For the married guys

I don’t think I’m gonna have a choice.Otherwise she will think I’m masturbating or something else when I’m “missing” for a half hour + and have a beat up,tired dick

Good point. I try to do it late at night when she is asleep. I hope it works.

Yes such thoughts and attitudes to a long term or married relationship surprise me. They use to shock me when I first joined, oh Welcome to Thunders Place. You will find a lot of information on here. Some good and bad. Read peoples threads or posts to get a clue to relationships and attitudes before taking advice.

You can put me in the group of telling their wife. Been together 22+ years and can’t imagine being married to someone and not telling them. She’s very supportive and helps.

Question that always pops into my head is why is the OP asking this question? How’s your relationship with wifey and why don’t you want to tell her?

Same for you two. How’s your relationship with wifey and why don’t you want to tell her? You guys seem “similar” to myself so just curios and maybe I can gain some insight.

You’re a therapist and wouldn’t dare sit down and explain this to your wife. Guess even now some posts still shock me. :(

I understand everyone’s relationship is different. For me, I can’t see being married and not being open about everything. Marriage should make life easier and happier in IMHO, if not then it ain’t worth being married. No lies.

And Cock Kent, the most frustrating thing about this is that even if she found out she would be angry that I didn`t trust her enough to tell her, even though it would bother her immensely.

As a therapist I encourage honesty in a balance in relationships.

Here is a short list of things I don`t tell my wife and wouldn`t encourage her to talk about in response.

Other sexual encounters.

Another man`s dick.

Feminism.

Men being better at anything. (Ha ha)

My dating life before we met, or her`s.

PE, for the reasons I indicated above.

There is always something that will terrify your partner in frank discussions. Some of those things can lie dormant for years before manifesting themselves in behaviours that just “emerge” in our partners.

Not all relationships can survive brutal 100% honesty, though there are some here that want to try this approach as a way of building strength in the relationship, which is admirable.

My comment here is to warn those thinking about revealing their covert PE hopeful that their partner will understand that this isn`t always the case, and it could seriously damage your life.

Women own our dicks, and we get tremendous benefit from this as we all know, but if she finds out you are exercising control of her dick, there could be a problem, so really ask yourself if your partner is going to react well before you “pop” the info.

I am not a therapist, I can say with absolute certainty that men do see the strengths in women as a potential threat, and will use whatever perceived weakness as an advantage at some point.

I’m not married but I do live with my girlfriend and I told her about it. At first she thought it was kinda weird and that I really didn’t need it but now she’s just kinda going with the flow and letting me do whatever I feel I need to do. In her opinion my size is just fine but it’s for me, not for her.
I have no idea what kind of relationship you have with your wife which makes it kinda hard what to do but from my own experience it’s best to just go all out, tell her everything. If she loves you she should be supportive about it, otherwise there’s something wrong in my opinion.
A life partner is supposed to increase life quality, not push it back.

Good luck on whatever you decide to do.

You couldn’t pay me enough to tell my wife.

Benefits of stealth PE:
#1 She don’t know your insecurities about your penis
#2 She won’t take blame for your actions, as in blaming her vagina not your penis
#3 If she comments on size its to stroke your ego because she knows your trying to increase size.

I started around 5.8. I remember 6.5 is when I noticed a difference for myself and her. It was the point that if I had 100% EQ I could bottom out in most positions. It was also at that point I could give her internal orgasms. Over 10+ years of marriage I would have to say all orgasms during sex came from clitoris stimulation from the position. Maybe a few dozen times it was internal. At 6.5 and after I would have to say 95% of them are internal.

The Cons of not telling my spouse is its hard to do PE now since her schedule has changed. So my routine changes to keep it stealth. Also as I gradually passed the 6.5 mark certain positions can hurt if I cram it all in. But there are times she wants it all in and gets off like you wouldn’t believe. So its nice to have “some” to hold back if I need to.

But she has gotten down on her age “31”. I know we are still young. But she has blamed me bottoming out due to age, she has mentioned she read a cosmo article that says the insides of the vagina ” possibly uterus above”, can’t remember which can drop down some as you age. So she is blaming my new found length on this happening to her because she is “old”.

So it has its pros and cons, weigh your options and proceed with caution either way!

We will be celebrating our 40th anniversary later this year and there is very little I do not share with my wife, However, when I advised her I was pumping my cock, her comment was: “Careful, you are going to hurt yourself”. I assume she didn’t want me to hurt her cock. Since that was her response to pumping, I can only imagine her reaction if I told her about my extending and hanging. I don’ feel I am lying to her, just holding back until the time is right to tell her, like when I can demonstrate an additional 1 inch increase in length so she can see the benefit derived from the risk.

In therapy, there is no pre-set way in which relationships work.

Some relationships thrive where others where others would collapse from the strain.

To say that one must tell, or that one mustn`t tell is wrong.

What is correct is to know what your partner would be able to deal with and proceed accordingly.

For me I have to proceed with stealth as my wife would be terribly confused and hurt and put the issue squarely back on herself.

For others it could be a bonding process where the wife could help.

My wife also wouldn`t like me smoking dope or hanging out with strippers or many other things that I know would hurt her, though I have done those things in the past and thought, at the time, that I was The Man.

By the way, strippers can really help you through a difficult divorce, as long as you don`t pay-to-play, bless their little cotton panties.

I thought my wife would change after she had our 2 kids too, but for some reason I cant go balls deeps anymore. She can take more girth for sure now, but I can feel my dick bottoming out in her, which never happened before our kids. As you can see my starting length isn’t much, so she got really shallow, or something moved around in there when she gave birth. Either way, I cant go deep anymore without it being uncomfortable for her.

It`s all about confidence and what you want to do.

Well since I have to be secretive about this does anyone know how to post pics from a cell phone since that’s where I post from? Id like to get others point of view.

I was up front about it and asked her if she had a problem with it, because I didn’t want to cause a situation where sex would hurt her. If your relationship is strong, I don’t see what bad could come of it. It’s not like she’s going to get mad because you want her to feel good during sex. Having to hide it and keep it a secret is too much of a pain in the ass in my book.

This comes up a lot, and I always reply the same. But one more time for the new guys. I’ve never gotten this whole Stealth PE thing.

I say tell her. It will double the time you will have for PE. Don’t just tell her, but let her get involved. PE Partners are terrific. Learn how to incorporate sex play into your routines. Having a woman play with your balls while you pump is very exciting for both of you. While helping you keep erect in the tube, she is getting off on how big you are making it. Clamp off your best engorgement and fuck her with your clamped dick doggy style. I assure you, she will get excited about this little ritual and even look forward to it.

Every woman I am involved with knows about PE. Several of them are even members here. None of these ladies could ever use any of this info against me, because I’m no more embarrassed by PE than I would be if someone knew I worked out at the gym.

Only finish the Newbie Routine before messing with clamps and pumps.

Girtha,is it ok to fuck while clamped?I thought I read that it’s dangerous,or is finishing while clamped the real problem?I’m not ready for clamping yet,but just wondering.