Critical impasse reached

Haha I certainly agree, Marinera. There’s much of rather do. PE certainly takes some discipline. You are right too- as TNTJockey has reiterated numerous times about the gains he made, and goals he passed.

Good to know- I may give it a go sometime. I feel like I can probably do a maintenance based routine and will still make slight gains just from that.

I feel like my ideal size is actually a bit of a range 7x5.5 to 8x6 - I am at the bottom of my ideal range which is more than satisfactory for my fiancé. If I were to ever get to 8x6, it would be for my own ego. I am inclined to take TNTJockey’s advice, and continue to train lightly with breaks till my fiancé asks me to stop. Whatever comes first- 8x6, or her asking me to refrain, I will be a satisfied PE customer.

Seriously I’d remove an inch or more in length or girth if it meant sex was no longer pleasurable to my wife. Sounds like you’re on the right path.

Coming from you, Titleist, that is a true insight. You are one of the more well endowed/gainful members on here, and for many, the bar is set by you guys.

What a great post; Definitely brain food for guys starting out and thinking about goals. I’ve been contemplating my own recently, and I’ve got the general Idea in my head: “I want a big fat cock”. That’s rooted in a lot of locker room insecurity, and is certainly has more to do with a desire to feel secure as a sexually dominant male (even if just in my own head, walking around in public) than it does with my ladies pleasure. Don’t get me wrong, I want her to enjoy my gains, but truth be told, this is for me, and to borrow a turn of phrase from women who get breast implants, ‘to make me feel more like I do on the inside’.

7”x7” (NBPEL) crossed my mind as a good goal, just because I like nice round numbers, though, with just the EQ added from doing PE, I hit 7” (BPEL) within a couple months, and it just doesn’t look that big to me. Go figure. So I think I’m just going to go hard for length until I hit 8” (BPEL) OR my lady complains that my length is too much. Whichever comes first I’m going to switch to straight girth exercises, and maybe some clamping and go till I hit my goal or it starts to interfere with my sex life.

Like I said though, I want a big FAT cock, I use a Bathmate as part of my PE routine and I love fucking her right after a pumping session. I get an extra .5” from swelling and looking down when I’m fucking her from behind is incredible, I can see how her pussy is just starting to streeeetch around my cock and take on a new shape rather than being a slit I can just slip in to. Damn, just thinking about it makes me crazy. Ya know?

I guess what I’m saying is, yes this is for me, but if I ever reach a point where PE starts to threaten my relationship I’m definitely going to reevaluate, and maybe find a different hobby.

What’s the point of any of this if your partner doesn’t enjoy the results as much as you do.

I didn’t say she didn’t enjoy it as much as me, quite the opposite. I was more saying that for myself, and I suspect others, that her pleasure is less of a factor than my own personal motives. For example there is a pair of leather pants that my lady thinks I look great in, but I feel terribly self conscious about wearing because I don’t like the way my package looks in them. I can change that, so that’s part of why I PE.

i totally got you. No worries. Just keep in mind though that while your perception of your package in your leather pants may not be completely ideal for you, ultimately your significant other has to deal with the “ram”ifications of whatever gains you make. I caution you to avoid going overboard. Consider your partner’s feedback, and put her pleasure at the forefront of your motivations. You will find it far more fulfilling and confidence building than being motivated entirely by arbitrary measurements that other PE’ers deem as ideal or impressive. TNTJockey will have much to say about this.

On days you have to wear those pants make sure youve pumped. Post pumped flaccid can last four hours or so.

‘Sall good, man.

I’ve been lurking long enough to know that there are guys that come in and act like they are going to PE until they can win a jousting match with Jonah Falcon. I’m definitely not that guy, I Just want to feel comfortable in my own skin, and maybe just maybe insight a little bit of jealousy in the locker room, and awe at a swingers party.

I’ve found in life that amazing things become possible when you strike the appropriate balance of intrinsic and extrinsic motivators. I thought about PE for a long time, and as much as I said I wanted it I never really got a solid chain of days going and I usually just ended up jerking off. Getting serious about PE has only become possible for me as a recent development and it’s a direct result of adopting healthier attitudes towards myself and others.

I know the statistics, and I know that in the real world, I’m already bigger than 3/4 of the guys out there. The difference now is, I’ve adopted an attitude of “What a great place to start from, I could really have an amazing tool if I worked for it” rather than sitting on my laurels because “it’s good enough”.

Not trying to brow beat or tirade, just thought a more thorough explanation of the mental maths that got me here was in order.

Great answer. I appreciate what you said about intrinsic and extrinsic motivators. Life truly is about balance. Anything can become dangerous when the centre of motivation shifts too far one way or another. Your mental maths add up to exactly where I was and really still am with the whole thing.