hard to know how to make specific recommendations for how to frame this for a woman I don’t know personally. ‘Different strokes for different folks,’ and all that.

Still, your brief introduction to the problem sounds like asking her is not the way to do it. And framing around “time” doesn’t sound that compelling to me, and I doubt it will to her either given that she is not kindly disposed to this sort of activity anyhow. Have you instead considered simply telling her that she has been completely clear with you about this, but that you are going to do it anyway? Then, be really clear to her that you could do it privately, but you want her support — doing this is just that important to you, and she is important to you too, and so you’re telling her even though its not something that apparently inspires her (but that if it works, she just might find it’s a fun thing). Ultimately though, she can be a good wife and supportive partner, or turn a small thing that is important to you and has very little impact on her day-to-day life into an issue.

The basic idea is thus to make the conversation emotionally compelling and to put the emotion-work burden on to her. Presumably she loves and supports you, so set her up to do that. The burden should not be on you, but framing in terms of “but I can do it in 30min or less!” does put it on you and gives control to her. If you set it up right, you should be able to confide in her and turn this conversation into one that brings you both closer together and ends with your dick in your OK grip.

A secondary thought: Does your wife kegel? You might consider discussion ‘sexual fitness’ more generally and the fact that there are things both of you can do to improve your sex life together. After all, you’re most interested in girth work and she can no doubt tighten up more quickly than you can expand. I was quite clever with my wife when we began doing PE and I pretended I would only do it if she would kegel (I was excited to see that she was going to support me but I played it cool). I got her some cute little weights (ami by je joue) to use and I think it turns her one when she works out while I’m doing PE. I’m white and she’s black so we’ve joked that we’re going to grow me a black dick and her an Asian vagina.

And why have the partner involved? Easy — mine has told me a few times that “you’re hitting new places and it fills really good,” and that’s more motivating than a ruler. I must confess that pulling on dick and thinking about it all the time, and being more positive about my little guy, has ratcheted up my sexual interest as well.

I wouldn’t bother with this sort of thing with a girlfriend — to much relational uncertainty.

What most of these guys said.

Me, I bought the book and told my wife I’m doing penis exercises. Recently I also told her I’m doing Yoga, meditation, going to the gym and eating better. I’m making improvements for MY-SELF. I make no excuses for improving myself.

Trying to be a better man needs no explanation in my book.

Oh, yea, the Kegel argument seems sound. All women are told to work on their pelvic floor. So, too should men.

I’m old enough that my prostate is starting to enlarge. My physician told me to do Kegel exercises. No shit. I’ve got to follow my doctor’s orders!