Certainly I prefer nice round, plum breasts on a woman, and I don’t even care if they are fake if they look good. Its not the deciding factor in choosing to be with someone, but it is a definite influence.
There are countless examples of women that are out of control with cosmetic surgery. Even when they attract public ridicule they cannot stop. It’s hard to say where the desire for basic self-improvement ends and deep-rooted psychological problems begin.
I once dated a beautiful Russian woman that I thought was physically perfect. Breasts on the slightly small side, maybe a large B cup or small C cup, but nice. Strangely, she would never allow me to touch them. She had perfect lips. Last time I saw her after a break in the friendship, she had undergone collagen treatments on her lips. Her mother told me she had recently been in a car accident, and when I saw her I thought she was still swollen from injuries, but those were her new lips. I thought it completely destroyed the aesthetic balance of her face. It made me cringe to look at her. She thought it was great and said she looked more beautiful. Years later I ran into a boyfriend of hers and he told me she had gotten a boob job and moved to Vegas. She is around 54 now and I can only imagine she must look like the bride of Frankenstein at this point. Sad.
Of course men are not supposed to be vain. Even if we are doing it to please a woman, there are limits to how much is necessary. Everyone’s opinion is different, of course.
I remember seeing a famous supermodel/actress on a talk show talking about this subject. She said all the obsession with exercise and weights men do is completely unnecessary. Then she turned to the cameras and the audience and said, “Guys, you can stop now. Its ok. We like you just the way you are.”
I mentioned this incident before on another thread. I worked on a porn film one time which starred Rocco Siffredi over 20 years ago. At that time he had a well balanced physique - broad chest, well defined torso, muscular legs. I thought he was a prime example of the typical woman’s dream stud. During a break he walked up to me and asked me if I thought he should get calf implants. I was stunned for a moment because the question seemed absurd, not to mention why he was interested in my opinion at all - I was just a guy behind the camera. I said I did not think so, and I think he said he was also considering getting pectoral implants as well. It all sounded ridiculous to me, but this is the obsession with perfection people struggle with.
Hard to determine who should have the final word on how much is enough. If we are only trying to please ourselves, they I guess we do, but that is a slippery slope. If we are doing it to please someone else, then we are obligated to abide by their judgment. In either case, there is an indefinite but narrow line between personal confidence and self-improvement, and insanity.
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