I believe attitude and what you tell you body is all important.
I like to watch a certain clip on a certain porn movie that I have because one of the male acters in the movie has the exact size dick I am after. I imagine that cock on the front of me when I am jelqing.
I don’t know if this is one of the reasons but I gained 1/2” in girth in 2 months. I do think it was part of the puzzle.
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