I’d venture to say at the extreme newbie stage, just doing it, and doing it regularly on a disciplined schedule is what’s most important. Give every part of you a chance to get used to something very new.
Mighty Sparrow: if you’re jelqing every night (or whatever) in a couple of weeks, you’ll start to focus on how your penis responds to differences in your jelqs, and you’ll magically start to have your own opinions on just how to jelq. Which is as it should be, it’s your penis, you’re the only one who truly knows (eventually) how it responds. Mine really seems to respond very well to lower erection levels, but everybody is different.
Anthony: are you doing a warm up first? It always seemed to help me stay loose and stretchy, and maybe served as an announcement to my brain, “hey, we’re doing something different here… this ain’t jacking-off”. 5 minutes under a steamy rice-sock, and everything seems loose and ready to go. In addition, I’d say you need time. Your natural erection reaction to simply touching your penis will eventually go away once “it” gets used to being touched for non-sexual purposes. Suffer through it for now, it’ll go away. And by suffer through it, I mean, take the time to wait for the erections to subside, don’t try forcing yourself to jelq if you’re too erect, and don’t force the stretches if you’re erect at all. This is all very new to your body, it’s natural to have to take a bit to get used to it.
cool-nutz: not to be harsh, but if all you can manage is 1 to 2 times per week, save your time and learn to play the stock market or something. :)
"It's ALL in your head. You just have no idea how big your head is." - Lon Milo DuQuette "The mind's role in P.E. is more important than the hand that touches the penis." - Mr. Nine Just ignore the crazy old man in his tinfoil-lined pyramid hat, smelling of EVO and muttering Ohhmmm my penis growwwws. He's not always to be taken literally.